Virginity

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Now I have come to ask you 1 question that is rarley answered and if it has I am too lazy to look.What is so bad about losing your virginity (i still have mine), but I am so curious to know why we press people who are 17,18,19 to not have sex. I mean outside of reasons of pregnancy and disease, what is bad about losing your virginity? What makes it so special?

I dunno, I really don'tTeen sex is some of the best you can have. The experimentation and mutual discovery is a magical time.Safe sex, of course, before someone starts singing that old song again!

I think its cos there seems to be so much pressure on kids these days to lose it, that someone has to say, don't LOL seriously, i feel as a 34 year old woman, with 3 children, that i should give the advice to others that i would give my own, and i don't think i would want my sons to lose it before they were 16, they probably will mind you, but i won't have told them to, you know what i mean?As for 17, 18 year olds, i can't remember seeing people telling them not to lose it, and if they have i think it might have more to do with the situation, partner or something like that, rather than just their age.

In reply to: there seems to be so much pressure on kids these days to lose it do you think there is more pressure now than ever? It was high when I was a kid and I think it was high long before that too.btw, next week will be my 20th aniversary of losing it

I actually do feel there is more pressure to lose it, girls think its part of what they SHOULD do with a guy is giving them a BJ, and yet its something that should be given, like a present LOL maybe there was the same pressure when i was young, but i have always been very strong minded, and if i didn't wanna i took no notice, so maybe it was going on and i didn't see it.

I hope you're at least 38, then. Decorum and standards and all that, you know.btw hpy bday 2 u u

well what about everyone saying it is special if you save your virginity until you are married, now i am not talking about the religious view, but for some who is not entirely religious and what is the meaning of holding out for so long?

Some people see it as a huge event in their live, some don't. It's all very personal. Some like to get it out of the way, so they don't have to think about it any more. For whatever reason, it seems like females take it more seriously than guys do.Like any sex, it is a lot better if you have an emotional attachment to the other person. But some would argue that even bad sex is good.One thing to keep in mind is that, at the beginning, you're probably not going to have a good idea what you're doing, so if the other person is just in it for good sex, they may not get what they want, and they may not be patient enough to explain what they want you to do. But the world is not a perfect place, and you may have a chance to have sex with someone you're really attracted to, while not knowing when you'll have that "special" relationship. If you're into it, then go for it.

I guess it makes sense. Because when i bring it up to people (female friends in general) they tell me to stay abstinent, but I mean I never really gave a crap about virginity or not. I mean do not know. Just all the anguish of being so nice and stuff and shit....Just gets to me. I imagine it does for others who hold out.

Some people think first-time sex is the consummation of the joining of two souls. Some just like to have another person's help when they get their rocks off. You have to decide what you want to do, not what they want you to do. You might want to check out vagina vérité; click on the "first time stories" male / female icons for people's experiences and afterthoughts.

thanks steve.

When I was in high school, losing your virginity was the "cool" thing and sad to say but by the time I finally did at 17, most of my friends had already done it earlier. I guess I really am smarter than them. It helps that the same girl I lost it to, still happens to be my best friend. Can't say the same for the rest of those guys as she don't talk to them.

I know of several people (one was a g/f of mine) that shortly after losing their virginity, became more curious about sex with other people, despite the relationship they were in with their first . Actually, my g/f was a virgin when we met and a "party favour" by the time we were done.It would be a shame if that feeling came over a newly-wed In reply to: btw hpy bday 2 u u thanks buddy (it looks like you intended to text that to my phone )

I believe it is a special thing and shouldn't just be wasted on anbody who you believe you "love" at that stage. It I lost my virginty to the first guy I loved I would have lost it in grade 6 I also believe there is a pressure in my age group to loose your virginty, go out and have lots of sex.

yeahi am not sure, if a girl comes along that is worthy of a round in the sack, then so be it. But until then, I remain a untouched soul.

im a virgin and not afraid to admit it.

I think the reason that so many people argue about losing virginity at a teen age is bad is because of how many irresponsible people there are out there. There's nothing wrong with losing your viriginity, as long as you're mature enough to handle any consequences that come along with having sex.

Forbidden has nailed. People tend to make either too much fuss about sex and at other times not treat it as seriously as it should be treated. If you think about it, sex is one of the few things we all share. Everyone (well almost everyone) does it and does it in a fascinating variety of ways. Its natural and frankly it is God's greatest gift to mankind. On the other hand, it is fucking powerful (pun intended) and should be treated as such and always weather for the first time or the 8,000th time engaged in willingly, enthusiastically and responsibly.