I'm really confused...

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Ok I'm new to this place and i enjoy the fact that everyone is very open...so i am now deciding to be very open and tell evry1 something that is a serious situation and i nedd serious advice...please don't reject me.I know this may sound sick and strange but i think that i have fallen in love with my cousin. She is just so amazing. we are really close and very open with each other. i really enjoy spending time with her and find myself becoming closer and closer with her. i have tried many times to tell myself "thats your cousin, its not gonna happen, just move on." only problem is...i cant. i have a very strong emotinal attraction to her as well as physical. please can someone give me advice and help me?

Let me predict how this thread will go...-- Ooooh, that's gross! You'll get her pregnant and have kids with three heads!-- Not true. The possibility of birth defects is only slightly elevated over a random coupling.-- Yeah, and how do you know they're even fertile? What if they use birth control?-- Birth control can fail. I got pregnant 12 times last year, and I took my pills religiously.-- You're sick, man! Do you screw your dog too?Yup, for the third time in a few months, that's pretty much how it will go.

Yup.. Pretty much...

I think Ryan's original post was made in all sincerety, trying to get some help dealing with the socially unacceptable issue of incest. He doesn't indicate whether his cousin is first, second, or ??? Maybe with some more information we could offer him some serious help.

does she like you?

Hi Ryan, and welcome. It's a serious and sensible question. Literature is full of novels with people falling in love with people unacceptable to their society, and struggling with the conflict - and novels like that are written because it does happen and there's no easy answer.The first question is "How does she feel about you?" If she doesn't feel the same then it's unrequited love and it's common, very painful, and hopeless. In time, eventually, you will fall out of love as your brain accepts that it's hopeless.If she does feel the same (the usual situation in the novels, but less common in real life) it will take much longer to fall out of love, but really the only way to make it work would be to leave the US and move to another country where they don't worry about cousins marrying. (I'm assuming she's a first cousin - if she's a more distant cousin there shouldn't be a problem.)

Is it not legal to marry/be with your cousin in the US? I think it's legal in the UK...Just curious.

There's no law against incest in the US, provided both parties are of age.There is a law in most states, and federal, that limits intermarriage to no closer than 2nd cousins in most cases.

So it's not illegal to, say, fuck your own mum? Thats crazy?!!? Or are you just talking about cousins?

You might find the follow article interesting.....http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=124241&page=1I think there is less rejection when the cousin link is further down the chain...like perhaps 3rd or more. I don't know what level your relationship is. I would suggest that you not do anything irrational and allow plenty of time to make sure the relationship is strong before going to any next level.

thanks for that article. it really was interesting. as for the questions from people above she is my first cousin and i have no idea if she feels the same way for me.

personally, i think it's incest if they are related close enough to actually know they are related.

I'd say treat it like any other attraction to a girl. The real problem is how others are going to feel about it. And that's pretty much out of your control.

Then a huge part of the world's population is guilty of incest, because marriage between cousins (including first cousins) is very common.

In the UK (and in the bible if it helps) sex and marriage between cousins is not outlawed. In fact, lots of cousins get married in the UK.

I was in love with my cousin too, once. I thought, I guess I wasnt really, but then I thought I was.

If thats the case then i'd say to op (like someone else upthere^ did) just treat it like you would any other normal girl...I mean she could turn out to be your soulmate..lol

Last time I heard, incest of any sort is not illegal, provided both parties are of age.

Yeah I know this may sound kind of creepy, and yes I've said it before on this site, my grandparents were first cousins. Of course they didn't know they were cousins until after they were married because they had never met before in their lives. I, personaly, really don't agree with cousins dating but that's just me. I say you need to find out where this relationship is going (you should find out if she feels the same about you as you do her). But if she doesn't feel the same, don't push it and just leave it alone because that will only cause you both alot of unwanted grief.

i cant just treat her like any other girl. i cant exactly just go up to my cousin and say "hey u wanna go out sometime?" unless she feels the same shed probably think of me as a freak or somethin. and i cant tell her how i feel for the exact same reason. a lot of u are asking if she feels the same...well heres a question...how do i find that out? i really need some help. was any1 else ever in this situation before please help me!!!