I am 21 years old. I began masturbating at a very young age. I want to say 5 years old, but I’m not sure. I was still very young. The way I masturbated was very odd. I don’t know how I came up with this, I really don’t remember. But the way I did it was with a flaccid penis, and I would lie on my stomach. From there I would put the tip of my penis on to the part of my hand where my middle finger meets the hand, and I would hump and eventually I’d finish. I’ve actually heard people doing it this way, oddly enough. But I’ve done it since then and it’s become a problem. It’s a problem because I’ve never done it the normal way before. I get hard when I’m aroused the normal way, like everyone else, but I hardly get any pleasure when I try to masturbate with a regular hard erection. There’s not much good feeling from doing that at all, so therefore I’ve never finished that way.And now I’ve become worried. I was always worried because I was afraid as a virgin that when I finally had sex I wouldn’t be able to enjoy it as much and more importantly, not even finish. So I finally hooked up with a girl recently and lo and behold, I couldn’t finish it or even feel much. Granted, I had a condom on, but it was hardly as enjoyable as I expected. Obviously I didn’t finish. I actually faked an orgasm at one point because I was going too long. One obvious thing that certainly won’t hurt me is to stop masturbating like that already. I tried not masturbating for 2 weeks to let it built up and see if that would help. I had sex after that, but it didn't help. I just came here to see if anyone knows what I’m talking about and/or if they have any possible suggestions for me to solve this problem. I'm pretty worried and i hope i haven't done some type of permanent damage or something.
Is there any hope for my problem?
Relax and don't worry. Sex and masturbation, while related, are totally different. It's not unsual for your first few attempts at sex to be less than satisfying. One of the problems is that you have "trained" your penis how to react to the stimulas that you provide, which is very different from what she provides.Fortunately, your penis adjusts fairly easily. Just lay off the masturbation and you'll probably find things changing to your liking shortly.While using a condom is sensible, many guys feel that it reduces sensations. But it's still the wise thing to do.