Hello all, am new to here so I thought I might ask a question I have and hope for the best. I had something happen to me last weekend and have no clue what to do really.I know this guy through a friend, and I allowed him to come back to my place after a night at the clubs. We had sex and then again after cuddling for a bit, and then a third time in the morning before he left. Now it gets a bit weird, when I went to empty my garbage so if anyone looked in they wouldnt see any evidence, I found 3 wrappers but only can find 2 condoms. I know 100% for sure the first time we used a condom as I got it from my bedside table drawer and saw him put it on. The second and third time he got it and cant actually remember him putting one on. I was laying down I think when he did but he was also putting lube on so I don't know if he did something. Would I be able to tell if he didn't use one, I have never done it without one before? It all kinda felt the same and like I said we used lube so I dont know if that would make a difference. Worst part I guess is if he came in me I guess. I am on the pill but he stayed inside me all 3 times and again didnt feel any more wet down below after or at least enough to be wondering anything. I have looked all around for this 3rd condom, on the floor, under bed, in the sheets and nothing. I was supposed to get together with him this long weekend but now I am freaked out a bit. What do I even say to him?
-
Was condom used or not?
-
Welcome to A2A, ranchgirl!For a third time there wouldn't be much ejaculate, and you probably wouldn't be able to tell whether he used one or not. It's likely that he did if he went to the trouble of opening the packet; the danger is if it came off inside you. If that happened, though, you probably would have noticed by now (but check with a finger just to make sure).Most likely he just disposed of it somewhere else. But ask him.
-
If you were comfortable enough with him to have sex with him, you should be comfortable enough to talk to him. Simply explain that you were trying to clean up "the evidence" and could only find two condoms and you wondered what he did with the third.
-
All you can do is ask. Does he know your own the pill. If he didn't know that I doubt he would want to risk having a kid any more than you.
-
I have to agree with everyone else, all you can really do is ask. As someone else also said, if you were comfortable enough to have sex with this person then you should feel comfortable enough to ask what happened to the third condom and/or if he used one.
-
ok thanks a lot.