Prove it.I think I'd date Steve before I'd give someone like you the time of day. Especially since all you seem to be able to do is bad-mouth the people that someone else chooses to date instead of listing qualities that would make you so much more "desirable" than the other party. (No offense to you Steve we're just two totally different people )
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Wow
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That was the nicest back-handed compliment I've gotten in a long time. To the extent that I know you from your postings, I'd date you. You're full of spunk and vinegar and medical knowledge. Kind of cool. If you like to drive fast....
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The fact that I act like an ass on this board has absolutely nothing to do with how I am irl.
I have to admit i have read some really helpful posts from you, but, I have also got all the personal nasty posts too (which are lots of fun :smile: ) my question is, why act like an ass on the board if you are actually a nice guy? I don't get it, I am me on the board, or in real life, I dont' see the point in pretending to be anything else. Just wondering, so don't start getting all agressive with me for asking.
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Well I would certainly like to see the 'nice guy' thats in there somewhere come out more often LOL
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Steve, I don't know if you mean literally or metaphorically there but literally, I do drive fast. Very fast. lol :wink: I've never been told I'm full of spunk. I have heard moxy though. Also heard feisty from a 12 year old kid (I though that was hilarious..."Hmmmm...nice try kid. Prefer guys my own age or older..." hehe).
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In reply to:I guess you like guys who cry and cuddle. As a matter of fact....No. I don't. Well...not really the crying part. I hate to break it to you though. Guys cry too. I've seen my dad cry. My dad's not really the crying type. And a guy who likes to cuddle? Well, never actually had that so, I wouldn't actually know. But what's the problem if a guy WANTS to cuddle with his girlfriend. It doesn't make him weak. It just says he has a softer side that he's WILLING to show me. In reply to:The fact that I act like an ass on this board has absolutely nothing to do with how I am irl. I think you'd be very surprised if you met me, and the decision to date or not would not be based on you, trust me. Well here's your chance to show us. Act like the nice guy that you're claiming to be. And the decision to date you or not would not be SOLELY based on me but I would still have a say so, "trust me". And no, I probably wouldn't be surprised because I have seen some insightful posts from you, however, the majority of the time you act like a jerk. Probably because it's the internet and you can be whoever you want but I don't see any reason to act like someone I'm not. I am me. That's all I know how to be.
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cenfath, I meant it literally. I like a bold lady.unforgetto, you may be a complex person, but the side of yourself you show here is that of an insecre guy who swaggers around, uses lots of four-letter words, threatens violence, etc. It's like you're a teenager trying to impress the guys with your toughness. What you don't get is that the opposite of being an asshole is not being a limp-wristed pansy. You fake toughnes, though, is pathtic. You're trying way too hard.Think of famous people you admire. Are any of them (besides Stalin) total assholes?
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LOLWell if I lived in South Beach, perhaps. Since I don't, you'll have to find someone who's a dead ringer for me. And totally agreeing with you here. C'mon Unforgetto, show us what a nice, great guy you can be. I'm dying to be proven wrong.
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so what happened with the guy!?
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Well here's what the "deal" is at the moment:When I'm at work (at Target), he's not at work. When I'm at work (at Target), he IS working, only he's working at the YMCA that his mother runs (but he's still treated like any other employee because there's another guy at the Y who oversees what he does). When he's working, I'm not working. Our schedules are never similar or even the same making it difficult for me to spend any REAL time with him.He still talks to his ex-girlfriend which bothers me. I don't like it at all. And I haven't had a chance to talk to him about it because our schedules conflict so much (it sucks...it makes me sad..lol). However, I know that when he's off, he's usually with a mutual friend of ours named Justin. He tells me everything that goes on (I think just because he wants to get in my pants....j/k). And just in case you're wondering - no, I don't ask for the information (I'm trying this trusting thing really hard). I also have eyes and ears all over Target that I didn't even know about. It's funny, my close friends that know are always watching out for me even though I've said there's no need to. Anyhow, I'm kind of hoping to see him tomorrow since I finally get to "work" with him in the morning when I go to turn in the final copy of the layout for our new Target Team Newsletter to our Human Resources Director. It should be interesting.I just want to take it slow. VERY slow. lol
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In reply to:Everyone has an asshole side to them. I just bring mine out because I speak my mind. I don't suger coat the stuff I say just to be politically correct.You don't understand the difference between "speaking your mind" (being honest and assertive) and being an asshole. Your favorite politician may be an asshole, but he didn't get where he is by communicating like an asshole.In reply to:I don't see how I show myself as being insecure, you're just saying that to provoke me. I also don't see wtf is wrong with 4 letter words, or 3 letter words, or 2 letter words. Wanna fill me in on that genius?Dumbass, you've threatened to kick my ass on several occasions. You've told me how you're bigger then me. You explained how you were a bully. I haven't heard such childish crap since before middle school.Four letter words have their place, but if you use them all the time, they lose their impact, and "Fuck!" just becomes "Darn it!". Four letter words are also a poor substitute for actual thought.In reply to:Obviously I ain't the one trying too hard.Mandavoshka, I wasn't talking about trying hard to run up your number of posts. I was talking about your trying too hard to sound real tough and way cool. You sound like a little boy trying to fit in with a gang of thugs.
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You may be analyzing this a bit too hard. From what you said, it doesn't sound like you have a reason not to trust him. It's too bad you guys are on such different schedules. Will that change?
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You're right Steve. I don't have a reason not to trust him. But I don't have a reason to trust him either. And that is the wounded girl side of me. I've had so much bad luck with relationships it's almost natural for me to think that Adam would be the same. It's a sad thing for me because if I don't trust anyone I'll never learn. I want to trust him. But I don't know how. My best friend says it's just a matter of decided that I'm going to trust him and if I get burned, then I get burned. But I've had enough of being burned. I make it harder on myself than it really has to be and I know I do. But I don't know how to fix it. And you're also right about the analyzing thing. I'm the world's worst over-analyzer you will ever meet. I can confuse anyone at anytime because I can come up with so many different meanings and intentions with ONE sentence..hell - even ONE WORD. I don't know how to stop. I've been told by my aunt's, uncle's, and even my dad's father that all men are dogs all my life. That's all I've ever heard. So naturally, if my family says so, it must be true right? And then I eventually start to agree because that's all I experienced. But I think that it's because that's all I thought I could find - an asshole of great proportions. And then a nice guy finally does come along and I could very well run him off. My family isn't entirely to blame. I have to my own responsibility because I could have chosent to believe what they were saying and believed that are good guys out there. But I didn't.I don't know if the schedule thing will change or not. I'm hoping it does. Apparently, he may be up for a promotion at Target and if he gets it he won't have to work two jobs and he'll actually have time for me. I teased him about it a lot at first and sometimes I think it upset him so I've stopped doing it. I don't like hurting his feelings. I've actually considered not doing this at all just because of the way our schedules are and the fact that I hardly see him because it's hard having a "phantom boyfriend". I did long distance with a guy for over a year and I was miserable. I don't want this to be the same. I don't want to resent him and I'm afraid I might if I'm constantly at home wanting to go out. My cousin, Meg, called my Thursday and asked if I wanted to go play ball Friday night. "Finally", I thought, a chance for me to just be gone away from everything I'm familiar with." So, Friday night came and I went and played three softball games back to back to back. I never had so much fun than playing third base that night hunched down with my arms dangling in front ready to pounce on every ball that came by me. Nothing ever got through me that night. I played like I hadn't played in years. It was a release for me I guess. Every pent up feeling, thought, fear went into those games Friday night. And when I got home, I took a shower and as soon as my head hit the pillow I slept like I haven't slept in I don't know how long. Normally I'm a toss and turn person but Friday, I slept so hard when I got up my hip hurt from laying on one side too long. It felt really good to have that release and not have all that pent up frustration. Softball is to me what sex is to others, I guess. It's a good way for me to release frustration and since I'm a damn good ball player, it just makes sense to me. Anyhow, I made plans to go back out next Friday because one, I want to play and two, I don't know if he'll be free or not. And I don't want to grow resentful towards him for being at home on nights when I could be out having fun. Okay, I'm rambling and I'm tired so I'm out.
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You just have to get yourself to believe that all men are not jerks, but, as Unforgetto pointed out, everyone has a jerky side.....which means that people need some slack. No one bats 1.000.I hope he gets that promotion...and soon!
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Yes, before I lose my mind preferably. :-SI know that everyone has a jerky side and I can handle that. I just can't stand anymore assholes. And trust me I've dated a lot of assholes.
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Look I don't know who you are in real life. But just stop. Nobody cares. You go be whoever it is you want to be. I don't really care. I actually thought for a second you would "surprise me" and be a nice guy. I was wrong. Have a good night Unforgetto....
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In reply to:Wtf is the difference pussy? If you know that's not true then say something back, or just shut your mouth and take it. If you think you're the bigger man, then be it.In real life, it doesn't matter who the "bigger man" is. I don't know whether you're more or less physically strong than I am, and I couldn't care less. The Wild West is over, cowboy.When you get a real job someday, are you going to worry whether you can kick the asses of your boss and co-workers?