Hey guys, i have a major problem that i cant find a salution that is right for me. maybe you can help. ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i love him so much. but as time goes by me and him fight more and more. we are at the point were we are constantly fighting and i ended up sleeping over my parents house a few nights. i lived with him for 2 years and raised his 2 kids (from his ex wife). i love them to death. so my problem is...... we have been working on our relationship for a wile and there are no results from it. im at the point were im ready to give up. but im scared to be without him. i got so use to him that i dont think i can let go. i tired before but we ended up getting back together. i really dont like that way he treats me,like he uses me, maybe its not true but thats what it seems. i want to move on but im not sure that its the right desition. we even talked about getting married. i dont think i can change him from his ways anymore. and i just need advice on how i can let go.if you tell me i need to go out with the girls i cant because all my friends aree tied down and dont rea,lly go out so im on my own.I hope that advise you guys give me helps THANX
How to let go?
I'm not exactly sure if YOU know what exactly you want, in which case there is no right or wrong answer here, so I'll take a stab at it. If you wanna stay with him, maybe you should tell him what you just told us, try to have a serious conversation with him(not a fight), if he respects what you say, and really cares for you he will be more considered(or at least try). I f he either ignores you, starts screaming at you, or doesn't even give the chance to talk with him about it, then you have to move on. How? That you can only find out for yourself.
hey angel. you are in a bad situation and i dont think there is an easy way out. i'm in a somewhat similar situation of trying to let go to someone that i have strong feelings for. my mate said he went through the same thing a while ago. he told me something like "you just have to separate and give it time. as much as you think that it will never feel right, that you'll be screwed forever, -it wont. time will heal it. but during that first slug of it, where your mind never shuts up and you cant rest at night, you're screwed. its the hard yards. you just gotta slug through it, stick it out. time will heal all wounds"
i would like to think it's true
think hard, make a decision, and stick by it!! do not fold under pressure
just word of advice, if you do deciede to call it off, don't see him often. it will only make things harder
I agree with cool. If you decide to break it off, at first it's likely that it will be very tough without him and you feel like you will never be okay again. But you WILL be okay. Time does heal, just hang in there. And remember, you don't need to make it harder for yourself than it really is. When/if you're no longer together, try to think of other things than him, don't go into thinking about the great memories related to him or looking at the photos of you two together. That would only make it worse. Do things you like, find something new and interesting to focus your life on.