im 16 and i have had a crush on my friends sister. i have tried to show her that i was interested but i don't know what she thinks. Our parents have spoken and i found that she also had a crush on me. Sure sounds good. but her brother (my friend) hates her soooo much. Hates a strong word but he has some problems. i have wanted SOOO bad to let her know how i feel but i can't seem to tell her (I'm not sure if she is interested because my mom is the one that told me this and my mom is the kind of person that is hard to trust with things like this) (NO one knows how i feel about her) i think she is trying to flirt with me but it is a hard to tell. since we work together she will tap my head or play with my hair for a second or compliment me in someway. i have seen her naked and she has seen me naked before (i played strip poker with her before and skinny dipped. really unusual for me since im an extremely insecure, shy person). well here comes the big part. in the first stages of puberty me and her brother sort of experimented (eversince i REGRET it and wish it away, because i really don't agree with myself that way, i have nothing against it, its just i have a problem with me being that way). i think that her brother has turned gay because of it but im not sure. because i have noticed he will make these playful touches (Flirting if you think it like that) and i don't want the past to be let out.just resently he tried to touch my cock and when i moved a way he sighed sounding disapointed. can someone help me?
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I don't know what to do
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i think the only one who is going to be able to help you is you.obvoiusly this guy still wants to 'experiment' with you, so perhaps you should try to clarify that you don't. this will be wierd and awkward, but it will straighten things out.regarding his sister, there are many ways you can let her know how you feel. you could1. ask her to go somewhere with you... sorta casually (but once you are there with her, express yourself)2. just hold her hand or similar if you're watching tv together, -this will say a lot3. try to be open and mention your feelings for her....4. act all cocky bout it and flirt with her more, "hey hotstuff, wanna play some of our 'favourite' card game " etcany of those could work, the most crucial thing is how she feels, not what approach you chooseregarding your friends hatred of his sister; its hard to comment on cause we don't know the circumstances. personally i'd let the girl know how i feel, and find out her response. IF she is intersted, then i would approach the guy and let him know that you care for them both, and you wish to pursue a relationship with her. i wouldnt ask for permission or anything like that, i'd just tell him what you're doing (in a respectful manner)hope this helps??
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yeah, it helps a bit. i have been trying to make it obvious that im over the experiment age long ago.
thanks for the tips
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Well if hes any friend to you he will understand if you like his sister. I mean if i had a sister n my best friens liker her n she liked him i wouldnt stand in the way....however im not gay *cringes* not that thers nething wrong with that. But i mean theres no reason why soemone should stand in the way of a potential relationship, and i hope ur friend knows ur not gay. I say just tell her how you feel n go with it n ur friend will have to understand, and if he cant well then hes not a good friend.
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i know he isn't a very good friend. and he has quite a few issues and jealousy and selfishness are big ones.after experimenting with him (YUCK in my opinion) and going through depression i thought of being gay but i am strongly attracted to chicks. i was depressed because he used to put me down ALL the time, and he would always criticize me about my looks (i am now very very hard on my apearence)after not hanging out with him i seem to be more open to people but i still am very shy.there are some many signs being put in my face that im not as bad looking as i think, because girls try to talk to me and compliment me.if anyone can talk to me more i have MSN, AIM, and Yahooi have a lot to say but too much for typing.
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i have a friend like that that is jealous and talks shit to me. i hate that crap. man u gotta look out for urself in this situation, he obvously doenst care enough about u otherwise he wouldt say all that. i say u hook up with his sisters, he'll have to deal with it
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okits just going to be hard for me to open up like this to someone (since i never had any g/f or flirting situations)i don't know how to tell if she is flirting with me or not. how is a way i can find out how she feels or if she is flirting
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Hi adverse, try not to beat yourself up over a bit of early experimentation. It's very common, and it doesn't set your orientation. You had to think about girls, so it seems you're pretty close to 100% heterosexual (perhaps not exactly 100% - few people are). Your friend may be gay or bi, but that episode didn't make him that way, just as it didn't make you gay.I think you should talk to your friend's sister. Don't wait for the perfect moment - life is imperfect, you'd be waiting forever. Do it as soon as you can. Don't worry about the words, just get something out - that's the way most important things are done, haltingly and stumblingly.And don't worry about the attitude of your friend. That's his problem.
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i wish it was that easy for me
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well i found out that she doesn't think she is my type and now she has a boyfriend but yet she still flirts a little.
i feel bad for her because she is hanging with drug dealers now and she doesn't realize it. my sister knows these people (small world, long story). anyway, she isn't the girl to get in trouble like that.she is more or less alot like me but she has gotten over opening up to people (but not with me i guess) -
so wait did u tell her how u felt? because i think what she may have done was just settle for someone because there was no one else. she may have thought that u didnt like her. and when she thinks shes not ur type, thats just a load of bullshit on her part, now if she said U werent her type its another story. sounds like u still got a shot, just tell her. And it is easy, just say it, dont think about it just say i like u
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no i haven't told her. i haven't told anyone.how should i tell her? im not in a friendship of any outside of work (where the flirting is) but i do go to her house once in a while to remain friends with the family
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All I can say is, I look back on my life and I want to slap myself over opportunities missed. Talk to her next time you see her, and you're alone, no matter where or when. There's much more to gain than to lose.
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You don't need a formal introduction, you just have to find a time when there aren't people listening, and open your mouth and get it out. Don't worry that it isn't polished.
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In reply to: All I can say is, I look back on my life and I want to slap myself over opportunities missed same. its a driving force for me nowon new years i was with a girl that i had only recently met, we spoke heaps that night. i had NO idea whatsoever how she felt to me. i almost dogged it, i remember thinking "oh well there goes that oppurtunity, u should have said something then" as i had missed some oppurtunity to make a move. then i stopped and thought "hold on, i'm still here, she's still here, do i want to look back in 1 years time and think 'what if'?? hell no." howeever hard it was for me, i forced myself to make a move (im not a very forward guy i guess), turns out she was intersted... we're together todaydon't pass up the oppurtunity
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ok thanks for the help
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Well done...that's great!
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In reply to: All I can say is, I look back on my life and I want to slap myself over opportunities missed So true, i think we all have experienced that. Lifes to short, u cant get to worried about everything so much that u miss out on it. Just go for it and dont think about what your goin to say.......as a shoe company once said...."JUST DO IT"