Hey guys! I used to post at this board sometimes a long time ago, but I forgot the password to my old account, and the e-mail I forgot I registered with so I had to sign up for a new name.A few months ago, I met this guy from one of my jobs. We definitely didn't start talking more until after I left the company. I knew not to expect anything from him because he's got a full schedule, including two of his own kids to take care of. Not to mention he lives 40-45 minutes away and I have no car so he'd have to be the one to drive to see me.I'm not sure if he's still with the children's mother, but I don't think so. I'm not bothered that he's 6 1/2 years younger than me. He's very put together for someone at that age, and he takes care of his children and still goes to college on top of working a full time schedule. That's what attracted me to him, that he isn't a slacker bum like my ex. He wants something out of life.I told myself I would never, ever, ever date someone with children, mainly because I don't want to be put into that awkward situation, but I often find myself thinking of this guy, and how I would be great for him if he wasn't so afraid to give it a shot. He's already made more efforts to keep in touch with me than most of my interests, although it is once in a BLUE moon.Another thing about him, he doesn't know that I know he's also into guys. I sort of figured it out on my own, too, but a mutual friend confirmed that he's also bi and maybe he's afraid to tell me that, I don't know. I'm guessing that's why he's been sort of stand-offish with me, not even about the kids. Every time he'd say he'd come over after work and see me to hang out, he never does, and when he says he is going to come over, he wants to bring another guy, which made me think what's up with him...he doesn't come over, though at all. I was shocked when he wanted me to visit him at work one day on break, I borrowed a friend's car.I put him in the back of my mind and forgot about him because the last we talked months ago, we got into a fight, but we did make up, and eventually I got busy with my own things and haven't kept in contact with really anyone. Last week, he called me out of the blue and we met up for 15 minutes. When we would text each other, we'd always sext, but when he wanted to see me in person, he acted like we never talked about hooking up at all and were just platonic friends joking around.I don't know what he wants from me. In person, he never makes a move, we just talk, which I like. I think if he didn't care about me at all, he would have just had his way with me and call it a day. What I don't understand is why would someone show up out of the blue after we haven't talked in ages, not ask for sex or anything from me but talk, and then not talk to me again? He hasn't responded to me in a week and this is just breaking me so much. I know all I can do for now is forget about him again, hoping he'll come back on his own again.Has anyone else been in this situation before? Sorry for the long post I'm just a mess over him. I'd re-consider things I never thought I would do just for him. I don't want someone who already has kids as I don't think I could handle it, but with him, I would work something out if he wanted to.
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It sounds like he is afraid of getting too committed to a full relationship, which is not a good sign.
Thanks, Ineligible. I suppose that's what it is. It sucks because it's great just sitting and talking with him about anything. I knew that nothing would probably come of him since he already has two kids, but since he made the most efforts to see me than other people, I thought he'd be reminded of how much he likes to talk to me when he saw me in person. I don't know if he doesn't want to see me anymore because he knows nothing will happen with either of us so he doesn't want to even be friends.