How important is it to be honest with a girl, even if it would be considered very, very disrespectful? I ask because last year, I took the heat for my best friend and his girl splitting up. She's a drama queen, so she wouldn't get off my back. She asked me why I thought it was any of my business to tell him that she was bad news. I actually stopped and thought for once, and asked her if she wanted me to be honest with her. She said of course, so I told her the truth. I told her that I had seen her day after day during lunch at school (they are in different grades, so have different lunch times) hanging all over other guys and blatantly hitting on so many of them, including me. She asked what I was trying to say, and I told her that she was being a slut. This is where she flipped out and ran to the office screaming. Then all the other girls in the class, even the ones who hate her, started screaming at me too. I still haven't heard the end of it. I'm not wondering if encouraging the breakup was right of me, I've answered that question already. What I want to know is was it right of me to be as brutally honest with her as she asked me to be, or should I have just let the whole thing wear itself down?
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Being "real" with a girl
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honesty is best policywell i think so anyhow. but that being said, you should be tactful in your response not to step on peoples feelings, -if possible (i.e without bending the truth!!).being honest is not easy, but i believe it is always the right way to go. i'm sure other ppl have different opinions, and thats fine
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Comming from a girls point of view, you were right to be honest. She asked you to be honest, and you were. Although I agree with Cool, you should have been more tactful with your response. Theres nothing wrong w/being honest about something, you just need to learn to tell the truth w/out being harsh and hurting the person. Telling the truth is always the way to go, even if it is painful for the person you're telling it to.
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I think you were right to say what you did..she was being a slut..that's honest. lol.
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Being honest is best. I'm always honest with girls. They like that
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Yeah, you did the right thing, sometimes its not nice to be shockingly truthful but sometimes that is whats needed.
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You know, if you are a person who makes it a conscious effort to be honest all the time,then I commend you. There are few people like you in this world. Anyways, she asks you for the truth...you gave it to her. Still, no matter what you think of her, she is a person with feelings. The truth does hurts, but you can minimize that with having tact. You wouldn't want anyone to tell you what a lousy person you are, would ya? Honesty will only benefit in the end...
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Calling her a slut was kind of harsh. So she was flirting with other guys, that doesn't make her a slut. An honest answer would have been, "I saw you flirting and hanging all over other guys. I told my friend that you aren't the type of girlfriend that he deserves. If he decided to end the relationship, then that was his decision." I'd be pissed if a guy called me a slut too.
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Okie dokie then, thanks to everyone. Suppose I'll have to be more careful from now on.
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Bend what ever you have to say untill they finally get it.start with nice and end with were ever they pick up what ur trying to say.(in your case u told her that she was seen she hould have said somthing other than YA AND!?she was asking to be called a slut or somthing.mabey a bit harsh but not much else to say other than easing it on here (cant stick it in to fast or they will screem LOL)so ya u should have been like:"well after seeing you out there flirting with the other guys and not just hanging with them i think that you might want to get with one of them or all of them i dont know so were calling this thing off come back and talk when your intrested in me and not the other guys. (basicly ur saying "hey Slut when your done ur pimping and makeing your crack money off the gangbang squad come back and see me if your not a filthy hoe i might take u back.
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I think you were right to be honest but I don't think calling her names was the way to go. Maybe saying something like I don't believe you're being faithful would have gone over better.