ok, im a virgin. and i know that when you have sex the first time its supposed to hurt bc its breaking the hymen (popping the cherry) so im REALLY scared to have sex bc i dont know how much its going to hurt.i mean,am i going to cry,is it wripping?can someone just kinda help me with how much pain and kinda how it "feels"thanks, im always so worried about this.
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Hurting and sex
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Guy here, but I'll help.
Yes it'll hurt, it might only sting a little or it could have you balling your eyes out, it depends on you. But breaking the hymen doesn't happen all the time for virgins. A lot of the times it can happen while being fingered, or even heavy excersise can break it.
Don't be scared about it, just be prepared for it. I broke my ex's during our first time and she said it hurt, but that it didn't put her off or anything. For her it was just a little prick (not me, the hymen breaking) and after she felt ok and was happy to continue.
Also you may want to have tissues ready because it can sometimes bleed.
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I haven't had sex but do remember beaking my hymen (effing tampon) and basically it's not that bad, or wasn't for me. It was more of an "owch" and a shock rather then actual pain.It will also depend on your pain threshold.Basically I'm sure it's nothing to warrent you being that scared about.
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Originally Posted By: CuteNCrazybeaking my hymen (effing tampon)Ah yes, thats the other one.Whenever explaining other ways that a hymen can break I always list 3 ways:Other sexual actsTamponsExcersise
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alrighty....well, ur first time is uncomfortable and slightly painful.....for me wut it felt like is if you open ur mouth and stick one finger each coener and pull (like if u were makeing a funny face)...but you pulled a little to hard...you know, that overly streched feeling....some words of advise to make it less painful are :1. use ALOT of extra lube...i mean go to the store and buy some...and re-apply as often as nessesary...i cant stress lube enough2. i had my bf gradually work up to 3 fingers when he fingered me to slowly strech it b4 we actually tryed sex (if you choose to try this aproch....tell him not to force it, just take ur time...he gradually worked up from 1 finger being really tight to 3 going in easily...over like 2 months i believe)...i believe that this helped alot.3.try to make sure u are turned on b4 u do it (this will help you be a little bit looser down there)4. tell your bf to go slowly and to be gently....and tell him that you are nerviouse...basicly comunication is key (my first time i told my bf that i wanted him to talk to me wile we were doing it....it made me feel less affraid to hear his voice)5. basicly....make sure you are ready for it....the more afraid you are...the more uncomfortable it will beand about the crying thing...i didnt cry...i didnt hurt that bad for me....it was just a little uncomfortable...i have a pretty high pain tolerance...but all of my friend that i have talked to about this (one of which has a pain tolerance of like zero)....agreed with me that it wasnt really painfull....just tight and a little uncomfortable....hope this helps
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Exercise? What kind of exercise is that vigorous as to break the hymen?
The only thing I could think if is bike riding. Even when doing that, I don't see how a bike seat could penetrate deep enough to break it.
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Its not the penetration, its the movement. Bike riding, horse riding, gymnastics, etc.. they all put strain on the body's flexibility, especially in the pelvic region.
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A quote from HERE. Quote:The hymen is a delicate piece of skin that can stretch and break from sexual intercourse, the use of a tampon, or even vigorous exercise.Now if this information is wrong, then I think that the Afraid2Ask website needs to be updated.
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Depends on the girl, sometimes itll hurt a lot, sometimes it wont. Only do it if you think your ready.
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When I first had sex, it didn't hurt at all. I was relieved.
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It all really depends on the person when it comes to sex for the first time sweetie... it can pinch, it can feel really painful, and then again you may not feel any 'pain' at all.
I got this info from another site... hopefully it'll help some in easing your fears.
Some hymens are elastic enough to permit a penis to enter without tearing, or they tear only partially, and there is NO bleeding at all. When adequately lubricated the vagina is fairly 'flexible' and will stretch without discomfort for most women. Sometimes, a woman has sex for years with no real 'tearing' at all, only stretching of the hymen and then at another time the same woman might tear from 'rough sex' or sex with a different partner with a larger penis. Remnants of the hymen are usually still present until a woman delivers a baby vaginally.