it's been way too long i didn't socialize nor sports. Therefore leading to low self-esteem and confidence. Today i went to play basketball with my friend and the kids they called me ponce (effeminate/unmanly). I guess it's maybe because of my self esteem , i perhaps walk/run with no confidence that give other people a different kind of view. How to fix this ?
How to fix this?
It's a vicious cycle, isn't it? Bad comments from other people give you low self-esteem; low self-esteem makes you more sensitive and vulnerable to bad comments, and often bullies sense this and take advantage of it.Perhaps the thing to do is not to do what you think is expected of you, but to go to places and do things you like and hang with people who will give you support and confidence. Then when you have more confidence, what other people say will matter to you less.
Being goal oriented has always helped me take focus off of what other thinks and focus on what I'd like to become.
When you focus on what others think about you, you give the power to someone else. Today you'll feel great because someone thought highly of you. Tomorrow you'll feel like shit because someone disliked you. That vicious cycle builds anxiety and fear.
Focus on what you'd like to accomplish and ask yourself whether what you're feeling/thinking/doing is helping you reach that goal. It'll help you zone out what negative of malicious people do or say.