A turn of events

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urgh.I'm so confused.She IMed me today asking if everything was ok because she felt something was up.She explained everything to me, that she had been quiet because of work and her friend that came down to see her that she hadn't seen in ages...which she somehow left out of conversation beforehand.Anyway I'm supposed to be seeing her on Tuesday night...so I'll see how things go then

Just tell her everything is fine. That's all you have to say to her. Let her initiate the conversations for a little bit. If you want to ask to see her that's fine. If she gives you the brush off and you really want to see her say, "okay well when's good for you?"

Just remember, you want to play the "boy next door" with getting trampled on.

that last line I didn't understand. Did you mean withOUT getting trampled on?Anyway she seemed quite eager to come over. In fact she's blowing off an evening with her other friends to come and see me. She was quite adamant on it as well when I suggested rescheduling so that she could see her friends. I feel a lot better today.

Yes...I meant withOUT. lol Sorry...sometimes my fingers type faster than my mind can get the words to them.It's great that she wants to come over just bear in mind what I said. Girls want what they can't have so keep an unattainable attitue without being mean and you'll have her hooked. Of course it's not THAT simple...girls are very....ummm..wierd (for lack of a better word). Just let us know what happens and don't go too far too fast (i.e. no sex tiger ).

Well she did come over last night (earlier than I was expecting - needed to emergency shave!).It was just a quiet, non-sexual night really. It was quite nice and she's slightly more talkative and happy this morning (although she's still asleep at the moment).I hope that this is a good sign of things to come!

Or you could get up every morning and call yourself a worthless bastard to envoke a positive response... making yourself worth something.

Hi Weapon!Feeling bitter are we?Thank you for the contribution!

That's great Sad! Just remember what we've been telling you. Don't lay it all out there at once or wear all of your feelings on your sleeve. A few are okay but not all at once. Good luck again!!

Apparently she was talking to my mother last night about how much she likes me. That's a big confidence boost!

That's great sad! Keep us posted on your progress!!

Update time:Starting to feel lonely. I hear from her once every 3 days, and only if I prompt it. Even then it can barely be called a response.For example, 2 days ago it was the 2-week mark since we started going out, so I sent her a nice message. All I got in reply was, and I quote: "Ok. Thanks."Now to me it seems like she just couldn't be bothered. I've not heard from her since and like I say I'm feeling quite lonely right now. Basically I feel as if I don't have a girlfriend.Whats a guy to do?

Now ain't the time for feelin' sorry for yourself hun.

Don't message her until she messages you this time and if she never messages you, well, then it's her loss.

Well she came online tonight so we had a chat.Turns out that the week she had off work, in which she was going to see me, is now filled with other activities and so again I get left out.I think I'm scheduled to see her mid-June sometime... I'm starting to get pretty upset that every time she says she's going to do something with me, she changes her plans to not include me anymore.I don't know how long I'm gonna be able to take waiting like this.

scheduled? What is with all this scheduling stuff?

How else am I supposed to meet her?Just hope that I happen to see her in the street?It's called planning?And I just used that word to give effect, that's all. Originally she suggested to me that while we are all on our various holidays (which happened to coincide) that we perhaps spend some decent time together, but now that's out the window cos she's decided to change her plans.Anyhoo, she says she may be able to see me on Wednesday for a couple of hours, which should be cool. Providing she doesn't find herself something better to do instead that is

All right Sad. At no other time would I say let testosterone get the better of you but this time...I'm going to.Just tell her point blank what you want which sounds like you just want her to spend more time with you. So the next time you talk tell her, "If you want me then you need to make time for me and you need to start keeping the plans we've already made instead of breaking them all the time." Sometimes being up front like that is the only way to get a straight answer. If she really cares she'll make time for you. Believe me. I know all too well that if you want something bad enough but you "dont' have time" you MAKE time. There's something I want right now and I have to make the time to get to it. I have to save money and budget but by God I'm going to get it. It was the same way with me and my ex...I told him point blank. If you care about me then start making time for me, period. You can't love someone you don't know. And the only way to know someone is to spend time with that person. Stand up for yourself and dont' let her walk on you.

And if she decides she wants to be more independent than that, then she's not the girl for you.

Hey Buddy,reading through this thread I see a lot of similarity with the rollercoaster ride of emotions I've experienced.That said, you've already done a lot better than me. I've turned 24 and havn't had a proper relationship yet. Maybe I should be worried... Didn't start worrying about this kind of thing until the past 2 years.Anyway, good luck

Well guess what...she found herself something better to do!Gardening! I think I'm gonna have to leave her. If she'd rather pull weeds than see me then I think there's something wrong.Back into the world of singularity for me.

There's nothing wrong with being single guys!!! I'm single for the first time since September. I'm enjoying the crap out of it. If you're attached you can't play the field. Well you can but then my opinion of you drops by 10 points. :wink: J/K Seriously just relax. Everything happens when it's supposed to. If you guys ever need anything feel free to PM me. Have a great evening! :grin: