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Dear Who ever is reading, I'm 16 and just found out I'm pregnant. Before I know for sure I thought I'd have a abortion but, now I don't know what to do. My mom said if I ever got pregnant she'd kick me out. I'm so scared and confused. I just feel alone and very gulty. If there are any young women who have had a to deal with something like this please post or e-mail me. Thankz for taking the time to read my post

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I have had to deal with it, I wasn't living with my parents, but it's still a really hard thing to deal with. If you wanna talk about it, just write back.

Actually I'm kind of a dummy when it comes to these forum things, I don't always know how to work them, and I'm new to this one, but you can email me at [Email]no email plsEmail]

You said before you know for sure....did you take a pregnancy test?

I was 17, less then a month before I turned 18, when I got pregnant. I didn't take a test until after my birthday. I was really scared. I had just graduated high school and still living at home. My oldest is now 7 years old, soon to be 8 now. It changed everything, all my plans for my future and stuff. My mom freaked out when I told her. I went to planned parent hood first, to get a second oppinion on the pregnancy, before I told my mom. She was upset, but got over it soon after. She loves my kids and I am sure that your mom will love yours.If she told you she would kick you out if you ever got pregnant, I am sure that she was just trying to scare the crap out of you so you wouldn't go and get pregnant. But you did and it will be scary and hard, but she will be there for you when you need her to be. She will always love you and yes she is going to be ticked when you tell her, but she is your mom and she loves you with all her heart and she will be there for you.Good luck and keep us posted. If you want to chat about stuff, you can pm me, I'll try to help.

Oh hun im so sorry!I can relate to you all the way!Im 14 and I found out I was pregnant a month ago.I didnt expect it at all,I used birth control and the guy used a condom but something went wrong I guess.I soon will be kicked out,my mom told me the samething and she says I have a month more to get out.Is your mom going to never see you again or she just doesnt want you in her house?

I am sorry for you, 14 and pregnant and your mom is really kicking you out!!! That is terrible, ok so you made a mistake, but she is making a worse one. You are her daughter and you are carring her grandchild. Your mom is stupid!!! I hope you have someplace safe to go, please tell me you.
Maybe your mom will come to her senses and not do this to you, you need her the most right now.

Is your mom OK with you living on the street? A parent can't just kick a 14-year-old out of the house. Can you call child protective services for your state?How do you plan on getting pre-natal care? Are you seeing a doctor? If you skip that, you and the baby can get into very big trouble.

You can do one of two things. You can have the kid and then put it up for adoption OR you can get an abortion. Its all up to you.

it is a dilemma altogether. your parents wont just kick you out. really, they cant just kick you out.

Don't worry everything will work out. I was 15 when I got pregnat. My bf left me and all hell broke loose with the parents. I thought that I was going to die. When I told my older brother who was 18 at the time, he helped. He let me move in with him and was very supportive. He is a really big part of mine and my 7 almost 8 year old baby boy Ayden Tyler's life. Just don't kill the baby PLEASE! :scream_cat:

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I'm glad that you had your brother to help you. Perhaps he'd also like to sign up to help every other young pregnant girl who has nowhere else to turn. In other words, keep politics out of this. The choice is hers to make.

I didn't read Badgurl's post as political at all--only that there are others options.

BadGurl2003> "Just don't kill the baby PLEASE!"

Is an unfertilized egg a baby? Is a zygote a baby? Is an early-stage fetus a baby? Is a 3-month-old fetus a baby? It sounds like a philosophical cum political question to me.

By the way, an unfertilized egg does have the potential to develop into a baby. In fact, so do other cells, in cloning.

A fertilized egg- a fetus- is a baby. I'm not going to argue this point with you. You have to realize that their are other points of view and allow them to be expressed.
The OP was clearly considering abortion. Badgurl is pointing out another option that obviously worked for her.

So a fertilized egg--a single cell--is the same thing as a baby? I doubt that someone who is considering an abortion would agree with that. I don't know of anyone who believes that who's not inspired by their religious beliefs.It's a very common for a fertilized egg (zygote) not to be implanted in the uterus, and get flushed out with the next menstrual flow. It may be manifested by an extra-heavy flow, or not be noticeable at all.Technology exists (and will eventually be perfected) that will allow an unfertilized egg to be cloned into another human. Sometime soon, must of the cells in your body will be potential human life. What then? Every time you brush your teeth, you are killing thousands of potential people.

I believe a fertilized egg is a baby. It has nothing to do with my religious beliefs. In fact I felt that way after my 8th grade science class and more importantly after becoming pregnant myself. However, I think the choice is up to the woman.Anyway, this is not helping the OP. She needs to know ALL the different avenues before she can make a decision. Just because you believe she should have an abortion does not mean that would be her choice. She needs to know about abortion, adoption, and keeping the baby. And then when she makes her choice, she needs to know where and who can help her. She does not need people arguing about religious beliefs and whether it is baby or not. And Steve, you are big on giving the correct information on the boards, so as not to misinform the young posters on here. You have told me this personally. Let's just give this girl the facts.

Your rightAdoption: Many woman who wantto adopt your baby will pay for it (doctor bills ect) thru your pregnancy, but you sign saying what ever comes out they get. You may or may not get to see your baby in the future, its up to the courts, adoption agency, and new mother.Abortion: You Get an abortion (3 kinds, 2 are chemicle and one is where they suck it out like a vacuum) Short quick procedure.Having the baby and keeping it: You pay all expenses, deal with your parents the babys father. You become an adult the minute that baby is in labor and have to make important life decisions well before then. The odds will be against you in life, Babys are expensive just in diapers alone, you will never sleep.

I didn't say that I think that the OP should have an abortion. I haven't given any wrong facts. In other cases, I have listed the alternatives. It's not good when someone says "Don't kill the baby!", but offers no pracical solution. "Go live with your older brother" is not practical for most people.To me, the idea that a fertilzied egg is the same thing as a baby is an insult to babies (and adults), but the debate probably doesn't get the OP very far. She needs to know what her options are, and their consequences.Java, thanks for your post. But you also have to keep in mind that a lot of women who have a baby intended for adoption back out at the end and decide to keep the baby.