This happened three years ago and some people still wont shut up about it what had happened was, I went to the community pool around 11pm and this guy Aaron was there (pleez dont get offended) and he is openley gay and it was me him and one of his friends. Soo everyone knew he was gay soo most of the kids my age (mostly guys) didnt like him but i never thought twice about i wasnt his freind but that was because he just wasnt the type of person i hung out with at the time. Anyways for those of you who have skinny dipped it just feels good so his friend and him were so i decided to it wasnt like he was gonna rape me. And we just talked for about three hours and then i left nothing more nothing less. Some kids at my school found out and wouldnt you know the rumors began to FLY and i got in more than one fight because of it. Today a group of ignorant kids started talking shit about that very incedent. Sorry I just needed a way to vent. Anyway does anyone here think it soo wrong what i did cuz i see nuthing wrong with it?
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Im Mad
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I can tell you what was wrong with it.WHat you did wrong was making the mistake to think that other people were mature enough to not read shit into it and mature neough to not see how far they could push you over it.Fuck em !Bigoted small minded assholes. a public pool though?always a bad idea to do that in a public pool.
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Well I agree one thing you did bad was skinny dip in a community pool.. just plan wrong imo.
Secondly people love to spread rumors. You can either ignore than and be man enough to remina friends with this kid or be a coward and be scared of a stupid rumor. It's really your choice.
Never let other people decide who you are friends with, be your own person.
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I hate to say this, but it really is about counting the cost before you do something. You have to know that, especially for teenagers (although with me it was in college), you become "guilty by association". You associate yourself with someone who's gay, you're considered gay. Even more so if you do something borderline sexual like skinny dipping. I'm not saying what you did was wrong at all (other than the whole public pool thing), but when you do something like that, the sad fact is that people are gonna say those things. It sucks. It's wrong. But that's the way it is. I had a best friend/roommate in college who I though was as straight as an arrow. Turns out, he was gay. The way I found out wasn't fun. Nope, not fun at all. But I decided to remain friends with him and try to support him through what was a very difficult time for him. Fact is, it blew up in my face. I graduated right after that, but I found out the next year that he dragged my name through the mud. And people were willing to believe it because I was his friend and roommate. So I got burned. That, along with another earlier incident, really made me cautious around gay men. Fearful even. That has started to change just a tiny bit as I have met a few gay men who had incredible positive impact on my life.
All that rambling is to say...I understand. It sucks. But you have to count the cost and ask yourself what you're willing to potentially put up with in order to do what you have the right to choose to do.
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It wasnt really a public pool it was the neighborhood pool and it was after hours and was closed i had to jump the gate
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Makes me so mad to hear what these other guys did to you Damien, just gives us other gay men such a bad name. When I hear things like that just gives me another reason I wish I wasn't associated in the same "group". But at least you are smart enough to know that not all gay men are that way.And tot he original poster, the main point isn't about the public pool. My opinion and thoughts on that matter are still the same and I will repeat them:Secondly people love to spread rumors. You can either ignore them and be man enough to remain friends with this kid or be a coward and be scared of a stupid rumor. It's really your choice.Never let other people decide whom you are friends with, be your own person.
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"You become "guilty by association". You associate yourself with someone who's gay, you're considered gay. "Too bad it didn't work the other way... This world would be a much better place for all GLBT people if it did….. Not all gay people are mean and vicious. That mostly happens when gay guys are teens or becoming young adults. It’s their way of trying to get the needed attention and affection they want because they know their different and society doesn’t allow them to be who they are without dealing with the ramifications caused by them being honest and open about being gay…It’s a very socially repressed and emotionally depressing lifestyle.
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Well, we also had some gay men in school. Even if their behaviour sometimes was really extreme and everyone was a bit afraid of them, it wasn't a big deal and they had good social relationships with many schoolmates.Anyway, you should laugh with labels that others put you. Have faith in yourself and if this guy is a good friend you should support him.Finally, you should know that many many people love spreading gossips and rumours, even if everyone know these aren't true.
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Yeah.. I couldn't wait to be out of highschool.. Its like the drama just left!!
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Its kind of different in my school. We have a couple gay guys that are open, i ''know'' who two of them are(and what i mean by know is i see how they act) and one of them is very friendly and you wouldnt think he was gay if you didnt hear it from his mouth. The other acts like the stertypical ''gay'' man. And no one really makes fun of them, its kind of werid because its a small town.
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Well i was never friends with him but we talked once in a while and still do and the rumores dont bother but that fact that some people are soo ignorant and childish