I went to my schools semiformal a couple of weeks ago with a guy who asked me. I thought we were going as friends, but he kissed me. I went along with it, but had no idea what to do, because i wasnt allowed to date until i turned 16, and this was my first real date. What is our relationship now? He has moved to sit with me at lunch and stuff, but does that mean we are going out? I'm so confused... I've never done this before. Also, I have a friend that is a total slut. at he dance, she hooked up with a guy she just met, and a week later he was naked on her bed begging her to have sex with him, which she did. I'm not that kind of person, and so i don't want to hang out with her anymore. I've been avoiding her lately, but what can i do to break up our friendship? Thanks !
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I kissed for the first time! help!
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your relationship with this other guy is probably more than friends now. but the only people who can really work that out is you two. you will have to talk to him about it. if you're open enough to kiss him, surely you two can talk? In reply to: I'm not that kind of person, and so i don't want to hang out with her anymore. im not my friends either, doesnt mean i cant hang around with them :Peveryone is differentif you genuinely dont like her, than you're going to have to tell her. you can't just ignore her forever...
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Just because your friend had/has sex with a guy/s, doesn't mean you have to dislike her. Its her own thing, if she likes to have sex, let her. You don't have to. Just don't throw away your relationship over it. That seems a bit extreme.
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and just because she has sex with a guy doens't make her a slut.
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and just because she has sex with a guy doens't make her a slut.
she did state that "the slut" only met him a week before...to me that seems a bit slutty...
dont break up the friendship over her being a slut though... do u have ne controll in what she does in the bedroom? no...and really does it change your realtionship with her what she does by her self with guys...not really...but still...if u just dont want to even be her aquaintance...the only thing to do is tell her
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nah, she's no slut, and she shouldn't not talk to her because she thinks she's slutty. and that's a complete double standard, girl has sex with multiple partners, regardless length of time the knew each other = slut; guy has sex with multiple partners regardless of time = playa, which is generally a good thing.
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well it looks like you are started down the path of whore. good job.
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No she isn't. Did you even read it?
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Ok so she had sex with a guy - does that make her a bad friend? Did it hurt you in any way? You may not agree with everything she does, but it's not your job to. If she's a good friend, she's not worth ditching over something that has nothing to do with the friendship.
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I don't see why you wouldn't hangout with her because of this! I have plenty of friends that take Vicoden before school and toke up like its going out of style, but I am still friends with them and they don't pressure me or encourage me to be like them! There is not problem at all!
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Alot of people are saying that I should still be friends with her even though she is how she is, but what i didnt put in my original post is that she took me to a party with her, and told 3 of her guy friends that I would do whatever they wanted me to. They tried to rape me in the host's basement, and they would have suceeded if the parents hadnt come home early. I was really mad at her for that, because she knows how I am about sex. She said she wanted me to have "fun". Then, on Monday, at school, she let it slip that I had group sex with the guys at the party, and my rep is pretty much dirt. How can i be friends with a person like that? I have to go through tons of comments from guys and evil looks from girls, all because of her.
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You can't be friends with her. Drop her like a wet bag of cement. Stay away from the bitch forever. She is bad news. Seriously bad news.
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smack her and leave her.
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Thats just pathetic.. it's worse than that, how could a friend do that to another friend (or anyone) I really do agree with them saying you shouldn't be friends with her, she is bad news and she would bring you down, along with your reputation and at your age Trust Me that is important no matter what people say. What other people say about someone having sex with someone doesn't make them a slut, well actually it can do but for a few reasons. Some reasons being that it depends on the age and whether it was with a partner or just anyone.As for the relationship, it's best that you ask him where you stand and take it from there. Just because someone kissed you it doesn't mean that you are now going out. But then again, it means that you two are more than being just mates.
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dont smak her unless you can take her and you know you will win.but dont do it jsut tell her" hey look im notgoing to hang out with you after the things you have been saying and doing, well ya know have funn see you latter."just say u dont wana be frends but dont be all like UR A #(#^(#%(#%(#*%(# cuz thats just well trust me it will turn out bad.As for the guy Do you like him?are you atracted to him?if yes then dont "sit down and have a talk"just go along with it talk to himmore than u did before flirt a bit ect he shoul ask you in a week or more if you will go out with him.But you have to show a fair amount of intrest or he will think that you dont like him enuf for you guys to GO OUT.if you dont like him to much then just talk to him a bit and eventually say hey thanx for taking me out it was great in all i had fun.then just go back to normal.O and if you like the guy Wave when you see him (not a "hi im over here look look " wave but more of a " hey i know you see you around some time " wave )this way any one thats around him will tell him hey amn she like you.As for one your going out You dont have to have sex untill you feel like it " dont go any faster than a month!"in a month time you most likly will be very cumfy and mabey ready but mabey you dont want to yet its fine you have to know he isant there for just the sex anda good month or 2 should let you know.Its all in how you feel! YOU not him its YOUR body and if he trys to push it a bit just say " Hey baby when were ready you will know it and you wont forget it"dont freak or raise your voce or blatently say NO explain or it might make himfeel like a looser and he thinks your time is up.