Most people are no fun when they get older

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The older I get (later 20's) the more depressing life seems. Everyone my age is now getting married and having kids. Don't socialize much. Stay at home mostly and don't have much fun. I definetly want to have a family someday, but I don't want to be like that. I'd like to do stuff with my family a lot and still have a lot of friends.I have no problem hanging out with younger people, doing sports i like, and still having fun, but it just doesn't feel the same as when i was younger. I look at everyone my age and i feel like i'm breaking some rule or something. I should probably get married before it's too late, lol. Then again, i do live in Wisconsin. Maybe i should do some traveling. That might help.What is it like where you live? When you get older is everyone start to get real boring?I guess the point of this thread in the relationships forum is i don't want to get married and be boring. What are marriages like where you live? Does everyone stay at home all the time or do they still have a life?

lol u sound like ur trying to be my irresponsible uncle.hes gr8 hes 44 but he parties like a maniac.

There are a number of things that happen.1. Some people get sick of partying - it no longer appeals, and they'd rather live more quietly.2. Once you have a child, it takes a lot of time and energy. You can no longer go out much, because the baby needs feeding and you're dog-tired from the midnight feeds and the frequent crying day and night.3. When you have a family, your life is changed and you feel you have less in common with single people and more in common with other family people.But I would advise travelling, if you can. It's hard to do once you've settled down and started a family. You'll have more money later but less time and energy, so do it now. Travelling on the cheap, staying at the cheapest dives, is more interesting, anyway. Make sure you go to places where the culture is very different (and living costs are low).

well i'm not just talking about partying/drinking. I'm also into sports like surfing and judo. Hanging out with friends with similar interests is always fun. Or doing stuff with adventurous friends is also fun. Just looking for any way to have fun (not necessarily drinking).

ineligible gave a great answer. i am "old" but not boring. i'll probably get blasted for this but i attribute a lot of it to not having kids. at a pretty young age i knew i didn't want to give up my life for kids, and knew the type of person i was, which didn't include children. i got my tubes tied a few months before i got married. as my friends and siblings had children, yes, i thought they were boring. mostly because that's all they freaking talked about! on the other hand, if i'd had kids i'm sure i would have been the same way. you do fall instantly, madly in love with your child, and your whole perspective on life and what's important changes. your child is the center of your life instead of yourself.as far as the other parts of boring, i think the normal pressures of life get in the way too. jobs, finances, etc. you simply can't be as carefree and spur of the moment anymore. but there is hope! no matter what your life is, kids, no kids, job pressure, etc., once you hit your 40's (for me anyway) life is really, really great. i am happier and more confident now than i've ever been in my life. the older you get, the better choices you make (hopefully! if you learn what works and what doesn't!) and you end up so much smarter and so better able to handle what life throws your way.ack, rambling. so what was my point?

being "old" ( no offense ) , don`t you miss the times when you were in highschool or sumthin` like that ?

oh god no! just read the posts on these boards! i would never want to go through that torture again! :grin:

i know 40's sounds really freaking old to you, but trust me, it's not. i feel much the same way i did when i was 17, 18, 20, whatever. i'm just a helluvalot smarter and define my own life and live it just the way i want to.

some day, you'll be sitting at home, or out with friends, or fishing, or throwing your kid's 6th bday party, whatever. you'll be around 40, 45. and you'll think "goddamn, that maggie was right. this is the best time of my life."

123maggie, I just turned 52 so 40's sound young to me! You're right that "I wouldn't want to go through that hell again". Growing up IS tough, especially when no one is out there to teach you! Being older is Not boring. It's how you live your age and deal with it. I didn't marry, until I was 48. It took that long, to decide that I wanted ,to share the rest of my life, with someone else. Now, we travel the world and see exotic places and loads of friends everywhere! Advice to the younger persons: PLAN FOR YOUR FINANCIAL FUTURE!!!!! Most people don't. You can't depend on SS when you retire. What you do to yourself now will come back to haunt you later, trust me!

omg, great note about the financial! if i would have started putting just 5% of my paycheck into the 401k that i was eligible for when i was 20 years old, i would be retired by now! 10% would have been even better. when i finally learned, at age 30, what the difference was with time and interest, i nearly cried! something like 500k in my retirement account vs several million!

even if you don't qualify for a 401k, there are other avenues to sock money away for the future. start buying stock in established solid companies, even if it's only a few shares at a time. lots of info on the net, but do your research very carefully, because there are plenty of scams too.

I'm too tired to go out and party. lol Here's how my day starts.7:30 I get up and hope the baby doesn't wake up for at least 15 mins. Go and wake up the 9 y/o up and make sure he gets ready for school. Make his lunch. Half way through that I hear the baby and go and get her and try to get her play by herself until I finish with the lunch making. Get the lunch done. Change the babies diaper and clothes. It's now 8:00 so the boy goes off to school; I get to drink my coffee, try to keep the baby entertained. 8:30 I feed her baby food and then get that mess clean up. Around 9:30 I'll change her diaper and she'll go down for a nap. I'll get a shower finally get some breakfast and hopefully get some of the dishes done. It's now 10:00 and she's up again. That's pretty much how my day goes. I manage to maintain some sanity talking to you guys. And somehow still manage to have a sex life. If you get married, have kids and still have the energy to go and hang out more power to you. But personally whatever energy I have left I'd like to spend with my husband and kids.

WOW!!!! More power to you! That's damn tough. You have more guts and stamina than I could ever imagine! My respect goes out to you.

Stay at home moms work hard but people look at them like they're just sitting around all day. As if the vacuum runs itself. (Yes I dream of a Roomba. lol) So go home and kiss your mom. The only paycheck she gets is your appreciation.