Please HELP!!!!!!

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I am gay, and i really want to have sex with my friend. I am not sure if he is gay. I really want him, but like i said i am not sure. What is a way that i could tell? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!

there is no specific way to tell, but has he ever mentioned that he thinks a girl is hott? does he know your gay? (if i were you i would drop it cause it might screw up your friendship)

No he doesnt know that i am gay. i think he has said that a girl is hot, but i dont think he ment it. I really want him!

Even a gay guy could say he thinks a girl is hot, because he feels it's something he is expected to say.

It's a difficult one, and very difficult indeed if you don't want to tell him you're gay if he isn't. One possible starting point is to ask him first if he is homophobic.

how do i bring that up? and what do i do once i tell him?

I don't think there's any way to do it specially. Make sure other people aren't listening, because it is a bit of a giveaway. If he says yes, he hates gays, then that's that. If he he says no, he isn't homophobic, then you can ask him how he'd feel if a guy liked him. Small steps, kept hypothetical as much as possible, are probably safest.

While I'm not approving of deception it has its uses as long as nobody gets hurt, so...you could make up some sort of gay story about someone (NOT A REAL PERSON!!!) and pass it on to your friend as a humourous incident. Then ask your friend what he thinks about it.If he just laughs it off and doesn't make any really negative comments, then it's probable that he's not particularly homophobic, in which case you could explore new ways to then find out about his sexuality.However, if he does start spouting off in a really negative manner, it's probably best to drop it. He might be gay and covering it up with homophobic bile, he might be straight and genuinely disgusted by the whole thought of gay activity but either way he's at a stage in his life where he's unlikely to experiment with another male in an obviously gay way (mind you, if you and he ever get the opportunity to be at home alone, you could suggest sticking on a porno movie (or looking at porn in a mag or on the PC) and see what happens).If he comes out with actively positive statements, it might indicate that he's gay or at least open to the idea of experimentation. Sorry, just realised I've replied to the wrong person

You could tell him a gay joke and watch his reaction. All is told by watching his expressions.You could run a line with himexample:you and him are out walking to somewhereyou see a guy walking down the street with a really nice dog or some animal.you say to him: Look over there, isn't that cutewhen he says ya, you say: ya and the dogs nice too.watch for his reactionThere really isn't any way of knowing. I'm gay and I see a hot number I'd love to jump in the sac with. Problem is, I can't (like you can with a girl) come right out and ask him, I might get socked in the face. If he's sitting or standing by himself I'll walk near enough to him to watch his eyes and see what he might be watching or crusing as people pass by. I might walk near enough to him and use the line, Excuse me, but I know you from somewhere, you look so familiar. Have you ever been to (and say a place I've been). This will get the convo started. If he talks to you this could be a sign, ya know (guys usually don't stop and talk to each other strange guys unless they know each other). Use your imagination. Try to be (but not too obvious) a little tacky. Watch his body language. It will tell more than what he might say. You've heard the saying: your telling me one thing but your eyes are saying something else body language is important. If you're in a mall or public place you could go to the soda fountain and buy two sodas. Go to over to him (not being obvious) and say: excuse me, but would you like a soda, I bought two because I was soooo thirsty but the first soda did the trick and I don't want to just throw the secone one away. There are many, be cleaver I've picked up many guys this way. Somehow it's not embarrassing. He will let you know one way or another.