Can you get HIV by sharing a sex toy or getting a used sex toy?

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I hope you can help me.
I ordered a sex toy online from a huge online store.

When I got the package and opened it I looked at the toy and how it
was wrapped up and what directly bothered me was that the plastic case it was in was not sealed it could simply be opened and closed without breaking anything!
There was a small "pass" sticker on it but the sticker was also already coming off!
And on the back it also had a sticker with a verification number to check if it was "legit" or not.
All this stuff totally scared me. I looked closely at the toy and I also noticed that there was quite a lot of dust on it. I couldn't tell if the dust was only outside on the plastic or also inside.

Basically I didn't dare to use the toy. I now don't know what to do with it.

I mean if the toy really wasn't new and had been used by another person and this person has STDs or aids then could you get it by using it?

I mean who wants to insert a sex toy into his body which everybody could have taken out of the case and touched it with his hands or maybe even inserted it in his ass or vagina at home and then refunded it saying it was unused?

I am so frustrated. I am really keen on using that toy and now I don't dare to.
I have a cleaner at home which is for the toilet and which kills viruses, also HIV. Will such a cleaner kill
HIV on any surface no matter if stone or plastic or something else?

Would you use the toy?

@Liza Welcome to A2A, and my apologies for the tardy response.

You are wise to be concerned about this, but there are ways to protect yourself. First of all, most organisms require certain conditions to survive- things like moisture and the proper temperature. I can't tell you how long anything would last on that toy, and in that package, but there is a limit. In the mean time, the toy can most probably be sterilized after receipt with either alcohol or a bleach solution (wear rubber gloves and be careful using bleach). Be sure to then wash the toy with soap and warm water after disinfecting.

Sharing a toy is not a good idea, but can be made safer by using a new condom each time the toy changes users or moves from one area of the body to another. Even if you are the only one using the toy, you might consider using a condom with it as an extra layer of protection.

The risk of sharing sex toys (e.g. dildos, butt plugs and other objects meant to be inserted into the rectum and/or vagina) varies according to whether they are covered with condoms, and whether they are properly cleaned (i.e., disinfected) between use with different partners. Sex toys come into direct contact with rectal and/or vaginal mucosal membranes, which can both transmit HIV and are susceptible to infection. Shared an uncleaned dildo or other toy can transfer infectious fluids from an HIV-positive person to an uninfected person, and poses a high transmission risk.

If sex toys are used with new, clean condoms for each partner, or are properly cleaned (i.e., disinfected) before use by the uninfected partner, they pose a negligible risk of transmission. Note that using the same condom with both partners is effectively the same as not using one at all.

There is zero HIV transmission risk attached to using sex toys if they are not shared. However, sex toys are often used before or after other sexual activities. As with fingering, fisting and other forms of play, any tissue damage or inflammation that results from sex toy use can affect the risk of infection during other activities.