What if it just dosent fit

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Hello. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a eight months. Over the last 3 months, we've been psyching ourself up to "Go the distance" Around a month ago, we have been, dare i say "attempting" [Note] My girlfriend is a tiny girl, around 5'2 and (while crude) i can fit the full length and width of two fingers most days, and some all three (Middle, pointer, and the one to the right of the middle ) I am considered above average (Which i thought was a good thing!) ranging from 6 1/2 to 7 when erect. Now, to buisness. My girlfriend can fit it in while on top, however, it hurts her extremely bad. We always have foreplay, and usually when we attempt is she is VERY wet, to say the least. Second, we have used lubed condoms and water based lubes. it just dosent work. Also, I have never been able to put it in in another position, as she tenses up and wiggles and dosent enjoy it.Any advice? Suggestions? Thanks in advance!Sidewinder

It probably is a matter of her being tense, unless you are very thick. The her-on-top position gives her more control, and so less tension, though there's clearly still a problem.One approach to treating the problem is a set of graduated dildos, getting wider and wider, that she can practice with. I believe some sex therapists have used thick-walled test-tubes for this. As she gets more used to the feelings she'll tense up less and it won't hurt.

hold on, how many times have you had sex? was she a virgin when you started?

Well, Im a solid two and a half inch's wide..so rather thick i think so. Also, The test tube and dildo thing is out of the question as she dosent believe in masturbation of any form--even if im inserting them. As with the below poster, yes, she is a virgin/was..depends on your definition..we have never been able to have intercourse due to the crying..Its just odd, ya know? :blush:

Im a solid two and a half inch's wideYou've got to be kidding. If it's 2 1/2 inches all the way around, that means that your girth is almost 8 inches, which is enormous for a human. You measure girth by wrapping a tape measure aroud the middle of the shaft. (Or use a string, unwrap it, and measure its length.)Seriously, what you describe is pretty big.

Oh, sorry i always just stuck a ruler across to the left and the right

It sure sounds like he's measuring diameter, which would equate to a girth (circumference) of 7.854"

If you could get her to not be so tense, it would work better. Do something to ease her up.

Distance across is very difficult to measure accurately (except with calipers), and is complicated by the fact that a penis does not have a perfectly circular cross-section. Girth around can be measured accurately easily with a cloth measuring tape, or with a strip of paper or piece of string that is then flattened out and measured.7.85" would indeed be very unusually large, though not impossible.

Well then there's your problem!! She's a virgin! Most girls will experience pain, discomfort and maybe even some bleeding when they try to have sex for the first time. She's probably nervous about it too, and your girth is a bit of a challange for a virgin...so the best you can do for now is to get her accustomed to thickness. If the graduated dildoes are out of the question, then use your fingers, gradually increasing the number. Tell her that loosing her virginity will hurt, no matter what the position is, but unfortunately that is the way to a sex life...She doesnt "believe in masturbation"? Why not? (this better not turn into one of them masturbation is a sin debates!) Tell her that it may make the whole sex thing easier if she gets accustomed to a dildo first before trying your penis.