Do the sandwich or not?

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I don't know if a lot of people are into anal sex, but it's something I enjoy. One thing I have never done is "sandwich". My boyfriend told me last night that he would like to do that for me sometime.Problem: As much as I would like to do it, I'm not sure how he would handle it after the fact. We are very much in love, but the relationship is in the "honeymoon" stage. I know that when I got involved in a threesome with another woman and an ex, I had a real issue with the woman after that. Call it paranoid or whatever. I just could not trust her after that, and my relationship changed with the man I was with. That's what I'm afraid of. Will my boyfriend have issues after the fact? When you're talking about your fantasies, sometimes I believe they are better left as fantasies.What do you think?

If you are in a good relationship i personally wouldn't do it, for me it would change everything.Saying that i have been the filling in a sandwich, for want of a better word, and it was hot...........but they were just good friends and i wasn't in a relationship at the time, i wouldn't have ever done it had i been with someone, and i seriously coudln't handle seeing him and another woman. Do what you feel comfortable doing, but i think your doubts are valid, and you maybe should keep that fantasy, as just that, a fantasy.

Angel is right. As much as I love the idea of me, my wife and some hot chiseled stud in a pile, there's just to much potential for complications afterwords.

He told me last night he would love to see me fuck somebody. This was after he mentioned the "sandwich" deal. I don't know how open minded he is, but my response was that if he were fucking another girl I would have a problem with it.I explained more to him about my past experiences and how it changed things. I did tell him I probably wouldn't be able to do it, but if we were in a situation, and I was "drunk" enough, then maybe. But no promises.

**hon, you will do what you want, but don't be pressured into doing something cos he thinks you ought to, especially knowing what you know about your past experiences. **

Good advice. Thanks Angel.

So when you say sandwich do you mean...double penetration? Just want to make sure Im getting this right. I dont know if Id be into that myself...I mean having my ball sack rubbing against the shaft or balls of another man...not to mention as we both pump my girlfriend.I mean dont get me wrong, whenever I jerk it or fantasize, I get really turned on by DP or like a big cock tearing a girl apart. But I dont know...I just liek to watch it.On a side note, what do you think that about fetish says about me. I personally dont liek having that fetish its seems like a bad fetish to have. I mean subconsiously do you think I dig what I dig because maybe I wish my cock was bigger or something? I mean Im 6.5 on the dot so thats suppose to be average. So yea I really dont know where this comes from.

Yeah! Sandwich means I am the filling LOL. Your fetish isn't unusual at all if you mean just fucking her hard. When you say ripping her apart, I hope you don't mean literally.

I wouldn't read too much into the size thing.

Well just to put your mind at ease 6.5" is above average. So you're fine.

You know, I thought that was a very good size too. Why do men always worry about that?

Well most guys (Not all) have an obsession with size, most want to be bigger. Worst part is most of the guys that wish to be bigger are already above average themselves. It's not always about they want to be bigger for their GF or BF it's just makes them feel more of a man when it's bigger. Which of course it not the truth, penis size isnt what makes the man.Anyways that's a pretty quick explination lol.

I know its average, like I said I didnt think I worried about it, but maybe subconsiously I did with my sicko fetish

if we were in a situation, and I was "drunk" enoughAlcohol only temporarily erases feelings. Don't you think you might have negative feelings about the whole episode once you've sobered up?(Angel, please don't come down on me for pointing out that alcohol can cause problems in sexual situations.)

He told me last night he would love to see me fuck somebodySounds like he wants to watch from the side, so here's an idea: Video tape yourselves having some wild sex and let him keep the tape: he could watch you being fucked by somebody from the side (granted its him but still...) and there's no complications (just hide the tape REALLY well )

Great idea! Hadn't thought of that one. He would go nuts over that. Thanks! I'll take any and all suggestions which would not compromise my relationship with my bf.

I wouldn't advise it personally. How could it not have a strain on your relationship? I have known people that did this and at the time, they said it didn't affect their relationship, but somehow they all ended up apart in the end. It may not have been a result of the open sexual marriage they had, but it is quite a coincidence, don't you think. For me, I couldn't stand to see the woman I love with all of my being........with another man inside of her. NO WAY!

It's confusing, because I don't really understand how he could put himself through that either. He did admit he's never experienced that before. Can a man, or woman for that matter, shut off all their emotions to engage in a sexual fantasy? I'm not sure.

i dont think so that why these things are so risky relationship wise...

Men are dogs, well not all of them. They don't have as sensitive feelings like us woman do. I think they can shut their feelings on and off easier than we can. My feelings get in the way too much. I don't mean to bash you good guys out there, but some men are just down right insensitive!

Yeah, a lot of men are dogs. I can say though, my bf doesn't come off like a dog. He's just highly sexual. He very much enjoys it like I do. I know I have had sex with men before without the emotional part being dragged into it.