Complex Situation

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well relax you are eating with the family of someone you are claiming to love. Then it will be okay.

well see thats where it can get bad, because theres the pressure of failing in the eyes of her parents and losing her

Well do not think of it that way. Gotta be more confident around the rents...they smell fear.

ya i know but everything that can go wrong goes into my head

well you have to block that out and just do it.

i know for her sake more than mine but the idea that we would be discussing possibly accidentally impregnating her daughter just builds to the future tension

no no no no...

You have to realize that you are not going to talk to sex to her parents. And I would avoid it personally until you two have actually dated in person more than a few times...You are quite focused on the sex issue and the best bet is to avoid it, with the parents and doing it with her. I would focus on building an actual relationship and meeting the parents and building a relationship with them as well. If you want sex from her tell her and do it...I am saying that avoid sex b/c honestly you may claim all these things, but there are more primitive actions that occur when you meet a woman in person.

well ya i know but thats more her (the sex bit) i would have no problem waiting a bit i probably will suggest it to her but if that does work out id rather they know so it would be more comfortable to her and i wouldnt have to worry about her dad coming at me with various weapons

Well do not bring it up when you first meet, that is not using common sense...Get to know everyone first then go from there.

well i know but that was on the premise that wed be doing it fairly soon

if you two love each other, than you can wait...b/c it is all about compromise...sounds like she is after sex more than a relationship.

well no its a fair balance atleast seems that way im sure shed be ok if i told her i wanted to wait til the relationship was more stable , i mean shes not demanding it or anything she just said itd be fine,the other day i asked her what shed do if i told her i wanted to wait a month or so

The wait...for that is what will make you two stronger...I mean do not be dumb and do it b/c she wants you to. If you think you should wait then you should sit down with her in person and say I think we should wait until we have a stable relationship. Simple as that.

i know but its not like i dont want it and shes not really pressuring me atleast not to much and i know i can talk to her about it shes not unreasonable, but im just worried we'd cave in and do it unprotected (even though i do intend on bringing condoms) because we are both very sexual

Heavens, Dantek, very few parents want to talk about their daughter having sex. Even if you are shagging like rabbits and they know you are, they will almost certainly want to pretend they don't know. Don't ever bring the subject up unless they bring it up. And don't get her pregnant.

i know not to get her pregnant sheesh but she said her parents have told her that if she starts having sex that she talks to them so they can get birth control and such

I agree, it doest go the same way for guys though!

ya im sure theres lots of wierd side effects if guys were to take birth control pills or patches or something,but yeah i know parents are more protective of their daughters innocence then sons

well wait for the relationship not for the fear of parents....be adult about it.

fear of parents?