How do i say and do the right thing to a girl ...

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how do i say the right thing to a girl wih out weriding her out? im a 21 year old male i havent been in a relationship of anykind. 2 years a go back i ment this girl at college and i really liked her but i couldnt let her i how trully felt i was too aftired taht i would say the worng thing and i dont know the right time to put a move. ----------------------for many years i was alienated from the other people all throght out my school years. i was not in or accepted in any group resulting in my big lack of social skills and anzity. when i do or if i meet someone else i dont know when it will be. any advice on how to handele it right?thanks

Like unforgetto said, be yourself. If we tell you what to do then she's oing to know its not natural and it's not coming from the heart. We pick up on things like that!

i should just foce something and see what happens?

Well, when talking to other people in general, if you want to hold a lengthy conversation, then Ask about his/her interests. When talking to my friends I always ask the usual "Hi how are you? How was your day? etc" then I ask "Did you win your waterpolo game last night? Did you watch yesterday?"."What did you do this weekend?"When it comes to women (like let's say I want to date her), I like to take a similar approach, I just throw in some flirting. Keep the conversations friendly and alive, but don't go too far or else you might get annoying.

unforgetto got it rightbe a man :Pbut you need to get some experience just talking to people....try holding conversations with strangers, you can start at a store (hopefully a store where you might by something) and talk to the salesperson, like, really converse with them. not just about the products, but more personal things. old, young, men, women, try it.then try some other customers in the store, you already have a mutual bond then try strangersyou'll probably find a pattern with the way people react when you speak to them. then nothing is unpredicable, you don't worry about "what ifs" when you approach a woman, you know how to talk :Pthere's a lot of useful information at http://www.sosuave.com/articles/default.htm but really you need to be able to talk, have confidence etc

Like everyone on here has said be yourself & build up your confidence. My approach was as follows:1) Be yourself2) Be confident. There are plenty of women out there if this one says no.3) Ask about her & show interest. Everybody loves to talk about themselves.Then after you have established ease & openess:4) Flirt. If you don't know how, just tease in a lighthearted but lurid way.Anyway, that always worked for me. Do with it what you will.

I used to have the idea that there was a perfect time for everything and there were the "right" words to say.There aren't. Life is imperfection. No time is perfect, so do it as soon as it's reasonable. There aren't perfect words - what is required is your words. They won't come out well, they'll sound stumbled and foolish, but they always do, and stumbled and foolish words make many great relationships.

thank you any ting that can help if i want to bring it up to the next level?

Lots of talking and (especially) listening first. But remember also that most girls still expect the guy to ask, and to have specific suggestions for things to do together.

yo yo i know this has nothing to do with the topic but how do u add pics to ur thread/post thingy?

Have a look at this thread. You might also find some useful information in this thread too.

how is this questiong irrelvent to this topic? where should i put it then

He's saying that he hijacked your thread to ask a question about putting up an avatar, he knows that he's hijacking, and he doesn't care; he's going to ask the question here.