Is it a right decision?help

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i have known a guy since a whole year, we love each other so so so much. the problem always was that he didnt like that i'm a bit short (156 cm),& my body isnt that fit ,i'm brown eyed & hair,i'm not fair colored..& he always told me he liked tall blonde girls wz nice body & small pussy... he used to joke about me alot about how im ugly comparing to all girls he once knew, but i swear im not ugly, i'm good looking plus i'm kind hearted & he will never find a girl that loves him as much as i do.. yesterday , his brother who has lots of fights wz me, told him he thinks i'm an insect in beauty ,means im not beautiful at all,he told me my brother is right , u r ugly,& he laughed about it. so i couldnt stand it anymore, i had a fight then he told me i dnt wana c ur face ever again. well the reason i made it a fight last night wasnt coz of his brother's word, it's coz i think i'll be misirable if we continued, i cry every night since i knew him when he jokes about my shape,i cant continue like this,& if we married he'll look at women he likes & comeback home to find the woman he dsnt like, it won't be a good life even if we love each other for other causes like kindness & respect. he thinks it dsnt matter that i'm ugly in his eyes, but i see it a big prob which can destroy a marriage, so i made him leave. now i cry all the time , was i wrong or was i right to end it ? i dont know ,please tell me

ok, im a bit confused by your post, your BF thinks your fat and ugly and laugh about it with his brother and put you down, or, his brother is the one thats putting you down and laughing at you??????

Oh sweety you were undoubtadly right to end it. I find his behavior shocking, I really do. You will be so much better without him. The way he talked to you disgusts me. He is a terrible person and not someone you should have anything to do with.

I doubt the guy loved you, like you said. If he did he has serious self-esteem issues if he needs to put his girl down. Doesnt mean your ugly. You say your not ugly, good, then he has the problem, not you. You talk about kindness and repsect but he does not respect you, and those things he said are not kind. He is a bully.

To hell with him and his brother.

it's him who laughs about me , & dsnt do anything to his brother who laughs about me wz him too , u got wat im in now? :frowning: :frowning: :frowning: :frowning:

you had an asshole for a boyfriend, you should never EVER be with anyone what makes you feel bad about yourself.

thats what i thought, but i wanted to be sure before i replied!Firstly you BF does not love you, no one who loves another person treats them like he treats you. If you love someone you love them for who and what they are, you don't call them names and make them feel useless and crappy like he has been doing to you.You were totally right to get rid of him, no one should treat anyone the way he treated you, or allow anyone else to! You are SO much better than both those pricks hon, honestly, you do not need people like that in your life.Don't let what they said get you down, don't sink to their level and beleive the bullshit they said about you. Rise to a higher level and beleive in yourself, you sound like a lovely person hon, dont' put up with people making you feel like shit!

thank u angelwitch :smile: he told me he cant live wzout me, so i stayed for a while, but i didnt stand that his bad behaviour moments are so much more than his good ones, i think he's gona find now a person who he likes more , then his good behaviour will be much prominant with her, don't u think?

Actualy darling I reckon he will be just as much a bully to his next girl. Its nothing to do with you, ya see, its him. His need to bully probably stems from a need to control...in itself the desire to have control is natural, but a combination of ignorance and low self-esteem have led him to use bullying as a way to get it. Much like my dad was to my mum. He simply lacks any other method of asserting his manlihood. He is an idiot.

Well, you did the right thing. Your ex didn't stand as a true partner and he tried to fullfil his lack of self-esteem by using you. So, he's mainly a coward.

On the other side, you could react in a different way, so you wouldn't be hurted by them (your ex and his brother). I understand that you're really a sensitive person, but you should reply to their nonsense. If you're imperfect (as everything in this world), your ex and his brother have also some flaws, too (and major ones apparently).

And generally, you shouldn't even listen to people, who they only ittend to harm and irritate you. Instead of being hurt and wondering if you're beautiful or not, you should forward their words straight into trash can and laugh with their stupidity and lack of self-esteem.

One last thing. If you're young (below 21) you shouldn't think about marriage. You need to grow up a little bit more and you have to be more mature, since this is really serious...

But plz don't worry and be happy! I'm sure you'll find a better boyfriend in the near future :smile:

i'm dat asshoel u r talking abt okkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk i'm not her ex we'r still gf & bf cause we love each other the prob is i'm 1.80 m & she 1.56 m & i feel embarassed when smn jokes abt us dat's the serious dilemma i think we need both a serious solution

If you do really love her, you wouldn't care of other people say and stand up for her. That's what you should do, and not put her down.

i'm dat asshoel u r talking abt okkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk i'm not her ex we'r still gf & bf cause we love each other the prob is i'm 1.80 m & she 1.56 m & i feel embarassed when smn jokes abt us dat's the serious dilemma i think we need both a serious solution OooOoOo we're all scared now rolls eyesyou CANT love her if you are embarrassed by her, or talk to her the way you do, thats total bullshit! If you love someone you love them for WHO they are not waht they look like, i would like to see a pic of you, i bet you're no stunner either! Other people say something about her, and you get embarrassed? I can say that if someone said anything about me, my man would be in their faces, and he is a VERY big lad..........he would have them apologise to me, or he would probably hit them! (not condoning violence i just know what hes like) because he loves me to bit and would never let anyone else say anything horrible to me.You need to step up and get a back bone sunshine, your GF ought to leave you alone, in my opinion you arn't worth it, however if you two do love eachother then you need to start and treat her right, stand up for her, and tell your brother to shut the fuck up when he starts on her, not join in!

i'm over flattered by wat u said guys, thank u. please please give him a small idea about how should he treat a womaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan ,not any woman, a woman that would make anything to make him happy even if she left to let him find a proper person which he likes.

Hon, I really don't agree with the way you think, i have to say. Personally i want someone to love ME, not love the fact that I want to do anything in the world to make them happy, do you know what i mean.You have to be able to feel comfortable in yourself, you have to be comfortable in your relationship, you need to be secure in the fact that if you are annoyed with him, that hey you can argue etc and things will go back to normal, and that he won't start throwing insults or laughing about you with other people. and im sorry to say that it doesn't sound like it at the mo.You shouldn't be flattered about what we have said, all we have said is that he should have basic respect for someone who apparently loves..........and the fact you are flattered hints to me that you lack self esteem, and that in itself is not a good thing, add to that you BF lack of being a decent person and treating people properly and i can't ever see how a relationship can work.A relationship is a partnership, an equal thing, not someone staying with someone cos they feel like they can't do any better, or with someone cos they can say and treat the other person how they want and that other person will still do anything for them..........thats not equal and its not right!I don't know what you expect us, to say to your BF, he knows right from wrong doesn't he?

why not u in hell u know nth so how can u talk dat way if u r complicated from ur dad well i'm nt like ur dad buddy & u've to know smth we'r from different cultures & i used to hate her culture i made a lot of sacrifices to be with her & i can't stand the idea she's not respecting my culture & my principles ok put it in ur small mind be4 judging ppl

Oh god could you type that normally, it gave me a headache just trying to read it.

wow... personally I didn't even make any sense to me lol...

in my opinion our relation is healthy we fight a lot & come back to each other maybe i'm over agressiv when i'm angry i work in a call center & my work makes me a bit nervous so smt she's deceiving me by her behavior anyway we left each other for several tumes & we come back each time i can say dat my anger disappear quickly

Where do these kids learn to type, is what I wonder.

how healthy your relationship is - is your opinion, my opinion is it doesn't sound healthy to me, but hey there we go.If you have anger issues and this is a factor in your relationship and how you treat her, then you need to get a grip on yourself, either seek help and advice on how to control or minimise your stress and anger, or learn to take yourself away from it, there is no excuse for how you seem to be treating her.

In reply to: we'r from different cultures & i used to hate her culture Your Morrocon right? Of the Arab variety? So is she Berber or something?So like your culture doenst like punctuation and spelling aye? No wonder your in the third world.You say I know nothing. Well I know what your "girlfreind" told me and it sounds like she's better without you. If its because of your culture then, well, she's better with whoever is her culture. Though I'm sure there are people in your culture who actualy know how to behave like a man and will treat her right.