This thread is a response to Africa's post: "can someone please start a thread for people to say if theyve ever been bullied? One thing that helps is knowing that its not just you".
I'll put my hand up.
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Have you ever been bullied?
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I was bullied all the way from kindergarten til 8th grade. Then a little in high school until i got my attitude where i dont put up with peoples shit
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I think everyone who ever drew a breath has been bullied at some point in life, what makes the difference is in the people that allowed it to continue and those that put a stop to it.
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yep. been bullied.
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My grade 9 year was a living hell that drove me into a really low depression. I wasn't physically bullied, but mentally I felt helpless, disturbed, and cut off. I lost my trust for people, something I'm still dealing with although is definitely getting better. However, I have mostly recovered from that and I learnt many things to help improve my social skills and improve my self confidence. That bullying was both one of the worst and ironically one of the best things that has happened to me. It's something I can reflect upon and ask myself, "how could that have gone better?" By no means does that condone bullying though.
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Yeah I was bullied up until a couple of years ago. The people who bullied me changed when we left for college, and are now pretty nice people. They accept that they were complete arseholes to me.... And said they had low self esteem which is why they did it. It's no excuse really, but you can understand some of it looking back.
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I was bullied in the first year of 'big school'.
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i've been bullied when i was about 12/13 ish , but not physically hurt or anything, they just made me feel like shit..my dad got a new job so we moved away anyway which i was pleased about so i could have a fresh start etc i only wish i didnt put up with it. looking back you kinda think how pathetic these people are! im quite fiesty now, lol.
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yeah, as you probably know i have. Nowadays i dont get bullied, occasionally some older punk will start shit with me, and i usually have to let it slide because nobody starts on anybody unless they are in a gang/have older siblings. Id rather let some fucker call me a 'wanker' or shove into me and let it slide then be set upon by 20 huge guys. They never do it when im with a bunch of my friends, just when im alone. And i refuse to be surrounded by guards when i want to go for lunch. Taking friends with me everywhere would limit my freedom, which is more important to me than not getting hassled once in a while.
I no longer feel bad about myself when someone hassles me ( i call it hassling because its not bullying if its not repeated ) because i know that its not me, its them for doing it to someone smaller/weaker/in a lower position of power. Dont feel sorry for yourself, feel sorry for the bully.But before now it was hell. Im pretty free of being hassled at all now, but in the first year, it was hell. This whigger ( white kid who acts like a gangsta, or tries to, not that im being racist ) used to bully me like hell, and get his thug friends to beat me up, though that didnt happen often. The next year wasnt so bad, and then after that it got worse as this thug who was in all my classes used to bully me ( he slapped me and put cocoa butter on my face at one point, and people used to taunt me endlessly for that year ) and now that i have good friends, im stronger, i know what im doing, i cant be bullied, because i know how to deal with it in every sense of the term.
There you go. If you're being bullied and want to call to mind someone who had it worse, think of me. Not that ive had it worse than everyone, i know kids who still get beaten up, and some kids who have killed themselves.
one problem i still face though: when im an adult, will i look back and feel pathetic about having been bullied? I dont know.
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I remember in grade 6.. these "cool popular" girls made fun of me because i wore these kodiak boots. I was in grade 6!! Who cares what I wore right.. and they kept calling me a buffalo and trying to shove lucky charms in my mouth calling it buffalo food.. it really hurt my feelings. One of the girls died when I was in grade 10.. I didnt really feel that bad.. i feel really mean saying it but she made my life a living hell.
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In reply to:
one problem i still face though: when im an adult, will i look back and feel pathetic about having been bullied? I dont know.
It's hard to predict how you'll feel about it when you're an adult. However, I've seen a lot of studies showing a correlation between being bullied as a kid and psycho-social problems as an adult. They could be minor or severe, but there's an increased risk as a result of being bullied. Fortunately, even if this occurs, you can take control and find the help you need to overcome the problems.
And...on top of all that...if you are aware of the risks of problems as an adult, as you seem to be, it's possible that this awareness might curtail whatever negative effects it might have. Just a theory...
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I got bullied through most of grade school. What was really tough was when this guy I had a crush on called me fat and pushed me down on the playground- I remember getting home and running to my room and crying for a long time. Another bully in my grade school years was my (adult) uncle, (let me clarify: he did not attend my grade school) who would call me buffalo butt, and would make beeping noises whenever I backed up... Which sounds funny to me now, but when you get teased for something you are insecure about, it is not funny at all. My uncle stopped teasing me when I hit middle school, mainly because I started fighting back, and as for my classmates- I went to a completely different school than almost every single one of them, and haven't really talked to most of them since. Oh well.
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i have been bullied.... i know i'm not the smartist guy.. and i can;t spell.. i got picked on in early elementry school. not so mutch hitting or anything just name calling and hurtting my feelings. no one wanted me onthere spellingteam either but i was wanted when it came to games...specailly soccer.then my mom found out i got a learning disublity and had to fight wiht the school to get me tested.. bla bla really had no problums since that with bulling untill 9th grade. then it started over again. name calling, pushing , hit in head with my locker, tripped, knocke dbooks down, took my food, made me give them answers (and that was stupid cuz i'm not smart..) spit on.. bla bla the list goes on.. then i got pulled out of school and started home schooling.
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I was bullied (well verbally), but a lot of that aggressive shit ended when I started playing football. Most of it after that came from fellow football teamates.
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i was bullied for a little while in my early years around 12-13....the guythat bullied me was someone like 4 years older then me and lived up the road...him and his friends would follow me and my friends off the buss all the way home pushing us tot he floor..etc.... in my teen years i ddnt fget bullied much as i was quite well built
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I just found out today that I get to go to a really cool seminar on Bullying and Social Agression tomorrow. I didn't think I'd be able to go cause it costs $300. But I worked a connection and my friend called me this morning and I'm going! Should be great information. I know when I'm there tomorrow, I'll probably be thinking of all the stories that have been shared here.I'll be there for all of us!
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I dont know that I was bullied, per se. Middle school was a really difficult time in my life. It was especially hard because the girl who "bullied" me was my best friend (and her new friends) from the time we were 6 years old, until 6th grade. As soon as we got to middle school, her whole attitude towards me changed.
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Never been bullied hardcore, no. Perhaps thats a result of my huge mates, but sure, everyones been bullied before, even if its a name that hovers around your head for a few days until it gets old.
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I don't believe it's true that everyone has been bullied. If you water down the definition of bullying to mean anytime someone is mean to you, maybe... But bullying is so much more than that.
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I was bullied in elemantary school and I did not get the chance to pay him back untill after I was an adult and ran into him at a bar. I paid him back in full force and several stitches.The fact I ever put up with it still bothers me, the original incident was about 28 years ago. Everytime I think about not fighting back that kicks up in my head and the fact I ran off to begin with is something I never forget and is in my head everytime I look in a mirror.Iv never taken shit again nor will I ever but one incident stands clear in my mind