Hello All,After reading alot around this forum, I really could not find an answer to my qusetion. How could I loosen my gf's anus. We've been together for quite a while, alot of vaginal, but only one attempt at anal, and it ended in failure.We used alot of lube (for my frustration, I used half of the KY bottle!). I stuck 1, then barely 2 fingers (three wouldnt go in ) in and stimulated her to loosen up her anal muscles, but when I tried to insert my cock in (after alot of lube and stimulation, it just wont go in!). We tried all sorts of positions, her ass was quite relaxed as she said. Can anyone explain to me how to loosen an asshole for a long term (even forever). Exercises? Inserting large objects there and keeping them for a while, daily routine?Thanks in advance.
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Loosening my GF's Anus
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umm...how about you forget about the whole idea of loosening her anus. There's a reason it's so tight.
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You don't mind having a girlfriend who poops in her pants for the rest of her life? She doesn't mind either?
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You need to loosen up your gf, not her asshole. I'm guessing she's pretty nervous about how it's going to feel to have a cock pumping in and out of her ass. And so that nervousness causes her to completely tense up. If you're really about anal play, try using your tongue first. At least give her asshole a good rimming - - ideally, tongue fuck it for a bit. Then move from your tongue to your finger after she's a bit more relaxed. I've always thought it was pretty stupid to "plan out" what you're going to do in bed - - just go with the moment. Don't go in with the intention that you're going to get your dick in her ass. But if you're licking out her ass and get a finger or two sliding in and out then you can give it a try. If she's too tight, find another hole to stick it in and try again tomorrow.
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I can't speak for the long term, but relaxing the anus just takes lots of time, and I don't think rushing all the way from nothing to full penetration in one session is going to help.I can only talk about my experience with anal masturbation. It took me four attempts before I could insert three fingers comfortably inside my ass, and I've yet to go further. And even then, it still takes time; for example, I need a minimum of 20 minutes to progress to three fingers. The thing is, stretching the anus doesn't sound too healthy, and you risk causing damage and permanent looseness. It's better to work your way up over several sessions and get it to relax enough for full penetration.That said, there are a few tips that can help. First of all, use as much lube as needed. You already know that, but even I think you went way overboard with a half bottle of KY. As long as the object inserted is fully coated, that should normally be enough, so in your case, 'not enough lube' was definitely not the cause.For the second, I'll put relaxing and patience together. The thing is, it takes time for the anus to relax enough for penetration, and even more to get it used to having something moving inside it. I can finger myself with a finger easily, and inserting a second is just as easy. But if I start moving them, I'll immediately start clenching hard, and I have to take my time to get used to it. Same thing when I move to three.There's one trick your girlfriend can use if you want to insert something a bit bigger inside her ass than she can take. If she's certain she doesn't have feces coming, she can push out with her ass as if she was having a bowel movement (that's why it's important that there's no shit on the way, as it will come out then and ruin the fun). When she does that, her anal sphincter will actually loosen a lot more than she'd be able to achieve just by relaxing. Use that moment when she's pushing to insert, say, another finger. Now when she stops, she might feel her ass straining a bit, which is normal. If it's not too uncomfortable, just get her to relax her anus once more, and get her used to the new fullness. Even with time, she might not be able to take any movement yet, and you should then wait a few days before trying again, and being already used to it somewhat, it should get easier.Remember, no matter what you do, if anal sex hurts, you're doing it wrong. So don't rush things and take care of you girlfriend, and things will improve for you I'm sure
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or you could insert a stint, so her ass gets used to being that wide. Just make sure she has depends handy.