The bf got angry at himself the weekend. He loves anal sex, and I said no to it because we never had a condom, but he did anyways for a bit until I pushed him off. He felt so ashamed because he almost felt like he "raped" me. he was so upset with himself he couldnt even look at me. I cried so much, and he just left the room and went to bed while i was curled up in my room crying my eyes out. he talked to me the next day and i told him how it wasnt fair of him to have that much control over me. he said he was used to always getting what he wanted in the bedroom, and that hurt because i feel like i wasnt always satisfying him. I dont mind anal sex, but i got used to it because he loves it so much. but i dont want to feel guilty for not putting out for him all the fucking time. he said he was going to listen more now. but still, and that he doesnt want to pressure me. should I get more angry about this? or just drop it? please guys, dont say anything about me leaving him, because it isnt an option. I love him, and he loves me. he said it pissed him off how i was teasing him all day. and i guess he just expected to get it. but he teases me a lot too. and i also said "well, how many times do I give you oral sex, and i dont get anything in return becuase i have to go home?" he felt bad because he never realized that until i told him. so thats a huge tease for me because i want him but i cant always have him. What do i do? =(
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Fucking siiiigh
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Surely the fact that you are talking about it is a good thing, and just what is required? You're both getting to know about each other's feelings better. Lots of things in life are negotiated compromises, and sex is no different.
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I don't know, I would be pretty pissed that he did it anyway after I said not to. I'd ask him if you can put on a strap on and have anal sex with him because you like it. See if he "gets used to it".
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Hey Lish, I wouldn't mind if you took the strap on to me. I'll post about this tomorrow when I have more time.
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I like that we talked about it the next day. But it hurt me emotionally. and he said he's okay now. But I dont think I am. and i just dont know what to say :frowning:
p.s can we not make this go off topic :frowning: well not yet anyways. lol :P
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awww, i feel bad for you girl. Its hard trying to make my man happy without like idk being his sex toy or whatever. I like to make my man happy but sometimes i gota be like dude. I kinda think just drop it now. It seems like you kinda talked about it. It seems like guys dont always know how it is for us. But it seems like he kinda knows now. its kinda good he is sad about it, i guess. I hope i helped.
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I can't believe you let him get away with not reciprocating with oral! If a woman wants oral, a good man will take care of her or someone else will. How about this - you get yours and then and only then does he get his. Give it a try and maybe he'll start listening/respecting you more. It's time to put your foot down!
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Yeah you definitely should be getting for things that you want, such as the oral. Its not fair otherwise, even though I don't understand why you requested a condom for it that one time.
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I read her post that the condom was for anal, not for oral. It's always smart to use a condom for anal.