Well I've been thinking, do girls/women like it if you listen to them and empathize and sympathize with them. Is it also true that if a women, no matter if she's your mate, when she tells you a problem, you shouldn't try to give her advise on how to solve it, you should just listen, otherwise it make her feel you don't think she can sort it out for herself?? Thanks for taking the time for answering this you guys
Is it true
Probably the women would be better at answering this. I think nearly all people likes others to listen and empathise, and whether they are looking primarily for a sympathetic ear or practical help depends on the circumstances more than on their gender. I think it's an over-simplification to suggest that women look for sympathy and men look for practical advice: in fact men are more likely to be annoyed if someone does something for them that they consider to be their job, and it's well-known that women are much more likely to ask for directions than men are.
There is evidence that men tend to go into problem solving mode when someone tell them their problems, and that women often want to be heard out and allowed to express themselves.
Woman: My boyfriend does this thing and that thing that I don't like.
Man: Well then, dump him.
Woman: What do you mean? I love him!
Of course, it's never safe to generalize.
If a girl you like is confessing all these problems to you about her boyfriend troubles that usually means she sees you more as a friend. I try to help them out with other problems, and let them know that I can help if they want it.