Today i found out my girl was pregnet. She got pregnet b4 we started goin out. So im not the father. But the father left and shes askin me to take his place. Now im only 15 and so is she. And part of me wants to say ya ill take care of the kid with u. But i havent known her for very long. Can someone please help me out and tell me what to do. And how to stop this GODDAMN SHAKING.
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NEED HELP FAST!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!
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wow,thats rough.well do think think you're ready to take care of a baby?if not,explain that to her,and hope she understands.did she consider putting the baby up for adoption?
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Not sure if im ready. But i guess im gonna find out. No adoption. I dont want that baby growing up like i did. I never new my real father till last year. I never had a Father Figure in my life. And thats the last thing i want to put this baby thro. IDC if its not mine. But i need to think fast. The due date is around july 12.
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Here is my take. You can help her take care of the baby and be a father figure if you like since you are dating but I would not recommend you put your name on the birth certificate. That can lead to a lot of other issues down the road if you and her broke up. Trust me; don't put your name on the birth certificate.
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Ya i here that. Im not gonna put my name on it.
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You guys are practically strangers, and you are way too young to make that kind of commitment. Does she expect you to go out and get a job and support the three of you at 15? What about her parents? What is their involvement? I assume she's still living at home.The girl is panicking, and I don't blame her. But that doesn't mean that either of you should do anything that you both might regret. If you like her then you can date her, and see how it goes. But you need to make it clear to her that you're not ready to sign up for fatherhood.
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in my opinon since u r so young, and u don't know her so well u should advise her to give the baby up for adoption, because if u do take the role of the fatehr figure u will be ruining your life, you probably cant get a good education and a good job since u have to work just to pay the bills while your in highschool, this would be a bad mistake in the long run
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im not that worryed about school. Im homeschooled so thats not a problem. I also have 2 jobs alredy. 1 computer jop (part time when im needed) and i get 25 an hr and another job where i get 400 a week. And im not gonna be able to let her put that baby up for adption. Thats just me i cant let that happen.
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400 a week isnt shit, that wouldnt even cover my bills let alone any of my life. part time on call doesnt mean shit but some extra cash once in a while. and most importantl, fits not your decidion what she does with that baby. With laws being what they are Im not even sure its HER decision at 15 but I do know it damned sure isnt yours. Not being the blood father, not being any relation and in a short term relationship, you have no rights what so ever as to what she does with the baby.Adoptions a good way to go, its not giving up a baby so much as it is giving it more since the parents are unable to give it anything. She is going to have to have a chat with her parents, With them, she will have to make a decision and to tell ya the truth, you have very little, if anything at all, to do with it.
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--->"The due date is around july 12."She's 8 months pregnant and you didn't know..... Is she starving herself or what?Before you do anything to rash, such as signing a birth certificate or dropping out of school to get a job and take care of (the soon to be) them consider the fact that, apparently, she wasn't being to honest with you about the situation.
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Yes and i no this. Im not sure about the laws in FL but shes gonna be 16 b4 she has the baby. Shes said that shes not going to put the baby up for adption as well. Also me being on call all toghether i make around $700 a week. I do see what you are sayin but she wants me to be a father to the baby. If her parents dont make her give the baby up. And i dont think they will and it all works out ill be a Step DAd. But as far as bills. Rent is free. all i have to pay for is food and Dipers.
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and youd be giving u your future for a girl that you have no real long term emotional attachemnt to. If I was with the same girls I was wirth even at 18 Id be with some bitch I couldnt stande 20 minutes after I did her. I changed 500% between who I was at 15 and who I am now, I also have step kids, and my own kids and one who is my step and has been raised as my own whos sperm donor (Ill never call that piece of shit his real dad) ran off before he was even born.I had my first son when I was 19. Im speakig from about 20 years more expereince then you have and similar situations.stay with her, be her friend, shit maybe even be her boy firend. BUT do not look at it as a forever thing. do not start seeing yourself as that babys father. If thats to happen wait till your older, kids put a stop to college, atleast to college at 18 and take alot of time and alot of energy and knowledge that niether of you posess.
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ya know, I missed that part the first time thru, makes me wonder how much if any of this is true because at 8 months if you cant tell shes pregnant you have to be an idiot. 4 months, shit even maybe 6 months you can miss seeing it MAYBE but at 8, if you jsut found out today, youd have to be an idiot or a liar. either way, Im done with this thread,
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You're 15...go back to playing video games. Walk away from the girl. You should have no business with the baby, and any money you make shouldn't go towards the baby. Drop the girl.
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i agree dont do anything that youll regret in the future it was her ex bf's own dumb fault the he got her pregnant and ran off n now your stuck with her n their child. let her deal with her problem and stay out of it. if you stay with her then she's ruining your life as well as her's so yea like said Amanda "drop the girl" and be done with her
