No, it's not for valentine's day. I need you to answer this quick! Like flash gordon quick! Quick!! Well no take your time just not that slow.I went from depressed to super hyper. Ok I have a love question... brace yourselves lol. Shouldn't you love someone for who they are? Not what they look like? If you like them for the way they look then that's just liking right? Not really love... But like what if that "person" gets you to the point where you can't talk and all that comes out is air? Is that love at first sight or something? I'm not cupid so I don't know... ok that was more than one question. Just let me know what you think before I fall apart. Thanks.
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The LoVe question OoOoOo
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Okay, slow down Princess. Personally, I don't think it's possible to love someone because of what they look like. And that hinges on the definition of love. Love is not the shallow thing it's made out to be in pop culture. It's deep and significant and it doesn't happen immediately but I believe is developed through attention and time and commitment. You can dig a person or have a crush on them or get all hot and bothered by how they look. But love them? Nah.For the same reason, I'm not so sure I believe in love at first sight. I do, however, believe in intense attraction at first sight. If you hear a happily married couple say "it was love at first sight", I believe they are saying that there was intense attraction - or chemistry,if you will - at first sight, and that grew into a lasting love.Do you have news for us? Is love in the air?
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Ugh... I forgot about that word, "crush". I guess that's it. I don't know what happened. I had to go this meeting today for my abroad trip to Japan. I was sitting at this table with my friend and two other guys. Of course they're all juniors and I'm the... freshman :frowning:. But one of the guys there he was just so incredibly... hott. I didn't realize I was staring at him until my friend woke me out the trance. It's not my fault it's his. Should have warned me first. But I guess it is just a crush. He's nice though. But he's one of those "I hate the world and all who inhabit it" type of people. But, I don't know. Maybe somethings wrong with me. Too much chocolate perhaps? But I feel really bad because I already have someone, nasty gurl. Ughhhh... no it's definately not love. pfft. But I'm dumbstruck, which is by the way unusual because I talk too much, you should know by now. But now I can't work. I had to give him my contact info for the thingy mabobber and I was just talking to him so now I'm in the Ice Age. I don't know. Maybe I should just ignore him.
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There is no love at first sight, only lust.But hey, I myself am a huge fan of lust!There is nothing wrong with thinking someone is hot even though you have someone already. Your dating someone your not dead.Im nearly married and I still find other girls attractive, I simply don't act on it.
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Yeah it's just annoying. I need to get him out of my head. I just wrote his name 3 times in my homework without thinking... crazy! How do you deal with it though? I mean how do you ignore it if the person talks to you and things like that and you try to shoo them away? Wear sunglasses? sarcasm...
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I ALWAYS wear sunglasses! never leave the house with out them and i keep 2 extra pairs in the car! and I have uhhh some where around 100 pairs in my closet, they take up an entire shelf plus about a third of my dressor!Honestly though I dont think its hard to deal with. I love the girl Im engaged to. I whored around for a few years and slept with every girl that let me that met my standsards of any given night. I came to realize that sex is just sex and in the end its all the same result, an orgasm. fThe girl I have now is the closest thing to a mother my kids ever had, she takes care of them and of me and actually cares about what happens to us vs just what happens to her and what I can do for her. Shes smart and funny and we have alot in common. her son has become our son and we have never had a real fight, some arguments over things but never anything serious. I don't let other girls tat I think are hot get to me because I refuse to risk what I have jsut to get laid, I get that at home I don't need any extra on the side to keep me happy.Maybe your so hung up on this guy because your nt 100% happy with what you do have?I talk to other girls, hell she even knows it and 2 of them Ivknown for years I go out with on occasion sometimes with my girl with me and sometimes with out her. We trust each other she doesnt worry about it she knows i wouldnt do anything to lose her.Your still pretty much a kid, relax, just because you started dating some guy doesnt mean you cant change your mind if your not getting what you need from him. Maybe you are jsut not satisfied and are looking for something else? maybe you just tired of him, people od get bored with people, especially when your younger.Its the fact that I tried the rest, and Im happy with the one I have, this is the one I love and want to be with, thats how I deal with the other ones I think are attractive.make any sense? I mean does it help at all? Or atleast give ya something to think about. Im not saying dump your man and go for this one, Im just saying that if your that hung up on another maybe theres a reason....
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In my personal opinion, i feel that looks are what attract you to someone. If you are walkin down the street and see someone attractive you may want to get to know them and go out. I dont believe its the looks that make you fall in love with them. Love is avery hard thing to define, its a very individualistic thing. Personally, i think you have to love their personality, their brain, their heart. You have to love everything about them regardless if its good or bad. You want to be there for them through thick and thin. I think that is a good sign that you love a person. Despite what everyone says, i think looks matter, but of course like i said its too an extent. in your case it think you may just lust him. if you fall for someone because of looks i think its lust. But that is what makes things so difficult, deciding if its love or lust
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Hehee! In my personal opinion, I sense that you have a small "crush" on him. You cam't get him out of you head, you were starring at him I'm sure that if he tries to talk to you, you'll immediately feel awkward. these can be "crush" signs :PBut, having a "crush" isn't that important. If you feel good with your relationship, do not bother with it at all. You haven't done anything wrong and having a relationship doesn't mean that you can't find other guys hot :P. These feelings can be annoying, but I don't believe they will ever affect your relationship with your bf.Of course, you cannot just ignore him. Try being typical with him, always smile and concentrate on this amazing travel you're planning :P