Why don't I turn my boyfriend on as much any more

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We've done alot... we do all postions, like 3 or 4 each time we have sex... we have had anal sex, only a few times though because it hurts since we don't have the money to buy lube, I'm sure he's attracted to me, he tells me everyday how beautiful I am, I try to make things more interesting, I mean the other day I even tried to be forcefull, almost roleplay and he was like " what are you doing... i'm not horny" and I was like wow....... and felt like shit..... I have even asked him what the problem is he says because he doesn't wanna play it out and make it so it isn't as special as it was in the beginning, since we plan on gettin' married he doesn't want to be like a old married couple that does it once a month, I don't know I believe him... it's just not like a guy to say somethin' like that... I'd think the girl would want to do it less before a guy would

me and my girlfriend have slowned down alot too. The longer you date the more comfortable you get with one another. I still think she is sexy but I dont have the urge to jump her every 2 seconds. The longer you date the more you become friends and less you become just lovers

I agree with Shai. It's easy, especially when you're younger, to let sex be a substitute for a lot of things that really should be pretty substantial, like getting to know each other intimately. Not sexually intimately, but really getting to know each other and to appreciate each other. Is it possible that this is what he's wanting and is seeing the sex as distracting from that?

Maybe you should try group sex. Ask your boyfriend if he'd be interested in having another girl join you...or even another guy if he's into that.

yeah...that'll help...

perhaps he's maturing passed the stage of lustfulness? and he's trying to connect with you on a deeper level. Him not being actively horny, does not necessarily mean that he does not find you attractive. Or, the repetativeness of sexual acts can sometimes get boring?

Something I notice as a male is when I get a steady supply of it I start to take it for granted. It gets less intimate and less arousing. Perhaps you should try going a few days without sex and let the tension build. Then when the tension all spills over it will be intense and satisfying rather than normal.

Well I know for sure I'm not willing for group sex, it'd kill me to watch him be intimate with another chick...

group sex is a bad idea.

It depends what group you're in, but it's probably a bad idea if you're in a relationship with someone.