Do girls really get horny?

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okay, you may read the title and be like "WTF LEAVE THE FORUMS DUMBASS" but im talking bout it differently than the way you probably thought of it at first. I'm basicaly saying do girls ever truly want sex? like, at random times? do random thoughts make them horny? like men? or is sex just something they do for a) attention , b)money or other various personal gains , c) love , d) to please the man. I'm pretty convinced that thats right. it has to do with my girlfriend mainly. she confuses the fuck out of me. when we started dating wed fool around all the time. i actually thought she wanted it.im pretty sure i was way off. Now i feel like she only wants it because i want it. like, she'll orgasm but only because she knows she should. I feel like she doesnt wanna take time out her day ever or time she spends with me to do sexual things. but she says last summer she masturbated virtually once a day. it's funny that she starts dating me and never ever does it anymore. like shes maybe done it 5 times. And it's not even like im super horny and all i want is sex. she's said to me that she doesn't want sex as much because she loves me. i have no fuckin clue how that makes any fuckin sense. shouldnt it be the opposite? I just sincerely feel like she or any other girl has any true desire for sex. unless her man wants it or the other reasons i listed. I'm probably gonna get bitched at. but im talking bout the average girl. and no offense but alot of the girls on this site are more interested with sex than most. she also gets annoyed every single time i ever bring up sex. like instantly. she says its all i talk about when i never talk about it anymore. it really gets to me and makes me feel sexually inadequate and unimportant. I'm just garg pissed off, frustrated, confused, and ignorant.

How old are you guys and how long have you guys been in a relationship?

Quote:she's said to me that she doesn't want sex as much because she loves me.This can happen with guys too, in the early stages of a relationship. Strong infatuation pushes everything else aside. Quote:she'll orgasm but only because she knows she shouldUnless she's faking it, I don't think any girl brings on an orgasm out of a feeling of duty. If she has them, she enjoys them, surely?

Sorry dude but your bitching made you look like a jerk.In the beginning of my relationship, I had sex pretty often. Today, we are lucky to have sex once a month. Life just gets in the way and there are other priorities than sex. But that doesn't mean it changes our relationship. Both he and I clearly agreed that our lack of sex doesn't change how we feel. We also agreed that we shouldn't feel guilty for not pleasuring each other as much as we would like. We both know we love each other so why does it matter if the physical part isn't there as much?But in your case, it seems your views on sex changed and the both of you are not on the same page. Perhaps she feels like sex isn't as important as it was in the beginning. She says she loves you, isn't that enough? Her lack of masturbating or having sex doesn't mean she loves you less. Maybe like other women, like myself, she isn't much of a masturbator. Maybe she doesn't need sex as much because her word means more rather than her physical expression of love.I feel her when it comes to the conversation on sex. If you keep on asking her about it all the time, of course she's going to get more distant about you. You need to give her space and not put so much pressure on her. When she's ready to talk about it, then talk to her respectfully. Don't tell her the lack of sex is pissing you off. Just ask her how see really feels about your sex life. Ask her where is sex when it comes to your relationship. Try to see if you can find a common ground you BOTH can agree with.Now, I'm going to answer the little questions you asked.  Quote:I'm basicaly saying do girls ever truly want sex? like, at random times?Not at all times, you mean. There are just times in the day when sex is on the last thing on our minds. Remember, we all have lives. Like I said earlier, life gets in the way and there are other priorites to deal with.  Quote:do random thoughts make them horny? like men? Don't know about other women, but for me, very rarely. I have other things on my mind, like school.  Quote:or is sex just something they do for a) attention , b)money or other various personal gains , c) love , d) to please the man.  Quote:I just sincerely feel like she or any other girl has any true desire for sex. Women have sex for various of reasons. You can not assume that all women do it for the same reason. I have sex for love and I enjoy having it. But my lack of it doesn't change how I feel about my relationship.However, you're ignorant in thinking that just because he wants it, he's going to get it. Never take your girl for granted. If I'm not feeling up for it, you're damn right I'll say no to his face. The difference is that he understands and doesn't resent me for it.Dude, you just need to relax and not get this to you to the point of were it pisses you off. It just makes you seem like sex is really all you want. I'm not saying you're wrong in ignoring your sex life, but you're putting too much on it to the point it's affecting your real relationship. Don't you have some attraction to this girl that goes beyond sex? Is sex really all you want or don't you want a long and loving relationship?Talk to her respectfully and find yourselves on an agreement you're both happy with.

Once a month?! fuck oh dear!it used to be nightly for us, most often 3 or 4 hours worth nightly, but its been over 4 years and life has gotten in the way, so has our age and needing some sleep.Its still a few times a week though. The last bit has been an exception, there has been no sex in the chance house for a while, over a month now. but thats been due to illness and kidney stones and shit. Shes recovering nicely and Im sure that after this standard week goes by she will be back on the bologna pony

Bologna pony....LMAO!! I love it! OP: Yes, lots of girls get horny. There are plenty of times I think about sex throughout the day and can't wait to ride the bologna pony giggle but then I get home and I would rather go to sleep. Work, stress, exhaustion etc. all those things make me not want to have sex. And I'm sure it's like that for alot of women. I would give your girlfriend a little breathing room and not talk about sex for a little while. Cuddle with her, make her feel loved. And then try some communication.

Bolonga pony...I haven't heard that one in ages!

I dont think Iv said it in ages.

Men, and women are the same when it comes to this. You have your men that want sex all the time, and you women who want it all the time, the same goes for not wanting it, wanting it less with time, and being a top or a bottom in sex.With that said, It sounds like you have some issues of communication with your girl that you need to work out yourself, we can't do that for you.

although id like to point out that its fair to blame whatever you believe created people because if this were a fair world, men wouldnt hit their sexual peak at 18 and women around 45-50! i know im hilarious right?

Not all girls have sex for money or because they want attention. it's about love. Personally I understand why I'm not having sex at the moment because I KNOW it's not what my relationship is about. It's about love. Pure love. But what you're going through, I can kinda identify with but only a little. Except I'm not upset. I'm worried. But that's for a story for another time. I know you feel upset but please try not to be. If you truly love her, you guys should talk about it without it leading into an argument. In other words, don't let it turn into a heated exchange. Right now life may just be getting in the way but you have to try not to let it get to you. I'm not trying to tell you what to do I'm just giving you advice. But you don't have to accept it if you don't want to.

well star she is a "masturbator". i thought i included the part where she said she masturbated almost every day this summer. and i just dont fuckin get how you can think about sex and "crave" it but the first thing you do when you get home is sleep. especially if its after school. If sleep at 3 pm is more important than a craving for sex then thats not actually a craving. its more like itd be cool but im too tired. not a craving for it. I just wish I felt that i was attractive.

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I just wish I felt that i was attractive.
Let her know that! I'm sure she's going to want to know that if she truly loves you.

Like Java pointed out, you'll have some people who want to have sex on the spot, but there are times when the same people who don't feel like having sex, whatsoever.

I'm like that. There are times when I miss sex and enjoy it when it happens. But because I'm currently going to school six days a week, I'm easily too tired to even think about sex. In fact, my boyfriend and I just talked about it earlier this evening. He and I are going to figure out a way to at least put in one day during the week when we can get intimate (long story short, my schooling killed my sex life).

That's what I meant about finding common ground. Maybe you and your girlfriend can figure out somethiing like that. Or at least start talking to her when she's ready to talk. Ask her how she feels about your sex life.

I wish you the best of luck!

School, work, they can be sex drive killers, but just wait until there are kids around! Just when you think they are sleeping....

I have heard that normally girls don't have desire for intercourse. They like to be kissed,caressed...When you do it for some time , eventually they get horny and want to be shagged without any delay.However , guys are always willing to start it immediately ! So I think kissing and other romantic moves are necessary before you can get your girl ready for sex !

that works to get them int eh mood, but if you think they are never in the mood with out it, that they dont finger fuck themselves and vibrate themselves till their teeth shake all on their own with out a man kissing and caressing them, then your a fool.
THey get horny same as us, some more than others, some less. But they all get horny, with no help form an outside source pressuring them into it.

Originally Posted By: Dantek

although id like to point out that its fair to blame whatever you believe created people because if this were a fair world, men wouldnt hit their sexual peak at 18 and women around 45-50! i know im hilarious right?

Thankfully that's not true Dantak, lol. Women are well known to hit their sexual peak at 15/20 years before menopause, which lands most women at the age of about 30/35. (and I can personally attest to that, lol)

really? wow thats neat thank you lol, still gotta wait 12 years for her to catch up though!

see, thats why man invented TiVo , pause for a quickie then its back to the show! although in my case itd be pause for a quickie then forget about the show altogether...