What to do. u tell me.

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I'm not slamming you. I'm just pointing out that you can't expect everyone to type a perfect sentence. However, those who do speak english and have trouble putting together an understandable sentence are the ones who should be criticized.

I agree...like that d_ _ _ text message vocabulary that ppl are using. I h8 it!

Hey fellows,,,I can understand your issues but try to solve this guy problem.So Mr.SoSad as it is said in different post by different posters that virginity can be lost by different ways not by just having sex with your penis or fingure.But the you also mentioned about that she feels pain when you try to penetrate.I think because it is her first time, it'll get better by time and if you make feel relaxed.And now lets see what the other experienced posters has to say about the "pain" issue.

HELLO U SAID ..WHAT DOES IT MATTER IF SHE IS OR IS NOT A VIRGINWELL MY ANSWER TO UR QUESTION IS THAT IT MATTERS.. IT IS NOT ONLY A QUESTION OF VIRGINITY , IT IS A QUESTION OF MANNER, DISCIPLINEM HONOUR OF DIGNITY. IN FUTURE U CAN BEAR THAT UR WIFE IS NOT A VIRGIN BUT EVERY PERSON IS NOT LIKE YOU. I AM A MAN OF PRINCIPLES. A GIRL BEING A VIRGIN, MEANT A LOT.. IT REFLECTS HER CHARACTER THAT SHE IS GOOD AND PURE ,, GOT IT...

If you are such a man of principles, what are you doing tring to have sex with her if he doesn't want to?

i think u havent read my lines carefully that we are married.. got it.>?

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i have one doubt can u clearify it. somedays ago we deicided to go for sex,and she is not intrested in sex.

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I guess you don't get it!

what i meant is that,, she is fine when i touch with her body .she is having no problem while i am touching her ,, but she isnt intrested in intercourse as she have heard that it pains a lot.but please listen very patiently ,what i am trying to say is that when i look at her vagina , i dont know why i felt that she is not a virgin though she is telling that she had never sex with any one .. but i dont know why..on seeing vagina i felt like she is not a virgin.. well i found shaving portion of vagina a little blackish. and when i closely try to see her hole carefully i found that hole visibile to some extent , i dint find any hymen over there,, i think that hole should be tightly closed and when i insert my finger in her vagina it was tight to some extent.. i dont know what to do... this thing is killing me inside i can still accept her if she will say that she had done sex wih anyone but she is telling again and again that she had never done with anyone. but my heart is saying that she is lieing.aal what i want is truth because i just want to know the truth whether she is a virgin or not.... plz try to understand ,,,,,andtell me the best way to get the truth ,,

The best thing to do is take her word for it! BTW for your knowledge, the hymen can be broken by riding a bike or other such stuff like that, not only be sex. Maybe you are just not a trusting perosn and that will possibly hinder your future with your wife.

FRIEND.. I KNOW THAT HYMEN CAN GET BROKEN BY MANY WAYS EITHER BY CYCLING OR BY ANY OTHER WAY...BUT I JUST WANT TO KNOW 2 THINGS ..1. IS HYMEN BROKEN OR NOT2. IF HYMEN IS THERE,, THAT MEANS THERE IS NO PROBLEM, AND IF HYMEN HAD GOT BROKEN , THEN HOW TO GET TO KNOW THAT HAD IT GOT BROKEN BY INTERCOURSE OR BY NATURAL WAY....

It took senen mintues to type this? Take her work for it! Why do you doubt her? If she is as tight as you said she is then she is a virgin or she got laid by a rodent. Again give it up! If you want to be fighting this you should be doing it with her. Cause frankly we don't really know anything about you or her. So I'd advise you to get off this "stupid" kick and start trusting her or face the possible consequences.

How many times do you think you've asked her?

WILL IT BE VERIFIED WITH THE HELP OF CERTAIN TESTS,, OR SHALL WE BOTH TALK TO A GYNACOLOGIST.. IF SHE WILL EXAMINE HER VAGINA.. ON EXAMING VAGINA BY DOCTOR CAN SHE TELL WHETHER HER HYMEN IS THERE OR IS IT OVER,, ??

Are you ******, the hymen can break from brushing your teeth pratically! So stop being such a bitch on the issue! She should dump your ass for the lack of trust you have for her! And if it happen I wouldn't be the least bit suprised! Can you imagine how it feel for her to know that you don't have any trust for her? I bet you can't! So get over it!!

if you don't trust her why did you marry her!!look i'm a chick and mine broke just from ballet most chicks hymen don't break though sex so get over it.and if she don't wanna put out don't make her you say you love her so much but you tryin to make her have sex with you nice way to lose the women you love.

In this situation, even a gynecologist wouldn't be able to tell if she's a virgin or not.
Having a good marriage means you can surrender all your trust to that person. AverageJoe is right when he said this trust issue can hinder your future relationship with your wife.

Have you ever examined a virgins vagina? How do you know what it is supposed to look like. You just don't seem to get the concept that the hymen can be broken in many ways other than sex. If she wasn't a virgin, she probably wouldn't have this much trouble and pain. And why are you calling her your girlfriend if she is your wife?

well u peoples might be right in ur replies.. and one more thing i have never seen vagina of a virgin girl.. i dont know how does it look like

all i can say is i'm glad you're not MY boyfriend or husband. as all the others have said there is really NO WAY you can tell if a woman is a virgin or not just by looking. there are also no "tests". (jeez this whole topic is making me sick!)your distrust and pressure on this poor woman is just awful and you should be ashamed at what you are putting her through.by the way are you a virgin?

If you truley love her, then shut up about it. Just trust her. And don't presure her into haveing sex with you if she doesn't want to. If it hurts her that much, then don't have sex. Easy as that.