Ok, let me start by saying I am gay. I am also not very experienced with relationships with guys. I stayed in the closet for a long time trying to figure things out. Doesn't help that I am very very shy and quiet.Anyway, I had my first boyfriend last year. Things were good. We dated for 3 months. Until, we were talking about things that bothered each other about the other. So I was honest and told him certain things aobut him that borthered me. I didn't think they were this bad, but he took it as me not liking anything about him. That was so not true. But it ended there. That was right before Thanksgiving. Now, I have dated others, but have not found any that I want as a boyfriend.. Guess I am picky. Just none of them compare to him. I was happy with him. We talked recently, and I convinced him to meet me for dinner. He said he was curious about his feelings for me. But the night before our dinner, he was having second thoughts. I gave him an out and said if he truely didn't want to meet me again, then he doesn't have to. Well, he took it. Canceled. I had told him if that was his wish, I would respect that. But damn... I miss him so much. I want to win him back. But I told him I wouldn't bother thim. What should I do??? He must have still felt something if he was originally going to meet me. I truely believe that if I could at least see him, then there would be a good chance. But he is unwilling to try. Any ideas? Sorry about the long post.
How to get him back...
I'm afraid I think that having told him you would respect his wish, you should respect his wish, even though it's very painful for you.
Surprise him, duh. Find out if there's somewhere he goes to eat on a regualr basis and "accidentally" bump into him. This is a rather cheesy idea, but it does work sometimes.
The sucky think about being in love with someone is you can not make them love you back. I think you need to respect his wishes and leave him alone all things happen for a reason and you never know he may come around some day.
Everybody is lonely sometimes, Nobody is pretty all the time and Everyone needs a friend once in awhile.