Hello. I noticed that my husband sometimes has white spots and stains inside his boxers when he comes from work (these days we were not intimate). How can I distinguish if these signs are from masturbation or from cheating? Thank you
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White stains on the undies of my husband
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Semen is semen. whether it comes from masturbation or ejaculation. It is impossible to tell which. Are you noticing anything else that would make you think that he is not being faithful to you?
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Well, he started shaving more often and pays more attention to his look. Actually almost nothing changed but even if he is cheating, he is quite intelligent to hide it, in my opinion. The only thing is his underwear which he put into the basket, and I noticed the white stains on it- at the top and at the left side (where usually stays his guy). And also a bit on the backside. In the best case he masturbated and put the undies on maybe touching the backside with dirty fingers...
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@loraoeva you didn't go into very much detail about your husband, like his age, for starters. Does your husband produce a lot of precum? I'm only asking because all men randomly get an erections at all times during the day. Usually its when it's most inconvenient and we all do what we can to conceal them. It just happens to men all the time. Sometimes when I'm in a long meeting at work and I have to pee really bad, I get an erection. who knows why... Just happens. That being said, every timeI get an erection, I produce some precum and it creates a large wet spot in my underwear that will dry and show as a white crusty patch in my underwear. I was accused of masturbating too but I had to show her this was what was happening. I had to prove that I would much rather ship her the dick than sitting on the toilet at work and jack off.. Have a chat with him and ask. him. Don't just assume. Perhaps he isn't sexually active with you because of some stress he is under at work, or school, or even home... If you have caught him busting a nut during the day, then try to explain that you would rather he get intimate with you than feeling like he had to take matters into his own hand to relieve the pressure and stress. Its a touchy subject. handle it in an adult manner. good luck
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@Roc thats why they call it crusty undies.
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@Roc thank you for your response, you have made me more calm. And sorry for my english, it is not my language. he is 38. And I am 25. He doesn't produce a lot of precum usually. He was at the meeting that day, and came home as usual. I am going crazy for this issue.
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@loraoeva why don't you just ask him? Express your concerns with him. If you don't this will continue to drive a wedge between you and him. You have to build a relationship on trust and right now, it sounds like you don't trust him. The longer you wait ti talk to him the more you'll believe he's cheating on you. Tell him you want to have a serious conversation as you have some concerns. Perhaps someone in your past cheated on you and you're seeing the same signs??? Whatever it may be, that is causing your suspicion, you need to discuss them with him and clear up ASAP or it will eventually destroy your relationship.
Honesty and communication and key factors in a healthy relationship.
