I am 18 and I have fallen in love with this girl. We have been together for a year + now and I asked her to marry me on holiday. She said yes! She means so much to me but I am so scared off losing her! When she is out with her mates I get worried that she is going to find someone else or cheat on me. I don't like her going out with her mates because she might run off with someone else. But she needs to see her friends and I need to leave her to have fun. I am way over protive of her! I am so scared off losing her; as much as she says she loves me I can't get it into my head!! I have tired to take my own life a couple of times when I thought that I was going to lose her because she is out. I just get into a down wood spin and get to proctive because know I can't live without her! Has anyone got any ideas how I can stop getting into this spin, because I am going to lose her because I am far to controlling but if I am not I am so scared I’ll lose her.
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Just from your short post it seems like you are in no shape to get married nor be engaged.
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but we are so good together and I thought it would show to me how much she loves me. I just can't get it into my head that she dosn't want someone else!
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You're 18...still quite young for marriage or engagement. You both need to experience life. I don't think either of you have any idea of what you're getting yourselves into.
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we both know that we want to be together for ever and enjoy life together. I just need to find away of not getting so stressed when she is only having fun! I nerver used to be like it! until I feel in love!
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I still think it was put best in wayne's world:"Garth, marriage is punishment for shoplifting in some countries."
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I don't think this problem will automatically get better as you get older. It certainly has the potential to wreck a marriage, or any relationship. It might be worth getting professional advice on - it might be an anxiety disorder problem, or it might be a self-esteem problem.
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It may seem ironic, but your behavior will definitely drive her away. As Ineligible said, it would be well worth seeking counseling to address the issue. It's good that you realize there's a problem, so you're part way there.
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yeh exactly^^i dont get how people always want to rush things in life in general, whats wrong with taking your time?maybe getting married will make things worse in this sense