ok...so heres the deal..the long deal...I have been on and off with this guy for 3 years...but he ended things with me this past febuary and I was heartbroken...I lost my virginity to him I mean I loved him with every ounce of my heart we had been though so much together then one day he ends it all. So at first all I did was call him and text him and want to know what went wrong..then I started to back off so that maybe he would realize he made a mistake which worked for a little while but then when he would show me a glimmer of hope I would go back into the "I wanna know where your at?" "Are we getting back together?" and then I would end up callin him and textin him all the time again..and he would go run away and ignore me again. His friends hate me...and that's a big reason why we are not together. He tells me that he can't be with me right now because its too much stress for him to handle with his friends. And im thinking to myself....ok but if you love someone as much as you say you love me you would put all the BS aside and want to work it out. Well it's been up and down ever since then....and we have went from working it out to having it done and over to talking again. and as much as I want it to it's so hard for me to look in the future and see him wanting what we use to have together...I mean it was just 3 days ago he calls me and says hes ready to be with me hes so stupid and I'm all he wants...to bein shady again and hiding from his friends that he sees me and all this shit that just dosen't add up to someone wanting to work it out. I want to walk away but he was my first everything I love him and I always will...Everytime I try to he comes right back at me and says "no please dont leave I still love you." and tells me he wants to be with me...but then it goes right back to his normal ways. He blames it all on me and says im not ready becuase I freak out on him about the things he does or I get mad at him when he dosent ask to me to go out with him or do something with him..I mean am I over reacting? am I expceting too much too fast? I don't know cuse I feel like hes just trying to blame him changing his mind on me..I don't know this whole thing just is so stressfull and It kills me that the guy i love so much won't let me go.....and I can't let him go...but he dosent want to be with me yet..what do I do??? please help...
Is the guy I love worth it?
i know where your comming from, and i know that it feels like he is your everything. your world, you dont know what you'd do without him. and its hard && losing your virginity to him doesnt make it any easier, but truthfully ..... he's not worth it! im so sorry but if he really cared as much as he says he does, he'd say 'screw my friends. i love you. this is about me and you not me and them.' he shouldn't be putting you through so much. and no it's not your fault. Like when you said "I don't know cuse I feel like hes just trying to blame him changing his mind on me" ..... he really is hon. no guy who is gonna hurt you like that is worth your time. he shouldnt just come back when its convenient for him. a relationship is about two people, he doesnt need to just be thinking about himself. but yeah, i'd say break it off, before he breaks your heart again. you can do so much better. good luck.. i really hope i helped!
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I suggest you read and heed no1sexpots current signature.I dont know exactly what it says but something close to dont make someone a priority when they only make you an option.
Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be.
Tell him if he loves you he won't care what his friends think. Tell him if he ditches you for his friends, or ignores you, or does anything negative to you because of them that you will leave him - permanently.If he can't accept this he doesn't love you.
"Believe those who are seeking the truth; doubt those who find it"
well, my first ever heartbreak was a girl that got confused about what she wanted so she walked away from me... that was the teen years.My last heart break was a woman who got confused about what she wanted so she walked away from me... that was my wife.What I learned 20 years ago... when they walk away, you should too. Only a dog goes back to its master after it's been kicked.
and there was light