Ok so ive been having this problem lately. I was with a girl for a year and a half, and we jus reciently broke it off. We had a long healthy sexual relationship where I was almost always able to get there through sex. However I've come into a new relationship and we have started having sex...the problem is that after 6 or 7 times with her I still have never been able to get there. We don't use condoms, yeah I know preach to me or whatever, but i dont have the greatest sensitivity and beacuse of that if I use a condom I never ever get there. She seems to be enjoying herself in sex and I do too but it feels like every time im about to get there my dick starts to go soft and its really starting to upset me, so i pull out real quick and act like i got there to make her happy. The only difference between the two girls is that i can tell the old girlfriend was quite a bit tighter, but i dont think that has anything to do with it. Please help because its only a matter of time before my girl finds out and i dont want her to get upset. Thanks.I dunno if this matters really or not but our sex has lasted between 20 min (at someone elses house) and an hour....
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There are at least two things going on here:1. You will get off quicker if the girl is tighter.2. You are probably not relaxed and in an environment when you could get discovered (at someone else's house). Give yourselves a place when you can relax and have plenty of foreplay. 20 min to an hour is really not that long.And yes, you should be using a condom.
Like HelmsmaN said it may be that you are thinking about your ex. You say that your ex was tighter than your current. You could very well be comparing you ex and your current in other ways as well and that could be throwing you off mentally. Sex is physical and mental.