i believe that if you find someone you are madly in love with, that youd be spending your life with, getting married to, that whole deal, that its alright then.
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Is Anyone SAVING their self?
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I'm not saving myself. As soon as i get a chance, I'll do it
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I am saving myself for marriage. I find nothing unnatural or unhealthy about this decision and I know plenty of people who are doing the same. There's nothing wrong with you if you're patient and wait till marriage to have sex. It is my belief that it makes a marriage stronger not weaker.
Some may believe that waiting can sometimes lead to divorce because people end up asking "what if" and cheat on their spouse. If that's the case, then I wonder why they were ever married in the first place because you do not truly love your spouse if you are willing to throw everything away by cheating on them. I'd imagine people could excercise some self-control and not lust after someone that is not their spouse. Great lovers are made, not born so there are plenty of things that a couple can do to improve their sex life if it is lack luster.
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It will work best if you have someone who shares the same views as you that is the key...
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I agree with you. Finding someone who shares the same views as you is the key.
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I don't entirely disagree with you. You have some good points.
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Some may believe that waiting can sometimes lead to divorce because people end up asking "what if" and cheat on their spouse. If that's the case, then I wonder why they were ever married in the first place because you do not truly love your spouse if you are willing to throw everything away by cheating on them.
Like I said earlier, the sanctity of marriage in today's society is nothing compared to what it once was. A lot of people get married because they have been bf/gf for so long and they don't know anything else. Or because they think marriage might change something in the relationship for the better. The reasons go on and on. It seems that these days people marry for the wrong reasons.
I'm a very mathematical person. So I look at things this way...
How many married couples do you know waited for marriage and are happy? How long have they been together?
How many married couples do you know didn't wait for marriage and are happy? How long have they been together?
Right now, I only know one couple that waited until marriage and are still together and happy. They've been married for over 40 years now.
I know a few people who waited until marriage only to have that marriage fail. And every one of them are in a new marriage and they're happy. One couple has been together about 12 years and the other two couples for over 20.
After talking to people (generally people in their mid 30s or older) and taking in what they have to say and then looking at the numbers... I don't think waiting for marriage really makes a difference long term.
Yes, if you get married and the two of you are virgins and you have sex together then the bond between the two of you will magically sparkle... But, from what I've seen, it seems to only be temporary.
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VERY WELL SAID SWTCH...I applause your Response....And you ACTUALLY backed up your reason for you statement with smart facts! WOW
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Actually, he didn't back up his arguments with facts at all. He just told us about a few people he knows. And while I won't discount personal experience or observation, it certainly doesn't rise to the level of proof.In fact, if you do the work (which maybe I'll try to get to this weekend) statistics show that couples who didn't cohabitate or didn't have sex before marriage, have longer, healthier marriages.
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Yeah i'm saving myself too. But you gotta question your inentions behind doing it really. If you're saving yourself to stop yourself having kids you're more likely to break it than if for some crackpot religious reason like me At least that's what I think.Seriously i think it's worth it tho.
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Personally marriage isn't that big of a deal for me. But I wish I had waited for a loving relationship (which I am now in) for my first time.
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not until marriage but basically yeah