Didn't go up!

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So, me and that girl (from the other posts) were at my place... making out.I had my fingers inside of her... well... you know whispers vagina.And then she asked if I minded her hand in my own pants. I said no... and she put her hands down there and pulled out my... erm whispers penis. About this time something bad started to happen... and I couldn't keep it up (I have never had a gal that close to my schlong, and it had been hard before that.)Then she asked "Do you care if I... you know?" (blow job). I really never got it up and she thought I was nervous 'bout five seconds into it and stopped. She said she feels bad because she thinks she pressured me and thought I was nervous. I fell embarrassed because... of course. And I don't know what to think of this situation. She said she would wait to do that until I felt more comfortable... but I still don't know. I worry that she thinks I'm stupid now. What do I do? Might there be something wrong with me? LQ

If you don't have a problem getting it up any other time, then it was just a case of nerves.It's not uncommon or unusual for that to happen during "a first." Take it a little slower the next time your with your lady, really get into each other and then let nature take it's course. If you don't obsess over it more than likely you'll be hard next time.

I think I have trouble not obsessing over things

Its possible you were just really nervous. As for myself im weird. When i first see her i can get an erection really easily, but i think thats just because im excited to see her. As the day goes on its not so easy.

I have to be really turned on, and "into it" to get a erection, but thats just me. I have a feeling you are probably just nervous since it was your first time having a girl "that close to you"

Well, okay. Thank you, both. My main concern, however, is that she just hates me now I don't think I felt comfortable enough with my previous girlfriend to even want to do that (not that we ever did) until a month or two into the relationship. What if this girl isn't willing to wait that long? With my previous relationship, we were both virgins; and with this girl she is not and has had experience with much older people than myself... so it likely makes me even more nervous. Who knows how long it will take me I really like her. Hell, I feel like shit just knowing that she's busy today and I might not be able to see her till after the weekend.sigh I'm sorry; I'm doing my rambling thing again

I guarantee, she doesn't hate you. At least not over this.

Have you tried talking to her and explaining how you feel? If not, do so. If she doesn't understand or want to wait till your ready then she isn't worth the time your putting into her.

You should really discuss this with her. If anything, she is probably feeling like she is the problem. Like she can't turn you on or that you don't like her. Her anxiety about the situation is probably near that of yours. It would behove both of you to have an open and honest conversation about what each of you are thinking and feeling and hopefully, by so doing, alleviating each others fears and concerns. Then, more than likely, your nervousness and any self depreciating thoughts she may be having can be eased and your relationship can go forth unfettered.

Well, here's what went down after:First, she kept apologizing because she said she felt like she totally pressured me and made me nervous. The next day she said she felt like she practically raped me (which, of course, is not true!)Later that night, though, she said "we will not do that again until you are more comfortable around me"...She really does seem understanding, but at the same time, I am not so sure. Maybe I just need to stop worrying so much over this and let be what will be... God, I just feel so depressed lately...rambling again, sorryThanks for all of your help. You people are great to take time out of your days to offer advice to others.LQ

Maybe I just need to stop worrying so much over this and let be what will beYes

Nervousness, obsessing, and depression do nothing for the libido. Enjoy this girl (if you like her) for who she is, not what she can do for you. As you relax, I think you'll find that other (enjoyable) things will happen.