How old were you when you lost your virginity?

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i was 13

In reply to: i know alot of guys who would respect that, including me i second that opinion

i was 16 and don't regret it. there is no way i would have waited until marriage. i gained experience and learned with different partners over time, and frankly some were lousy in bed. say all you want about true love, getting stuck with a lousy lover for the rest of your life would suck, and would negatively affect your marriage.

Albeitmyself,Talk away, girl. Talking openly about rape isn't "bragging"; it's educating... and the only ones who object to it are those who, because of their own insecurities, prefer to cling to ignorance. Whether or not you press charges is your deal. No one can make that decision for you; nobody else has lived through your experience or has any right to tell you how you "ought to" feel. For the record, I will say that your concerns are valid and justified; rape victims are dragged through hell and back in the court system here in the U.S., and the conviction rate for sexual offenders is discouragingly low. I assume the same probably holds true in Canada. If you are happy and enjoying life, then you must be on the right path. If the way you choose to heal is by letting go of the anger and betrayal and forgiving you rapist, then that's up to you. You have to find peace any way you can. Your "forgiving" attitude is extremely typical of women who are raped by loved ones, friends, or acquaintances (as opposed to stranger rape). You are far from alone, and your attitude is not wrong if that's what you need to do to move forward with your life. Don't let ANYBODY shut you down or tell you to stop talking about your rape. You talk about it as much as you want to, as much as you can stand to... shout it from the rooftops, if it makes you feel better. As long as we let others shame us into silence, there is no chance of healing. As long as society continues to sideline and marginalize victims, sexual violence against women will remain a commonplace occurence.I applaud your courage. You just keep your head up, and carry on. ~ IvyPS I visited your website; very nicely done.Feel free to join my webrings if you'd like (it's a good way to get free publicity/ promotion for your site).The link to my webring page is:http://www.grrrlnation.bravehost.com/webring.htmlStay strong. And keep talking. People ARE listening, and your voice is meaningful to them.

17. Don't regret it much but i wish i had waited until now (i'm 19) cuz i have the best ever boyfriend at the moment and I wish I was virgin

Think of it this way... If you were a virgin you would be a different person and may have never met your now boyfriend.

that book (Stairway To Hell) seems like a joke... some people are just plain nuts.

well, 19. I lost in a drunken threesome with two grad students, they were stacked beyond belief and were real hot. Funny how Med students can be so hot, but i really wanted to hold off for someone I actually loved, but oh well.

WELL HERE I AM 23 AND HAVEN'T LOST IT STILL. I'M STILL WAITING FOR THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE TO DO IT WITH

16; i never regret it, since i'm still with the same guy, and we were both each other's first. BUT I wish i would have waited. I think it'd be more romantic later on in life. But, it still can.

(I know this may seem off topic but I think I saw someone write something similar)When I was 13 I had nearly been raped by someone 15 yrs older than me. When I noticed his hints I politely tried to pretend I didn't notice, and push him away. I was giving him a back massage and he kept turning around and sticking his face down there. I was sort of shocked and simply didn't know what to do. I knew that eventually he might definately push things even further, because now he couldn't even control himself. (I kept turning him back around and he would simply go back to that position) So I pretended I got Vicks in my eye(I was using the vaporub to massage his back, and if you've used it before you'll know it stings your eyes like hell) and I ran off to the bathroom. For a while he lingered outside the door and then he started apologizing to me.By the way...he was a family members boyfriend...so I felt a lot of guilt, and never told anyone because I felt the blame would be directed at me. =\Right now I'm 15 and currently in my very first relationship. Its long distance and I've been with him for an entire year. We have been planning lately when we finally get together what we would do. I decided that the only thing we will do together is oral and cuddling. I wont have actual sex unless I'm taking birth control. We're very serious and love each other very much, he's definately what I consider to be the best boyfriend in the world. Waiting is just impossible.

Sounds like you handled a potentially dangerous situation very well. I don't think, however, that you have reason to feel guilty...unless you were a little more of a tease and led things on more than you indicated.Is this guy still involved with the family?

I am waiting till mariage. Im 28 now.

Will you be my wife?

I wasn't really leading him on, I was simply putting on lotion on my hands and then he asked me for some, then things moved from there.Hmm, no. My sister broke up with him, she didn't actually tell me that, but there was a time where she was crying during the night and sad all week, and he never called anymore.Thanks for caring I was feeling that way because I notice when someone doesn't want to believe something happened then they tend to push the blame towards someone else and defend the person they love. I was afraid my sister would hate me and my mom would be angry. But I don't think I should worry anymore, he's long gone.

Sounds this is, thankfully, a closed issue with no one getting hurt. I wouldn't think of it again. Glad you're OK.

it's difficult to know what the chic wants sometimes

I'm sorry, but no means no. If someone doesn't give consent or says no, it's rape. There's no 2 ways about it.

Just had to get that off my chest. In answer to the question, I was somewhere between 5 & 7 (not sure exactly, all I have are the memories), and then not again until yesterday - I've just turned 19.

2 days ago... I was 16

Just turned 17, gonna lose it this Friday

I was two.