Problem with GF

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heya, this is my first post on the forums (theyre great:D) but ive been reading for a long time, found some very helpfull things here that you wouldn't find anywhere else! Anyway onto the point ==========>

I've been with my GF for 6 months, the best 6months of our lives, never been so close to someone as i am with her, we have spoken all day of every day since we've been together(we text a LOT :d), we go out 2-4 times a week, I love her and she loves me back and we're really happy together and we tell eachother everyday..

fings are great for us in all areas but sexually(yeah i know she isn't 18 and i would never force or push her into anything, she's so special to me) The problem is that we talk about sexual things all the time (young and horny ;d and we spend a lot of close time together, cuddling, laying down together watching movies and stuff)and its all good in talk, and we touch eachother thru our cloths and underneath(she usually goes for me first :D) and its great, and she loves it when i touch her back.

but its really confusing with what she wants to do and what she isnt ready for, for instance, she will talk about doing stuff, and joke about stuff, in her mind she would love too, but she is insecure because she thinks she finks she is bigger than she is (she's a size 16, i love it) and she sends me pictures of her in underwear etc, but she is pretty uncomfortable me seeing her even in underwear in person cuz she finks i will be turned off when infact i love her curves, and she really aint that big at all, so she is really quite insecure about some things, as we all are.

I really do love her, and i respect that, it's totally fine, our relationship is deep and meaningfull, but its kinda of a headache if she'll playfully talk about sex and we tease eachother and stuff, and she would say somewthing along the lines off " argh cant you come round now? i so need some," and "id do this and that" etc, but when it comes to it i have no idea what she is readyfor and what she isnt, and it can be kinda frustrating when someone is so forward in talk, confidently sends u different pictures and stuff, and when your so close to sum1 that u can happily enjoy an evening just being with eachother, kissing and cuddling and messing around.

Sorry for the banter just had to let it out ;D

I don't know what to do anyway, should i just ask her or just let things go as they are? i love her and would never hurt her, but i have to admit sometimes when ive gone to concerts and stuff, ive thought to myself if i met a girl and she wanted to have a drunken fling and no one would ever know would i do it? and i really wouldnt want to, but things can get so sexually frustrating with all the sex talk, the touching and kissing etc, and then not really follow thru into anything properly sexual oher than the putting her hand in and messing with my willeh ;d its nice to touch her back, see her face filled with pleasure, but it can be kinda dissapointing that she doesnt want me to see her in underwear etc, as she obviously has me in my underwear all the time ;d if things werent so much in talk and not follow thru i wudnt mind waiting, it just plays on the mind a lot.

So longstory short, just talk to her about it? maybe ask her to not be so forward when we chat and stuff, so either of us arent so sexually charged?

Or just keep quiet, and enjoy things as they are, try notto take things too literally and wait for her be comfortable with her body without cloths on, on her own time? and delete the underwear pics she sends me, cuz they really aint helping :p "look a new bra and panties!" :P

Thanks and sorry again bout the long read.

edit : i have no problem in waiting tillshe's 18, 20, 50 or whatever it doesnt matter, thought id add incase batty creases like the guy below accuse of me of being or doing something wrong :S

Your 20 and shes 17, she sends you pics of her in her panties ?Did ya realize that she doesnt have to be nude, or engaged in any sex acts for it to be considered child porn?Good job, now you told us all on the word wide web your a collector of child porn.

lol collecor of child porn? if my gf tells me she loves me and sends me a picture of her in underwear, asking me if i like her new set, how is that a collector of porn? i dont want pictures of her in the nude, nor hav i ever asked for a picture of anything :s

you dotn have to ask, you dont have to beg, or tell. she doesnt need to be nude, she does not need to be performing sex acts, she needs only be suggestive and provocative. your texts count as well. it hasnt been long since a couple assholes in Utah got locked up for exactly what your doing. under the laws of obsenity what matters is if a court views it as obsecene. If its abscene, its porno. the rules say some shit about if anyone can consider it to be offensive. Think her parents would like to see those pics? think if they knew you wouldnt be sitting in jail right now waiting for bail charged with statutory rape?Look into shit, should anyone find those pics, should anyone find those texts, should her parents decide to do so, your as good as ass fucked.

Where did you read he's 20?

Originally Posted By: ralesk

Where did you read he's 20?

In his profile.

actually I got the ages from teh original un edited post he made. For the record I didnt accuse anyone of anything, The pics and sex talk are enough to be charged with statutory rape, even with child porn.admitting it is even worse, but only half as dumb as having them to begin with. I dotn really think that 17 to 20 isa huge deal, fuck I used to bang 18 and 19 year old girls with reckless abandon and I was 32, I also fucked a couple that were over 40 when i was 28. But then.... Im not THAT girls PARENTS.

Long winded legal stuff:It depends on the age of consent; usually statutory rape (under 18, if the age of consent is lower) only applies when the older partner is in a position of power. Otherwise it would be indecent/sexual assault, and/or sexual interference, and/or corrupting a minor.Stat rape example: If the age of consent is 14, and you're 20; you can legally have sex with mutual consent. However, if you're say; the younger persons teacher, employer etc, then yes; it would be statutory rape. Also, the age difference would be a factor in the case, as well as the type of relationship, and power balance.As far as child pornography is concerned: Child Pornography as it is defined in the Canadian Criminal Code (obviously state laws may differ) is anything recorded on video/animation/pictorial, audio, or written material that shows a minor (under 18) in an explicit sex act, or their genitals/anal region. Or written descriptions or advocation for sex with a minor etc etc.Therefore; in all reality, the girl showing pictures of her in her underwear does NOT fall under the definition of pornography; nor more than if she were to send him a picture of her in her bathing suit. BTW: Regardless of the age, no parent wants to see their child posing for photos in their underwear.Also, why shouldn't he admit it here? He's rather faceless here; so I'd rather he find out THIS WAY through popular opinion (or hard fact) and cease his deviant behaviour (or illegal, if it can be proven by fact); rather than him ignorantly continuing on his way. Please refrain from treating this guy as a master-mind pedophile; that just doesn't appear to be the case.

Regarding the OPThe legal age of consent is 16 years old in England; therefore this 20 year old is not 'raping' her, neither by law, circumstance, or morally. As far as the pictures; the only English law resource I could find was that the age of pornographic pictures is 18 and up; however, I couldn't find a proper definition on what English law says about 'indecent' photographs except this "involved in sexual activity or posed to be sexually provocative." Someone who is more familiar with English law may be able to explain this better.

Originally Posted By: HelmsmaNHi Adam1986, Welcome to Afraid to Ask.As to what to do, the choice to break the law is ultimately up to you, so make sure you know what the law is in your area. If I understand correctly, it's 16 in your area of the globe.If she is of age and just teasing, not wanting or willing to follow through with your desires, you should politely tell her that this makes you horny and uncomfortable, and to please stop with the teasing already.i concur with him on this one. i do support laws of consent though, most definatly, for reasons of security of course. [usually to protect the women though: sorry ladies]

OK I'm from the UK too, so I can shed a bit of light here.16 here is considered pretty much the age for anything of that nature. If she was less than 16 then I would be pretty concerned. But she's not. She's 17. It's absolutely fine. He's not going to jail. Besides - SHE sent it to HIM. I assume she's sent these pictures through Picture Message/MMS, in which case, hows he supposed to know what it us until he opens the message?He can't be held responsible.You're saying that if he has sex with her then he's a paedophile? Nah. Not in this country. Hell, half the country would be in jail if that were the case!Now, back on topic - just a thought here but you say that SHE is usually the one to initiate any groping that may occur, and that she likes it when you do it back. So maybe she thinks that you're not so keen on her if you don't do it first. Sounds stupid I know, but girls aren't the most logical creatures in the universe.Show her that you really are interested in her and would like to take things further. She may agree, she may not. As long as you don't force anything you should be fine. Make sure the mood is right though.I was in a similar situation to you actually. I was 20 with a 17 year old and she would initiate it, but I took that as a sign that she wanted to go further. She would start by getting me to massage her hoohoos, and after a little while I moved my hand downstairs and she didn't stop it, so I carried on. 1 hour later she's naked and I'm scared to death! So make sure you're prepared Incidentally, nice use of the term "batty crease"! I loved it! Big up yourself.

i think we lost sight of the fact that he's just a guy who wants to get off his chest taht he loves his gf very much has respected her wishes.