Shy? why and how did u get over it and how?

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I'm vey shy espesially around girls because i'm chinese and chinese people are butt ugly to put it nicely. are u shy? if so why, and if not anymore how did u get over it??

Didnt you already post a butt ugly chinese thread somewhere else....or is it just that all chinese people think they're but ugly and this is a common problem?

I knew I was right! Hey quit posting this nonsense crap 3 times over just rephrased in different way. Ask your question once and wait for an answer. Gosh you spammer!

chinese people are butt ugly to put it nicelyThis attitude (which I think is totally wrong) is a real problem for you, sex godess. You need to have a more positive view of yourself.

I'm vey shy espesially around girls because i'm chinese and chinese people are butt ugly to put it nicely. are u shy? if so why, and if not anymore how did u get over it?? Well, it doesn't sound like your issue is being shy, it sounds like your issue is confidence. Saying that you are but ugly shows that you have low self-esteem. Get more confidence. Usually when you have confidence it's much easier to talk to women.

I never got over my shyness shrug im not shy online, but in real life i dont talk very much and it takes my a while to warm up to peoplebut it seems like your problem is self confidence, not shyness.

So Java why do you think that is? Do you think its because you worry to much about how to say something in the moment that you become introverted as compared to being online where you can control the pace of conversation and say what you want to say in the most meaningful way. I know thats basically what my problem is....in terms of the shyness factor.

no, ive just always been this way. i like to listen instead of talk in real life. online you can do both

I never got over my shyness Give it another decade and get back to us. This is a personality characteristic that tends to evolve.It just goes to show you, InSearch's idea about online personality being the same as real life personality is w-r-o-n-g.

When you say evolve...Im confused...in other words you think it evolves into something worse...cause I dont know if I agree with you on that note.

As you get older, you tend to feel more comfortable in your skin, and you care less about what other random people think about you. That enables you to be less inhibited, and to express yourself more freely.Contrast that with an adolescent who's obsesses with what his friends think, and who's obsessed with what name is on the pocket of her jeans, and who's obsessed with any number of superficial and trivial things. Adolescents, at least the American variety, are minless sheep, and that's how the marketers like it. They're playing the kids like violins, and smiling all the way to the bank.All I'm saying is that it ususally gets better as you get older.

I never got over my shyness shrug im not shy online, but in real life i dont talk very much and it takes my a while to warm up to peopleim like that, although i wouldnt describe myself as shy anymore..i used to be awfully shy as a kid but i agree with steava-it kinda evolves, it eventually gets better over time, im still shy in some situations, i find it so annoying, with people i know, its no problem but with new people or big groups im more quiet, even though i am quiet/shy or whatever i would still say that im quite self confident, im defantley not the stereotypical timid, scared shy person at all

SG, your in need of some racial pride.

"Racial pride" is a load of crap. The nazis had it wrong. He needs to have pride in himself as a human being.

I really can't understand why people are getting depressed, because they feel ugly. First of all they lose their self-esteem and then they are getting shy and they're afraid just to talk! Beauty isn't the only virtue nor the most important one in this world.Every person is quite the same in this world. Somewhere we lack, and somewhere we surpass.If you really feel shy and you cannot talk with other girls because you think that you're ugly, you made just a big mistake! You need to be smart in discussions and not pretty :PBtw, chinese girls aren't ugly at all! I think they're very cute... You know, someone's preferences may vary and beauty is something soo undefined!

other girlsHe's not a girl. His sister signed up the account for him. She must have a sense of humor.

LOL none the less his points are good ones hehe

oops! I'm sorry for this small mistake!Anyway, thank you Gundam for your kind words!(BTW, Gundam W is the best part of these series)

hmmm for osme reason, i am perfectly comfortable with talking to strangers, but once i get to know them it's like i choke up every time, and this is talking to the opposite sex....it may be i have grown ffeelings for them after a while so its harder to talk clearly but wut u guys/girls think? and no offense SteveA- ur either really wise and giving hard advice or ur being a beotch ....acually ...do take offense to that