A problem with me and my girl

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Ok, just recently, me and my girlfriend have been becoming less and less sexual. We hang out a lot, and cuddle and kiss, and all that good stuff, but when it comes to actually fooling around, she kicks me out. I asked her today why she keeps kicking me out so early lately, and she said "because I haven't been feeling sexual or whatever, and I know whenever we go to my room that's what we do, and I guess I just don't want to". I am ok with this, other than the fact that she doesn't mind teasing, like rubbing my dick through my pants and what not, but she won't go further anymore. We talked about it, and I asked if it was me, or if the meds that she is taking was doing it, and she said maybe a mixture of both :frowning:... how am I supposed to take that.

Ok, well, she said she knows it's not JUST me, because she hasn't masturbated in about a month, so nothing is really turning her on. So, I asked about her meds, she is taking Zoloft right now, an anti depressant, for her anxiety. About a month ago, when her sex drive seemed to drop, she started taking 100mg, 50mg more than what she originally was taking. I read that zoloft can reduce the sex drive, but it was one of the least likely too. Anyone here know anything that could help, or any information? You guys seem to know so much, I figured this would be the best place to start. Thank you.

id say its the meds .why does she take `em ?

She has social anxiety disorder... There are other factors now that im worried about... Ok, we talk on AIM, that's how we communicate, because she doesn't like phones for some reason. Yes, I know her in real life. Anyways, we will be chatting, then all of a sudden she just leaves her computer... without saying dick. We talked about this, and I was hoping everything would get better, but she still keeps doing it. The other day we were supposed to hang out, but she went out with her mom instead, which is cool and all, except she didn't mention anything to me, so I was left home alone, not knowing what was going on. Then this whole "im not feeling sexual" thing has started, and she isn't positive it's only from the meds... is she losing interest in me in general? She says she likes to hang out and hold me and stuff, but I know a lot of people who do that as "friends", and my feelings are way beyond just being friends now.

It's probably not you. Zoloft can really kill a sex-life. Prepare to be a monk.

Zoloft does definitely reduce sex drive. There are several newer antidepressants that don't do that, but I'm not sure how useful they are for anxiety disorders.

Im on it & it kills ur sex drive, dude its not u,,i used 2 be up 4 it daily 2 or 3 times ,,now i have the sex drive of a 90 year old ,,,

Well, I guess I am going to have to just beat off more often... It's ok I guess, just really sucks that I can't be intimate with the girl I love. She told me "if my prudeness gets to be too much for you, let me know, maybe im not the right girl for your" which tells me that she isn't willing to sacrific anything but our relationship, which hurts... But her health is more important than me getting a handjob I guess. I guess I will just have to see how things play out. We have a weekend getaway planned for November, just me and her... it's going to be really hard being alone with her for 3 days and 2 nights and not fooling around at all :frowning: but oh well, thanks for the help everyone.

i can almost assure you it's the zoloft and not you. (which doesn't do much to rectify the situation, but at least it's something!)i started taking paxil a little while ago and it absolutley crushed my sex drive. even when i DID want it, i couldn't come, and i typically come with minimal stimulation. i had "situational depression"....a combo of losing my job, my sister dying, my mom dying...anyway the paxil was a godsend when i needed it, but the zero sex thing sucked. i recently weaned myself off of it and things are back to normal. (yay!) and note that I said "weaned". i don't know about zoloft, but paxil is HARD to get off of. there is a whole website dedicated to people struggling to get off of it. you can't just quit -- it really f's up your brain and you can't function. it took me months of tapering to finally be paxil free.