Ok, here goes...
I'm 16 and have been with my girlfriend for almost 7 months now. We've done sexual stuff for about 5 or 6 times now, and every single time I have problems with maintaining a good erection. I can get it up to a point, but then it just seems to go all downhill from there(no pun intended). It mainly happens when I go to put a condom on. After I get it on, I just seem to lose my erection pretty much completely. And to add to that, I fail to come any time she gives me a handjob or a blowjob, as well as during sex in its entirety. Now granted, I have absolutely no problems if I masturbate, everything goes just fine, but when it comes to the actual stuff, I fail every time. Don't know if it will help, but as a note, we have been doing things over about an almost 2 month period. Could it be because I'm stressed? Am I maybe masturbating too much? Any help, answers, suggestions, whatever, are greatly appreciated, because I am pretty much out of answers at this point.
Probelms with erections and getting off
Ok, here goes...
Welcome to A2A, Fennec. You can be open here and there are a lot of helpful folks. Your situation is an important one to fix.
There may be several things going on here and I think you hit on two of them. Stress can certainly be a problem, and you might try cutting back on the masturbation. Where are you guys doing the "sexual stuff?" Is it possible that in the back of your mind there is a fear of getting caught? This can certainly raise the stress level. Over masturbating can reduce your level of horniness.
As far as the condom goes, what size is your penis? While a condom is intended to be snug, one that is too tight can contribute to lack of an erection.
Hand jobs and blow jobs can be difficult. Guys can sometimes become so used to the pressure and speed that they themselves use (in masturbation) that when their girlfriend attempts it (while enjoyable) they can have a difficult time getting off.
One further question. Is this the first girl you have been sexually involved with? Contrary to urban lore,the first time, while special, is often not like the 4th of July.
Good for you that you're using a condom. Don't give that up. Make sure you're sheathed anytime you're near her vagina.
Thanks for the welcome.As for the location, the actual sex has come in two places so far: in the back of my car in an empty parking lot, and in the back of a movie theater(I know, I know, but ours has large-back seats that are hard to see over XD), so yeah, fear of getting caught is definitely hitting in my mind. I'd take her to my house, but her mother is really protective, so getting her out of the house doesn't come too often. As for my size, last I checked, I was around 6", maybe 6.5". And yeah, she's my first.
I really do think that we've found your answer. It's a combination of not being relaxed (getting caught) and first-time jitters.
Hey I know what your going through.I had the same problem lately. I never had problems getting an erection before. Then when we finnaly decided to have sex. sigh. For the first couple of months I was kinda nervous about being caught so I could't relax. Once I started MB less and found a good place to do it that helped alot! (and yeah it's great that your useing a condom!)