I am small and I can't stand it

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If you really find a good woman, 5" of penis will be the last thing on her mind! so much for one night stands though...>You can do some good w/ thatlol some...but don't worry man (OP) I have the same problem as you. I haven't been sexually active in over 4 years simply because I have the incling that 4.5" won't be enough for a truly satisfying sexual situation. I'm still a virgin, yes--I don't deny that, and I partially blame my body for that. It makes me angry that I have no control over that (as well as facial hair) and some girls don't seem to understand that. I would never make fun of a girl for any reason pertaining to her vaginal area, but for some reason I don't think it should be such a big deal for them. I know it may be to some girls...i've read the fem. gen. forums...the penis is a sign of verility and masculinity. Being smaller compared to your peers in undoubtedly a huge blow to confindence...especially when you're under the average for all males. I wouldn't feel so bad being 6" and knowing some 9th grader has a 7 or even 8 inch penis. But when you're 4.5 and know even guys in the middle of puberty are already far surpassed...that's just shattering.

If the cock does the job who cares about the length? This whole penis length thing is all brought about by the porn industry with guys with 12" cocks who have got that way through medication and other means. A big penis isnt everything to do with life or even sex. Just because you have a big cock doesnt make you a big man.

Ive said it before and i will say it again, it doesn't matter how big, small, thin or thick it is, for most women (not shallow ones) its who its attached to and how they use it that counts

i used to think like him aswell, but since ive come to this forum pple have convinced me other wise and im vrey happy with what ive got In reply to: This whole penis length thing is all brought about by the porn industry with guys with 12" cocks who have got that way through medication and other means i couldent agree more

It's all in what you do with it. For 10 years I was with a man who couldn't have been over 4.5". And for the last year and 1/2 he was under 4". Very self conscious, but it didn't bother me. He was good. The man I'm with now a little over 5".

**my ex was 8.5ish by 7.5 -8ish, my new hubby isn't, and it definitely doens't mean i enjoy it any less. **

i do like some girth though.

5" is under averageThere's not a lot of good data on penis size, but what data there is points to an average length of no more than 5 1/2 inches. It's only the first few inches of the vagina that are sensitive anyway.Who polled 500,000 guys? I'm not sure I'd put a lot of credence into self-reporting about penis size anyway.BMoC> I would never make fun of a girl for any reason pertaining to her vaginal area, but for some reason I don't think it should be such a big deal for them. I know it may be to some girls...i've read the fem. gen. forums...the penis is a sign of verility and masculinity.There are men who post things about not liking this thing or that about women. It doesn't mean they all feel that way, by any measure. The women (or girls) who post that stuff don't represent all women. That leave lots of people who don't go along things like that.If I were 18, I'd worry a lot more about meeting girls then I would about my penis size. The likelihood of having a sexual relationship is pretty close to zero if you don't meet anyone, if that's what you're after.

dude my dicks like 2 inches, i dont know why but im gonna chop it off cause its useless

You guys all say that it doesn't matter how big it is, it's who its attached to. That is true in a sense, but not for people my age(18). Sure, if I was 25-40, and my dick was as it is now 5.75" x 4.5" around, I wouldn't be as self-conscious because women would actually have maturity by then. When you're 16-18ish, it's ALL about the penis size. If you've ever listened to a girl my age talk about penis size, it's all about how big it is. I'm sure there are some exceptions, but I can't seem to find any, which is bullshit because it's not like I would judge a girl because she has small breasts?I was just with my friend and these 2 girls not that long ago and they were sitting there making fun of ex-boyfriend's they had had with small penises. Saying they could of probably jacked it off with their pinky and stuff like that, and that is how the majority of girls my age are(and i know quite a few). It's not so much length that should be a concern, it's the girth that really matters. I'm sitting here stuck with 4.5" girth, very self-conscious, because i've never seen a penis as thin as mine, then again i've never seen a penis outside of a porno. Hey but I know in reality, my penis is probably fine, a girl who actually liked me wouldn't care that my penis was small. But hey, 5" is fine in length, if you have the girth to back it up, if not, go for it anyways, ATLEAST you would have given it a shot so you REALLY KNOW how a girl would react, I think that would really help you.

Hi white_lines!! I'm not going to tell you that a 2" erection is fine - because you know it would be a lie. But there ARE ways to make that 2" erection longer - perhaps by as much as 2". There is a ligament [a rope-like muscle] that is attached to the penis. It is the 'thing' that makes it possible for you [and all other guys of course] to 'bounce' your erection without touching it. [make it go up and down] IF that ligament is cut [by a surgeon] the penis can be pulled OUT. Your penis will forever point to the floor - no matter how hard it got - but if that would be OK with you - then perhaps you might want to consider talking to a doctor about having that surgery. Just something to consider. Then again - are you SURE it's just 2" long? Many guys don't know how to measure their penises. If you go to THIS page - you can find out. That all said.... a man is NOT his penis. There is far more to you than what one might find between your legs. GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

Hi selfpity875!! You said, "If you've ever listened to a girl my age talk about penis size, it's all about how big it is." I say, "If you ever listen to a bunch of GUYS your age talk - you would think that EVERY ONE OF THEM is having sex 10 times a WEEK!!" What point am I trying to make? Most teenagers are extremely INSECURE. This insecurity is at the root of ALL of the LIES and inappropriate comments made by many teenagers when talking about sex. And what does it tell you about the character of a girl who would TELL OTHER PEOPLE about her ex-boyfriend's penis? Anyone with any self-respect knows that what when you have sex with someone - you do NOT betray their trust by talking about what you did together or by revealing to other people specifics like penis size or breast size or whatever. What happens sexually between to consenting people should always remain private. Interestingly enough - you said, "I was just with my friend and these 2 girls not that long ago and they were sitting there making fun of ex-boyfriend's they had had with small penises. Saying they could of probably jacked it off with their pinky and stuff like that, and that is how the majority of girls my age are. (and i know quite a few]" Assuming that there is any truth to what those girls are saying - what does that tell you? What I get from that is that a lot of guys have SMALL PENISES!! [think about it] That said... shame on those girls for talking about their ex-boyfriend's body parts. What you've got is what you've got. You can continue to bash your self-esteem if you like - but who's that going to hurt? Only YOU. So what's the point? Accept yourself as you ARE and stop buying into the 'only if' LIE. I promise you - there are millions of guys in this world who would think they died and gone to heaven if they woke up tomorrow morning with a penis YOUR size. And never allow the opinion of one girl to decide FOR YOU how YOU feel about yourself. No one girl speaks for the billions of females in this world. As shocking as it might be to some people - there ARE girls in this world who would be more than happy to have a boyfriend with a smaller than average penis. [much smaller - in fact] Not all vagina's are the same size. [keep that in mind]GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

No not erect, 2 inches was an exaggeration, its like half the length of a Deja Blue water bottle and the width of a standard hot-dog in the frozen food aisle. Erect, hang on a sec... like to the part of the Deja Blue bottle where it curves to form the top of the container, thickness maybe twice that before. It's always tiny at the wrong time though, like when a strippers grinding my lap i get embarrased she cant feel my dick there like she can on all the dirty old men, probably cause im so uptight, or when im at a urinal, it like fits in the palm of my hand and weighs as much as a hummingbird egg so i pull real close to the urinal and get someones dried piss and pubes on clothes because in so embarrased someone might see

Well, "Jason",Let me tell you a bit about myself so maybe you will see things a little differently. I'm 37 yrs old, and I'm about 4" 3/4 erect. That's smaller than you, dude. I've slowed down my ways, but when I was younger, I was pretty wild in the local party scene in my hometown. I partyed too much, and drank too much for too many years when I was young. At 18, I was already heavily into the binge drinking scene. Friday and Saturday nights would never pass without me being lit up. Point is, this lifestyle led me into sleeping with dozens of women over the years. Yep, me and my 4+"s would occasionally score here and there. Many times it would be a one night stand. Other times a relationship would extend over several weekends or months, and I've even had some very serious relationships. I'll tell you what, I've never been self-consious of the size of my dick. If anyone's complained, they've never complained to me. I've had a woman write me a love letter telling me that she would leave her boyfriend for me after a one-nighter. The boyfriend wasn't small, like me. I know that from accidentally walking in on them on one occasion at a party. I've had many girls try to have the "one-nighter"s turn into more serious relationships. Now if I was inadequete for them, why would they want more? I've had one girl tell me that I was going in too deep, and it hurt! At 4.75 inches! I know that she wasn't lying either, because I was hitting into something. And my girth isn't anything special.She wasn't the only one that told me that. There are many women out there with small you-know-whats.I got another love letter a week after a quicky in the back seat of my car. With a red rose, to boot. There wasn't even any foreplay, just on with the show that night! lolI had a one-nighter with a woman known for "getting around" (I'm lucky I never caught anything from her :O). She chased after me for a month after that. When I finally let her know that I didn't want a relationship, she slashed my tires!!! (She really wanted a relationship! lol)And I've always finished up with a quick one in the morning. Now, if I was something the women didn't want, why would they let me have some the next morning? I finally started telling women that I had casual flings with that I was engaged, so they wouldn't pursue a deeper relationship with me after the fling.Do I have to keep going, here? Because I can. But from what I've told you here, you should be able to tell that women go for a whole lot more than just penis size. And I'll tell you more about myself:I never was rich or wealthyI've never been mistaken for Brad PittI don't have the most outgoing personality in the worldand I'm not famous.So these women just wanted me for me, small dick and all. I'm telling you the truth here. Disregard the lifestyle that I lived, and the choices I made regarding relationships, because that isn't the point of the story. But, instead, realize that I went and did my thing the way I did with a penis smaller than yours!And another thing to consider: you meet a nice girl and it gets serious to the point that it does go all the way. How many penis's do you think that she has experienced up until that point? Probably not too many. And if she has experienced so many that she is an expert at comparing sizes, is she the type of woman you would want to get serious with anyway? Hell no! No one wants someone like that.Well, I hope that this gives you a more optimistic perspective on things. And if you still feel bummed out about it you can think about a little joke a friend told me:A guy and girl decide to have sex for the first time. the girl undresses and gets into bed. the guy pulls his pants down and the girl goes, "Just who do you think your going to please with that little thing?"and the guy says,"Me."

**Woah that is some first post :smile:

and im glad what i have said all along has come from another guy, with life experience.

Welcome to the boards hon ** :grin:

Yes, wow! Welcome to A2A, megamaniac!