Would a real friend do this?

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Okay, so My first best friend.. ever. I've known her since before i could talk.EVerything was perfectly fine up until the summer after 8th grade.This "friend" and all of my other friends had all recently gotten a "myspace" page.Well. this "friend" Had a bunch of drug things on hers, and swear words and REALLY bad stuff, comments from people in Florida. and people who live on the other side of the united states.So, she and my other friend were on vacation in california. And this "friend's" parents check the history on the computer after she left. and found her myspace page.well when they asked her about this when she got home she blamed EVERY SINGLE THING ON ME,she said "oh jazzmin made this" "oh jazzmin did that" "oh jazzmin added that"now her mom HATES me, but her mom even saw my page and mine had NOTHIGN like that. i had my pictures, and my friends, WHO LIVE IN THE SAME CITY.but the other day, this friend and her mom were at our local grocery store, and there were 2 teenage girls smoking outside. and her mom says "i'm surprised thats not jazzmin"OMMGG, wow i have never touched a cigarette in my life!! NEVER COME EVEN CLOSE TO THINKING ABOUT SMOKING, NEVER WILL.and wow.my mom wants to call up her mom and ask her why she keeps saying such horrible things about me?I feel insulted, and ashamed a 48 YR OLD WOMAN is constantly doing stuff like this.

your mom should..this girl isnt ur friend! shes scared of her mommy..

no a real friend wouldnt do that at all a coward would though

she said that she blamed it on my so she wouldn't have to go to counseling.Like that makes any difference.

no real friend would let their mother say that stuff about their "friend"without say something to defend you.your mom really needs to talk to that women!

shes still a coward and not a true friend

Well. I dont want to bitch at her for it, although me 2 BEST friends think she's an idiot for doing it, but we try to ignore it. but still it hasn't even been a year yet. and I hang out with this"friend" at school. but i'm afraid if i have mymom talk to her, she'll make everyone hate me. although not that many people would know MY side of the story, I do have power in our clique, and i dont use it against people, she uses her little bit of power against people.. which sucks.

you may nto want to hear this but hte mother is justified,she believes you are a bad influence on her kid and wants to make sure she stays away from you so you shouldnt hate the mother

It's the girl's fault, I know that. My mother keeps telling me that, but my friend has just begun to stand up for me. Only once, but i don't know how long it will last. I can tell though, in the way every time my friend tells me about her mom and what she does/says that she slightly doesn't care that her mom is saying this, she doesn't care that my feelings might be hurt. Or maybe that i want to tear her apart VERY badly, but I hold my self back. I am good at holding my feelings back, I dont like to get people in trouble, i'm just not that kind of girl. I have been drug free my whole life and plan to stay that way, if there is or was some test that proves if you've come close to drugs or alcohol , I'd take it just to stop this crap from this girl's mother.It's driving my bonkers.

there is a test like that im sure you can get it at the doctors

My brother and her brother graduate on thursday.My mom says if we run into them and she is in a bad enough of a mood she'll be like "Oh hi. do you remember jazzmin my drug addict daughter. my daughter, who does SOO many drugs?":[[I know this woman's opinion does not matter, and the people who know my best know its not true, but its the people who do not know me well enough that matter.When ever this girl has friends over she asks them if they hang out with me, and tells them not to cause i'm a bad kid.this woman is ruining my reputation.

well then you might want to find how to get those tests and show her the results hell make her sit there while you do it and tell her her kid lied,im sorry but unless she knows for a fact her daughter lied than i doubt she'll stop

Most people if they are put under enough stress or pain will say whatever gets them out of it. How much stress is needed varies from person to person, of course.Your friend shouldn't have done it of course and I hope she feels very bad about it. What she should do is tell her mother she lied, but I imagine she is too scared of her mother to do so.

My mom is now saying that if she talks to her, from past experiences she wont stop.or it wont change her views of me, but basically all i want her to know, is that what she's done has put me to sleep crying for a very long time. Making me think everyone is going to end up thinking things that aren't true.

If she is continuing to slander you, perhaps a letter from your family's lawyer?

well i was thinking that to but is it really slander if it doesnt affect work or performance ,though by her descriptions her school work might be hurting

ooo ok i figured it had to hurt your business or occupation for it to be lawsuit worthy

if it affects your social standing, mental wellness, buisness reputation, any of it, you can sue, the bitch is proving that they said what they said, its much easier to prove libel(slander in print)

oo wow didnt know there could be so many reasons

In reply to: If she is continuing to slander you, perhaps a letter from your family's lawyer? My dad is a lawyer.