Hey everyone, I'm newI just recently stumbled onto this forum via a search engine because I was getting a bit concerned and wanted to learn a bit more.Anyhow, I'm 20 years old, just had my birthday last month and I had a few questions about the penis.First of all Im uncircumsized but I did not do any type of research on this or even really do anything that came along with it. I havent lived with my father in 10 years so I really dont remember how far back, in terms of him trying to "teach me" anything or what I did back then, but I have never pulled my foreskin back, or never been able to pull it back all the way for as long as I can remember.So lately I have been doing some research on it and realized that I should have been pulling it back from a long time ago. I read the archived post about stretching and so on, and I tried that the other day but I got worried when I saw this piece of skin attaching my foreskin to the head, very close to the hole that pee comes out of.I then started feeling sorta weird down there, as if it had been pulled too far or maybe just that it had been stretched.I kind of panicked a little bit and told my mom about it, and of course she doesnt really know anything since she doesnt have one, but she made an appointment for me to go see the doctor next week.Because of that piece of skin I assume that I can not pull my foreskin back without tearing that strip or skin or anything damaging to it. So my question to you all is, is this strip of skin normal and how is it possible that it will stretch back all the way down with the foreskin? Won't it tear or break with the stretching? It's very tightAm I overreacting by going to the doctor? Should I cancel the appointment or should I just go and see what they say and get a piece of mind? Any help with this would be appreciated, it's been on my mind alot lately and I was worried I would have to get circumsized or something to cut that strip of skin off.Thank you
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I'm new...questions
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It's called the frenulum. Keep on stretching daily especially when erect. The frenulum will also stretch with time.
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So it's fine and isn't going to tear or stop me from being able to pull it farther back? I tried the other day with warm water and I did make some progress but this was before I realized the frenulum there.Im wondering if I should still go see the doctor or not.
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no just go with what SDP said.
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Hey bud, I'm uncut too so I totally understand what you're dealing with. I'd suggest that you cancel the appointment and wait just a bit to see if you can work this out without seeing him/her...I suspect the first thing they'll say is for you to have a circumcision. You may want to do that, it would be your call. However, plenty of us have been able to work around this just fine. You won't tear the frenulum unless you are really agressive while stretching or masturbating. If you've read the archived threads then you've seen all the tips about how to stretch that foreskin. Main thing is to be consistent, best to work with it while taking hot/soaking baths or showers. Please feel free to stay in touch with us, ask more questions and get some support. You'll be fine and you'll be glad you found out about this, you're pleasure is in the head of your penis! Good luck and keep in touch!
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I added a pic of the frenulum with the foreskin retracted. Take a look at it in the Male Anatomy thread up above. Although this frenulum seems slightly tight, it should be OK.
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Thanks guys, I did read through that archived post before deciding to register here, that's how I stumbled onto the board.At first I was thinking they might suggest circumsizion if I went to the doctor, but then reading the frenulum posts made me think they would just tell me to stretch it and so on until it can go down.Im still unsure about going to see the doctor. A part of me thinks it might be a good idea because they are professional and know what's best, but a part of me has been reassured by your posts and thinking I can try it on my own.My appointment is next Friday, so I dont think that is enough time to be able to stretch it all the way down? I have been trying every day to stretch it further, when flaccid I make progress and I try when Im hard but it doesn't really go anywhere (but I guess that's because it has never been done before)Im still unsure about going to see the doctor. Im afraid they will scold me for not pulling back for all these years, but truthfully I was never really aware it was a necessity. I feel stupid about it
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sdp, I checked out the pic thanks for posting.Yes I assume that's the frenulum, what I'm seeing on my cock but judging by the pic you posted I can't really tell where the fren. is attatched to. Mine is attatched right near the pee hole and connects to the foreskin. On that pic you posted I see the fren. beginning almost below the head whereas mine is like attatched right on the head at the hole.Arrrg
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DO NOT FEEL STUPID! No one ever told you about this so how would you have known? And believe me, you're not the only one that has ever come here with this issue. No, it probably won't be stretched by next Friday. Keep the appointment if you'd like but I don't really think its time to see a doc over this just yet. I bet if you work with it some you'll see some progress and things will be fine. Let us know how we can help.
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Many doctors are ignorant about forskins since they themselves are probably circumcised (given that a majority in the US are circumcised), so don't expect any revelation from them. You say the frenulum is high and attched very near the urethra. I don't know, maybe it is a bit too high and you might have trouble. But you'll never know until you give stretching a fair shot. An it may take a few months at that. In the end, if is still a major problem, the frenulum can be snipped without having a circumcision. But give it a chance.
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Hey guys,Today I was just able to roll the foreskin all the way down to where I could see the whole head! (it was flaccid, not hard)It actually gave me a weird feeling, I dont want to say it hurt, but it felt a bit weird down there, where the skin was below the head.Is that the farthest it should go? I didnt want to take it any further because I read that it could get stuck and u can't get it back up? Is that true?I didnt see any of that white "smegma" stuff you all were talking about...unless I dont really know what to look for, but I think it would be there for a long time if I never pulled back before.Maybe I was supposed to pull back farther? But like I said Im afraid of getting it stuck under the head or it wont come back up. Will this happen?When taking a shower, am I supposed to wash the head, and what else? How can u wash the foreskin if it's rolled underneath? Wow that was such a weird feeling...lol finally the mystery has been uncovered. (pun intended? lol)Im just worried about the foreskin getting stuck there under the head, like if I take my hands off of it will it roll back up or stay down there, or what?That's my concern right nowThanks guys
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Also, when you pee how far back are you supposed to pull back the skin?I can pull the skin below the head when flaccid but when its hard I still cant really open the skin up very much. Are you supposed to pull the skin back and then get an erection with the skin already back?and Im still wondering if the skin is gonna get stuck if I keep it below the head for any period of time. I mean what is the proper way to pull it back up?
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No... erection first and then retract. The size of the head forces the opening to stretch out as you pull back. If it were to get stuck with an erection.. you squeeze the head firmlyy to push the blood out and then quickly pull/roll it back up over the head.As far as urination goes, you can retract as far as you like.
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Don't worry about the weird feeling - you're just not used to it. With time, you'll find it extremely pleasurable to pull your foreskin back and forth over the head. The head will likely be extremely sensitive at first - it will take time to get used to that too. As for the smegma, I'm surprised you didn't find any considering you've never pulled your foreskin back before, but consider yourself lucky - its one less thing to be concerned about washing off. Here's what smegma looks like, btw: smegma In general, as long as you can pull the foreskin back enough to fully expose the head while erect, you're fine. You can pull it back further than that, but its not necessary, although it can make cleaning under the foreskin and behind the ridge of the head easier if its pulled back further.
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Thanks againSo when you pee you dont have to pull it back at all?I don't really understand though...when you have an erection, isn't the skin supposed to be "stuck" and in place behind the head?Well yea, I mean I didnt really see any of that smegma stuff which I find weird too. There is some white stuff from time to time on the foreskin but I always thought that was just some of the tissue paper I was using, but it could have been the smegma.No, when I pulled the skin back I was flaccid and it did kinda smell but I didnt see any of that white stuff.I am not able to retract very much with an erection, though. I can open it up a little bit but that's about it. Will this come in time, or is there something I'm not doing right? Flaccid I can pull it all the way back right now but when I'm hard still little to no progress.
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In reply to:So when you pee you dont have to pull it back at all?This is up to you and what you prefer. Some guys like to pull their skin back before they pee so that drops of pee don't get under the foreskin, and they can aim better. However, some guys find that it sprays all over the place if they pee with their skin pulled back, so they pee with it forward. If drops of pee get under the foreskin, there's no problem, however it may cause it to get a bit smelly under the skin from the dried urine. In reply to:I don't really understand though...when you have an erection, isn't the skin supposed to be "stuck" and in place behind the head?No, the foreskin should never be "stuck". You should be able to pull the foreskin back and forth over the head easily and without any discomfort, while fully erect. Now, some guys have longer foreskins than others. Guys with short foreskins may find that their foreskin retracts behind the head automatically as they get erect. Guys with longer foreskins, the foreskin probably won't retract by itself when erect, but can be manually pulled back with their hand if they want to. When masturbating, most uncut guys like to slide their foreskin back and forth over the head - the process of pulling the foreskin back over the head while erect and then pushing it back over the head again is said to be very pleasurable, especially as the foreskin glides over the ridge of the head (corona). During sex, the natural action of the foreskin would be the foreskin retracts on the inward thrusts into the vagina, exposing the head when all the way in, and the foreskin pulls back over the head on the outward thrusts. Again, this gliding action should provide immense pleasure. In reply to:Well yea, I mean I didnt really see any of that smegma stuff which I find weird too. There's nothing weird about it. Some guys hardly produce any smegma for some reason, while others produce tons of it. I think a lot of uncut guys would be happy to be like you and not have any to deal with cleaning off. In reply to:No, when I pulled the skin back I was flaccid and it did kinda smell but I didnt see any of that white stuff.That smell is normal, especially given how long its been since you pulled your foreskin back, and its never been washed under there before. But you should pull it back like that everyday while in the shower, and give it a quick wash and rinse with water to keep the smell from being offensive. When girls pull your foreskin back, they don't want it to smell bad. Washing it daily under there will insure that it won't. In reply to:I am not able to retract very much with an erection, though. I can open it up a little bit but that's about it. Will this come in time, or is there something I'm not doing right? Flaccid I can pull it all the way back right now but when I'm hard still little to no progress. Well, it sounds like your foreskin opening is a bit tight, which is common for guys who haven't retracted their foreskin before. Actually, a lot of guys are much tighter than you are - at least you can pull your foreskin back when soft - some guys can't even do that. You need to work on stretching your foreskin more to make it more elastic and flexible so it can retract easily while erect. Considering you're only having problems while erect, you should try pulling your foreskin back while erect. So get erect, then pull your foreskin back as far as you can, stopping when you get a bit of pain. If it doesn't hurt, then keep pulling it back. Don't worry about it getting stuck behind the head. If it does (not likely), then all you do is squeeze the head firmly with your fingers to push the blood out of it and make it smaller, then with your other hand push your foreskin back over the ridge. If you keep doing these stretching exercises several times a day, everyday, you will get your foreskin to retract easily in a few weeks to a month. Just be patient - it can take a bit of time to accomplish sometimes.
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Thanks againI spoke with lance about this, but even when Im soft and I pull it all the way back, it gets very uncomfortable, almost like its constricting and cutting off air or something. Im not sure if that's exactly what is happening. But its almost as if the bottom of the head starts to turn a blue-ish/purple-ish colour and I can't leave the skin around there for too long.
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Are you stretching it when erect? if you are pulling back when flaccid, you are doing nothing for the stretching and you'll never get anywhere.
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Yea, Im trying it when erect alsoWill that stop it from hurting when flaccid and pulled back?
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What is it that's hurting exactly?