I have a problem and need a serious answer...

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Okay, I would really like a serious anwser here (No hornballs or perverts please) Okay, just the other day, my girlfriend was at my house after school (17 here folks) and we got into a little talk about boobs, of course. I didn't bring up the subject, she did. She said something like, "Hey D.J., you know... we've been dating for about four-and-a-half months now, and I think it is okay for... well... you can play with my boobs now." I don't know what to do. We have already made a promise not to have sex till marriage. Would it make me a pervert to play with my girlfriends boobs? Is it right in doing so? What will become of our relatioship... like can this either help or hurt it? Any comments would help. ~D.J.~

well it obviously does NOT make you a pervert playing with boobs... if that's perverted what are we... the other people... who do have sex???? and if you do start playing with her boobs... do u really think you'r gonna be able to hold it till marrige? I most deff. wouldn't not!

I had never had a girlfriend before her and had never been kissed. And on the marriage part... I don't believe in having pre-marital sex, and I don't mind waiting till marriage anyway.

The biggest difficulty I can see here is if you want to hold off until marriage and your girlfriend doesn't really want to. You're going to have to talk about this if you haven't already. It is certainly possible to go a certain distance and no farther, but you need to be clear where the boundary line is.

My opinion is you should probably kiss her before you get to play with her breast. I have a friend who is a virgin and is waiting until marriage. Him and his girlfriend play around well beyond boob play, yet they don't have sex.

Oh, we both had the talk about sex, and she is hanging on to mariage too. And yes, we have kissed before, I am just one of those kind of guys that doesn't know what to do sometimes. I don't wanna do something wrong and it hurt our relationship. Like, I didn't even bring up the conversation about breasts. It took me three months to touch her butt...

aww just go for it! she'll like it and u'll like it and it will be fun! just be gentle dont be so shy!!

definately do it man. It's sounding to me like y'all both really like each other & have the same beliefs. Touchy Touchy aint nothin bro . I know couples that do EVERYTHING but have sex - anal, oral, etc etc. They save the sex for marriage. So just touching & kissing definately dont make you a pervert. As a matter of fact I'd even imagine her DAD would like you hanging with her...

D.J. Cudos on waiting till marriage. Im 28 and proud to say im also waiting. My g/f now is 25 and also waiting. I can honestly say it's not easy cause after you date and fall in love and the months or years go by, you get more and more comftrable together and at times want to push for more. I personally think you should go with your gut. Guys like boobs. Boobs like guys, so it goes hand in hand he he he, punt intended. But seriuosly its though to say if it will stress your relationship and cause a break up. It may or it may not. If you are religious (I am) you should always seek god first and pray that you always strive to do good works in your life. Including in relationships. Be yourself and don't look to just please yourself, or just please her. Don't do anything because of pressure. If you do you will probably regret it. If your gf is looking to be with you for more then just a fling or to have you for more than a "relationship status" then she will respect if your want to put off the boob and fondeling till a more appropriate time. Even marriage. I know a couple of couples that have not gotten touchy feely till marriage. Good luck dude.