Ok, while reading the "Sex with Cousin" post, this popped into my mind. I mentioned it in my post there, but I decided to start a full-blown topic about it, because I don't want to steer that thread of topic.So here's the deal, my cousin (same age as me) often seems like she's flirting with me. She sits on my lap a lot (which doesn't really bother me, but it must seem strange to my other cousins), every time I'm sitting down, she'll try to sit on my lap. Then, once she's up there, she sits there for a pretty long amount of time. She also sometimes wriggles around on my lap, which feels kind of awkward, because I know her "naughty parts" must be getting some stimulation from that (she more or less grinds against my crotch ). Aside from that, she also asks for backrubs a lot, and just generally gets as close to me as she can about 80% of the time we're near each other. She fell asleep lying across my lap once, too (she went there of her own accord, I didn't suggest that she lie down or anything).My cousins used to tease her (when we were younger) saying she liked me (we didn't realize how scorned upon it is to suggest that), so I can't help but think about that, too. She has a boyfriend, but she still acts the same way around me. I'm somewhat attracted to her, but I try to ignore it and avoid those feelings. However, she isn't making it easy.Does this sound like flirting to anyone else, or is it just me?
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Another cousin post!
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In reply to: Does this sound like flirting to anyone else, or is it just me? If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...
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I didn't ask if she was a duck.
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Ignore her. There are sooooooo many other people on this planet...leave your cousin alone.
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"leave your cousin alone. "She's the one who needs to leave me alone. Anyway, I'm not saying "should I do anything with her", I'm just wondering if that sounds like flirting to anyone else. I know that I shouldn't do anything about it, because it's pretty much gauranteed to screw up our relationship.
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hey bud, i have a cousinlike that two. and she has a son and b/f. everytime i see her she definately flirts with me. it all started when they came to town to see me. it was early on the second day they where here. and i woke up early so i could fix breakfast for them. well i got in the shower and about half way thru my shower she came walking in the bathroom. well i have a clear shower curtain so she seen everything. that was when i was 16 and everysince that day she's always flirted with me and made derogatory comments about how any girl would love to have what she seen. but it's always real casual flirting. she's gone as far as even pat my crotch in front of her friend and tell her about what she saw. everytime i see her she'll run and jump on me and wrap her legs around meand yes she grinds on me when ever she sit on my lap too. but that's only happened a hand ful of times. the rest of my family just sees it as she really loves me as a cousin and nothing more. but i told my friend and he seen her act this way and he agrees she's flirting. nothing has ever happened and it's not gonna. but i tell you she flirts with me and always stares and teases me. like now anytime the family comes to town she volunteers to stay with me and my g/f at our apt. i don't know if she intends to do more but in the past 9 years nothing has ever happened.
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In reply to:Ignore her. There are sooooooo many other people on this planet...leave your cousin alone. I don't think he's trying to persue her, Amanda, it's the other way around. They definetly shouldn't do anything with eachother, it's just you're making it sound like he's asking if he should try and get together with her... when it seems the cousin is doing all the flirting.
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I realize that...but he did say he's atrracted to her, and her acting out is making him in a way "want her"...that's why I said to just ignore her.
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If you like her back then go for it there is absoloutely no reason why you two shouldnt be together although you'll have to face the reaction of your families and friends. The "cousin childbirth high risk of mutation" is just a myth there is only a 3-4% higher chance of birth defects between non-related people and related people and cousins are more likely to have less problems during childbirth and if you're still worried you shouldnt be there is no reason to be anyway for reassurance use the link they are much more helpful and responsive than all the negative replies I've had here! And you can find lots of info to reassure you thats its ok. I thought it was wrong too before I came across this site. Cousin Couples
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cousin marriages are very common in islamic countries. and there it's not considered a sin.
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It's not a sin if you read the bible you can see numerous references to cousin marrige and instead of being frowned upon it's looked upon with favor.