Cheating

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Okay heres the deal me and my girl are both 21 we are engaged however the last 3 months I have been ina different country and unable to see her. Well I found out that she had cheated on me last week and not told me. I confronted her about it and she played stupid for a little bit then told me what happened. I guess what I am asking is do you think it is possible that I will ever trust her again? Should I try to work it out with her? How should I react or expect her to react to what happend? Any thoughts would be helpful. Thank you

break up with her. if you are engaged and left for three months and she didn't have a fucking balls to not cheat on you in the relatively small ammount of time you should not be engaged cause she is clearly not ready. i would brea up with her, although you could work through this and wait until she is mature enough to take the relationship to a higher level. i pity the women who dates me.

If you truely are inlove with her and want to be with her for the rest of your life you will find it in your heart to forgive her. You really just need to talk to her and tell her how much it hurt you. If you have issues with trust to where it will ruin your relationship because you wont let it work then maybe you should postpone the engagement and just take it one step at a time even if its a small step backwards at first. This is the women you are chosing to be with forever so you have to be sure before tying the knot.

Thanks for the info. We were scedualled to go to Italy for Valentines day so I guess I am going to try and make it work til then and talk about it all some more while we are there. I think it will take a while to trust her again and i have told her that. I guess it would make more since to me if she talked about it more, but she just wants to drop it like it never happend. She has agreed to cease all communication with the guy and quit drinking while I am away, should I ask for anything more. Its kind of hard to make up when you are away so I don't know what to expect of her.

Hello 4U2NV,

I hope this post is not too late. I think for the first time I have to agree with Mr. M's post above. I don't know how much you've invested in this relationship but since you are talking about marriage I'm guessing it holds personal value to use- perhaps, as it should, sacred value even.

But with all due respect I don't think this girl shares your priorities. If a person cannot refrain from infidelity during the courtship stage, the chances of him/her doing so during marriage are unbelievably slim.

Its possible she's not ready for marriage, in which case you guys should have a period of separation so as to explore other relationships.

I hate to say it but caution during the pre-marraige stage is of paramount importance. Look at this period as the business period. Would you invest in a car that made odd noises during a test drive? Good luck 4U2NE

don't listen to any of these fucking morons. you break up with her stupid ass. fuck her up her useless women bag of lying sack of fuck shit ass cunt ass. i hate women and this is another proof as to why men should and always will rule the fucking planet.

someone is in a mood today lol

Is there ever a day when he isn't in some f'n mood?

Always seems to be the negative one. Why are u always like that ~MyWordsRWeapons~?

Well, I think it really depends on how she reacts to it. If she acts really sorry about it and apologizes a lot and does stuff for you, she may really be sorry and probably won't do it again. But if she just apologizes once and goes on like she did nothing wrong, then dump her unloyal ass.

i am always in a negative mood because i only post when people are being fuckin idiots.

Well thanks for the replys everyone, I like the test drive theory. I guess I am thinking of being stupid and giving her another chance, Burn me once shame on you, burn me twice shame on me. I've given other people chances before so I might as well give her a chance too. Who knows maybe one day I will need the second chance and she will give it too me. It definatly makes me look at her different though. I guess time will tell if we are right for eachother, if not there are plenty more fish in the sea. Once again thanks everyone and hopefully the (mywordsRweapons) has a better day. I think he needs to get his head examined but hey thanks for the comments anyways.

Hey it's me, I think you know where I stand on this one. If you really love someone you will give them a second chance to prove themselves differently. Just think back to Alicia. Not to bring up the past, but just remember how a certain someone reacted to that situation. To error is only human. No one is perfect until you fall in love with that person. Even then they are still not perfect but everything that may be a flaw, is just another thing for you to love about them.

Love, Trust, Commitment and Respect are the four corner stones of a relationship. By cheating on you, she has disrespected you and is not committed to you or your relationship. Do you trust that she would not do this again? My guess is that you don't. All you have now is love. Ask yourself if LOVE is all you want in a relationship with this person or do you want the whole package. Once you know what you want, you will act accordingly.

dude, fuck that...dump her. Not even married yet and allready she is breaking your trust???? Its like a parent slapping a kid on his hand...what does that do?!? Slap the taste out of his mouth and see if he does it again! Point is this, you left the door wiiiiiiiiiiide open for her to nail ya again...personally, I would be a total dickhead and confront her about it at the wedding and tell her dad that he can pay for the ceramony...I hate cheaters

Bro I cheat all the time...There are better and better women in every corner...

In reply to: Bro I cheat all the time...There are better and better women in every corner... What is wrong with you?! Don't you ever think about how your girl feels when you cheat on her?! Your post is the worst I've ever read and it really pisses me off!! I'm really not wanting to be mean but if I write anymore I'm afraid I will be.